Should he have outed himself?

The Oopster · 06-22-2012, 11:17 AM

Transivisisbility is a hard one whether it is in a real public arena or everyday life.

I'm currently in a new situation where literally only one other person that I sees knows for sure and I don't see him very often. Others may or may not have a clue because they have seen my drivers license and my birth name.

In fact someone somewhere addressed the name issue, which has so far been my work experience wherever I go. either the name or pronouns will be off, I don't say anything but somewhere it's corrected. The person I checked in with here was using she and my birth name and the next time I saw her she addressed me as Koop.

With that said it's not this constant "who do I tell" nor "when do I tell" nor "do I tell" but the thoughts do go through my head.

Back in Los Angeles and most of my life I"m openly trans. I don't wave a flag but a lot of people know and it's not something I could hide if I wanted to. So it's weird to be put in a situation where people don't know.

Ulitmately I want to be seen as the man that I am however I'm not sure if I want to be seen as only that. Because I believe my upbringing and history is what has made me the man I am. To hide that, feels in a way like hiding me. I've done enough hiding in my life.

Quintease · 06-23-2012, 04:30 PM

Yay, Luke A is trending on twitter! Benedict got evicted from the house and fingered Luke to win, so now all of Luke's latent fans are popping up. It probably helps that he's a nice guy in a house of posers. This has made me feel better about everything.

Quintease · 06-25-2012, 05:26 PM

Something happened tonight on UK Big Brother which utterly shocked me and the hubby. He got up and walked out of the room. Twitter and Facebook exploded with anger, and the spin off Big Brother show were forced to cut their viewer calls short. A male housemate was utterly disgusting towards a female contestant who had upset him. Luke A wasn't involved.

I'm actually really upset. It reminded me that these are real people really saying these things

Quintease · 07-16-2012, 03:30 PM

Oh no! Luke A is up for eviction!!!

06-23-2012, 04:30 PM	#2
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	Yay, Luke A is trending on twitter! Benedict got evicted from the house and fingered Luke to win, so now all of Luke's latent fans are popping up. It probably helps that he's a nice guy in a house of posers. This has made me feel better about everything. __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

06-25-2012, 05:26 PM	#3
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	Something happened tonight on UK Big Brother which utterly shocked me and the hubby. He got up and walked out of the room. Twitter and Facebook exploded with anger, and the spin off Big Brother show were forced to cut their viewer calls short. A male housemate was utterly disgusting towards a female contestant who had upset him. Luke A wasn't involved. I'm actually really upset. It reminded me that these are real people really saying these things __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

07-16-2012, 03:30 PM	#4
Quintease Member How Do You Identify?: Rainbow femme Preferred Pronoun?: princess Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 514 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 508 Thanked 1,817 Times in 417 Posts Rep Power: 10560327	Oh no! Luke A is up for eviction!!! __________________ It is not worth an intelligent person's time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.

06-22-2012, 11:17 AM	#1
The Oopster Senior Member How Do You Identify?: transgender male Preferred Pronoun?: he Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: carson city nv Posts: 1,987 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 303 Thanked 2,654 Times in 759 Posts Rep Power: 20061509	Transivisisbility is a hard one whether it is in a real public arena or everyday life. I'm currently in a new situation where literally only one other person that I sees knows for sure and I don't see him very often. Others may or may not have a clue because they have seen my drivers license and my birth name. In fact someone somewhere addressed the name issue, which has so far been my work experience wherever I go. either the name or pronouns will be off, I don't say anything but somewhere it's corrected. The person I checked in with here was using she and my birth name and the next time I saw her she addressed me as Koop. With that said it's not this constant "who do I tell" nor "when do I tell" nor "do I tell" but the thoughts do go through my head. Back in Los Angeles and most of my life I"m openly trans. I don't wave a flag but a lot of people know and it's not something I could hide if I wanted to. So it's weird to be put in a situation where people don't know. Ulitmately I want to be seen as the man that I am however I'm not sure if I want to be seen as only that. Because I believe my upbringing and history is what has made me the man I am. To hide that, feels in a way like hiding me. I've done enough hiding in my life.