Transivisisbility is a hard one whether it is in a real public arena or everyday life.
I'm currently in a new situation where literally only one other person that I sees knows for sure and I don't see him very often. Others may or may not have a clue because they have seen my drivers license and my birth name.
In fact someone somewhere addressed the name issue, which has so far been my work experience wherever I go. either the name or pronouns will be off, I don't say anything but somewhere it's corrected. The person I checked in with here was using she and my birth name and the next time I saw her she addressed me as Koop.
With that said it's not this constant "who do I tell" nor "when do I tell" nor "do I tell" but the thoughts do go through my head.
Back in Los Angeles and most of my life I"m openly trans. I don't wave a flag but a lot of people know and it's not something I could hide if I wanted to. So it's weird to be put in a situation where people don't know.
Ulitmately I want to be seen as the man that I am however I'm not sure if I want to be seen as only that. Because I believe my upbringing and history is what has made me the man I am. To hide that, feels in a way like hiding me. I've done enough hiding in my life.
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