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WolfyOne · 08-27-2012, 01:38 PM

I haven't posted in here in quite some time, but like others, a few posts caught my eye.

I once thought in my younger years that I could rewire myself to date more than one woman, so I tried and dated two. I failed miserably at it and wouldn't want to try again. I think those that can do it, good for them. I'm at an age where I would just like to settle down and live happily ever after.

After letting myself heal and cleaning out cobwebs these last few years, I almost deem myself relationship ready. The only thing holding me back at this point is finances and my rescues. Someone would have to be able to accept the fact that if I never find forever homes for some of these rescues, they'll stay with me. Also, it bothers me that since I left Chicago over 6 years ago, I can't seem to find FT work and struggle. I never want someone else to pay my way. Work defines a big part of who I am. Being a Sag, I spent my life restless, but as I get older, I realize I just want to make one last move and settle in there. Anyhow, I often wonder if once you've found that BIG love in your life and screwed it up, will I be able to love like that again. Keep in mind, for me, there is a difference between being in love and loving someone enough to live comfy with them. I do know I am taking my time getting to know whomever enters my life this next time around and have no idea if I'd even want to live in the same house as another or better off living alone and each having our own space when needed. So much to think about, but I suppose I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

Anyone else have thoughts on dating and/or relationships as we get older and more comfy living alone, but miss the company of a partner?

08-27-2012, 01:38 PM	#2954
WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,392 Times in 4,138 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I haven't posted in here in quite some time, but like others, a few posts caught my eye. I once thought in my younger years that I could rewire myself to date more than one woman, so I tried and dated two. I failed miserably at it and wouldn't want to try again. I think those that can do it, good for them. I'm at an age where I would just like to settle down and live happily ever after. After letting myself heal and cleaning out cobwebs these last few years, I almost deem myself relationship ready. The only thing holding me back at this point is finances and my rescues. Someone would have to be able to accept the fact that if I never find forever homes for some of these rescues, they'll stay with me. Also, it bothers me that since I left Chicago over 6 years ago, I can't seem to find FT work and struggle. I never want someone else to pay my way. Work defines a big part of who I am. Being a Sag, I spent my life restless, but as I get older, I realize I just want to make one last move and settle in there. Anyhow, I often wonder if once you've found that BIG love in your life and screwed it up, will I be able to love like that again. Keep in mind, for me, there is a difference between being in love and loving someone enough to live comfy with them. I do know I am taking my time getting to know whomever enters my life this next time around and have no idea if I'd even want to live in the same house as another or better off living alone and each having our own space when needed. So much to think about, but I suppose I'll cross that bridge when I get there. Anyone else have thoughts on dating and/or relationships as we get older and more comfy living alone, but miss the company of a partner? __________________ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo