The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

WolfyOne · 08-27-2012, 01:38 PM

I haven't posted in here in quite some time, but like others, a few posts caught my eye.

I once thought in my younger years that I could rewire myself to date more than one woman, so I tried and dated two. I failed miserably at it and wouldn't want to try again. I think those that can do it, good for them. I'm at an age where I would just like to settle down and live happily ever after.

After letting myself heal and cleaning out cobwebs these last few years, I almost deem myself relationship ready. The only thing holding me back at this point is finances and my rescues. Someone would have to be able to accept the fact that if I never find forever homes for some of these rescues, they'll stay with me. Also, it bothers me that since I left Chicago over 6 years ago, I can't seem to find FT work and struggle. I never want someone else to pay my way. Work defines a big part of who I am. Being a Sag, I spent my life restless, but as I get older, I realize I just want to make one last move and settle in there. Anyhow, I often wonder if once you've found that BIG love in your life and screwed it up, will I be able to love like that again. Keep in mind, for me, there is a difference between being in love and loving someone enough to live comfy with them. I do know I am taking my time getting to know whomever enters my life this next time around and have no idea if I'd even want to live in the same house as another or better off living alone and each having our own space when needed. So much to think about, but I suppose I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

Anyone else have thoughts on dating and/or relationships as we get older and more comfy living alone, but miss the company of a partner?

laruss · 08-27-2012, 02:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WolfyOne

Anyone else have thoughts on dating and/or relationships as we get older and more comfy living alone, but miss the company of a partner?

I spent many years doing what was best for my kids, my family, staying in relationships I shouldn't have and putting others needs before my own. And then I met someone who made me look at things differently. I wasn't completely true to myself, but was learning how to be. They taught me how to be, both with their life and their death.

I was widowed 2 years ago and spent the first year grieving and the next year really being happy about being single. I only started dating again this Summer. I am perfectly happy being single as long as I am not celibate and I don't need a relationship to take care of that so I was very happy in my single life.

However, recently that changed and I am beginning to think that being with another person who has the same life goals, who has the same desires who is connected to me in ways I didn't think were possible is something that I desire. Something that I believe is possible.

So, yes as I get older I am very comfortable alone, but I look forward to a life with the partner that I deserve.

morningstar55 · 08-27-2012, 08:33 PM

Evening loft dwellers n peekers
Am all tucked in my sleepr bunk I need a bedtime story ....

Sweet_Amor_Taino · 08-27-2012, 10:11 PM

I have been single for the past 4 years . I met a few ladies whom I share time with but nothing develop, I am alone but not lonely.

I often image how sweet it would be to enjoy my life with a partner. I recently reconnected with a lady whom I have a strong affection for and as we all dream, I dream it is what we both hope for.

As I get older I appreciate the simple things life more but it would be even nicer to share it with a special lady.

iamkeri1 · 08-28-2012, 02:21 AM

That sounds wonderful Taino,
My best wishes for you and your lady, and your wished-for future together.
Smooches,
Keri

morningstar55 · 08-28-2012, 03:44 PM

Yay .... leaving TN....headng to ... east liberty, ohiya.....

morningstar55 · 08-28-2012, 04:09 PM

Ty electrocell 4 , letting me park at the Goode ranch.

morningstar55 · 08-28-2012, 06:31 PM

Arrived a shipper .... waiting to get truck loaded.
grabbed a small Hawaiin blizzard....

Looks like am gonna b driving late, ....sigh... am not a night owl... hopefully will find someone to chat with via cell . .. help me stay awake.

Ty electrocell...
Ty for the repps everyone...

morningstar55 · 08-28-2012, 07:24 PM

Sometimes I should not b allowed to listen to CW music....
makes me think to much.... then I get weepy moment's .

In other news .... pix in da gallery

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morningstar55 · 08-29-2012, 03:49 PM

has anyone seen this in the news???
http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=5548

WolfyOne · 08-29-2012, 04:37 PM

FYI all, MS makes really good guacamole
This I remember from a party we both attended some years back
So, if she's ever traveling into your neck of the woods, invite her over asap

morningstar55 · 09-02-2012, 05:57 AM

Morning loft dwellers n peekers
Hope you all r having a great weekend....
I have to drive ... all the way to Memphis area.....

Funny thing , I might not make it home to get some items, before its time make my way to little rock.. so electrocell suggestd just to wear some jeans to the event's

Ahhh ...... I dont think so.
May hit a mall or 2 in my travels... ha

Time roll here.

morningstar55 · 08-28-2012, 08:16 AM

been going over the postings on the age and relationships topic...
im 57....
eveyone in my family have been on a long term relationship ... except me.. why?? what is my problem???
last time I gave my heart away and trust 200% .. i was soo soo content.happy , focusing on a home. a life with my other half ... well that got blown out of the water... some people just sometimes think the grass might be greener on the other side of the fence with no thoughts on how it may affect there partner i guess. *sigh* ....... that was the last time i gave my self to someone soo deeply. Im scared to go thru that again....
I tried having a couple more relationships after that but it has not been the same and it never will ....
im trying to get use to the idea of just dating now and then ... and dont get to serious with anyone anymore. at out age we are all set in our own ways ... although if i could just see someone steady ... would be nice.
I am a 1 person kinda girl... i am loyal , honest. down to earth , love life . can be a jokester.....
i was told by an X ... reason why i am alone is cause i only think of myself... hmmmm i dont get that.
all the friggin sacrafices i have made and still make... renting my bedroom out at home.. to a friend of my daughters cuz he was kickd out of his home ... when he came out to his family he was gay. driving the truck im hardly ever there anyways
whn i go home i sleep in the living room for now.. or my truck.
helping a lady out few yrs bk... that was homeless... living out of her car.
giving paintings away to friends and such... painting special post cards and sending them off... cuz i like giving out smiles.

id like to move... for 5 yrs now ... been planing on NC near Danville VA .. there i can get bk to messing with the horses and have thoughts of having a artist workshop biz as my retirement income...
i have a cousin whom is a professor in albany NY and helps write grant letters all the time...... soo this is going to take a lil time i guess...
mean while....... i will keep on trucking and doing my art when i can.
thats my story and im ahh sticking to it. hehe

Sun · 08-28-2012, 08:42 AM

Hola everyone

Taking a short break at work thought I would stop by and say hi.

Need some coffee. Weird weather here today. Downpour
and now bright sunshine. Life on an Island. Go figure.

~ocean · 08-28-2012, 08:44 AM

rainning here too ~~ bright skys then down pours ~~ back to bright ~

Countyfem · 08-28-2012, 08:50 AM

Hello everyone, finally got my laptop re-imaged and now getting back into the swing of things! Is a beautiful day here in NC, feels like fall! Where in the world has this year gone to, my grandmother always said time flys by quicker the older one gets and she was so right.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day!!

cinderella · 08-28-2012, 11:37 PM

How sweet it was...and will be.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sweet_Amor_Taino

I have been single for the past 4 years . I met a few ladies whom I share time with but nothing develop, I am alone but not lonely.

I often image how sweet it would be to enjoy my life with a partner. I recently reconnected with a lady whom I have a strong affection for and as we all dream, I dream it is what we both hope for.

As I get older I appreciate the simple things life more but it would be even nicer to share it with a special lady.

Glenn · 08-29-2012, 05:28 AM

Mornin Folks and All; How are you? I hope you are all well. There's a senior couple living on an old farm up the road a piece. I see them outside once a year or so, on my way to the store. I always slow down to see how they are doing. Yesterday I saw them, standing close together, holdin on to each other for dear life. Sort of pulled my little pecker string. That's all, and take care Folks.

morningstar55 · 08-29-2012, 01:52 PM

Morning loft dwellers nd peekers
drove all nite... hate that , it Ross's up my Morningstar ..... and morning ritual... heh.
Ty Mr. Leonard for trying to help me stay awake , ... BTW you snore... giggling......
Anyways walked around homedepot.. now thinking of making some guacamole , with unsalted chips and rotisserie chicken

Tommi · 08-28-2012, 02:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morningstar55

Evening loft dwellers n peekers
Am all tucked in my sleepr bunk I need a bedtime story ....

Once upon a time there was this great big truck, driven by a star of the morning, that traveled allllll over the place. It parked long enough to catch some WiFi time and some shut eye. And when she awoke one day, her painting of a t-shirt was on display on BFPlanet in the Raffle Thread. She checked out the post, and said ,,,yep Tommi, that's right.

08-27-2012, 01:38 PM	#1
WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,392 Times in 4,138 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I haven't posted in here in quite some time, but like others, a few posts caught my eye. I once thought in my younger years that I could rewire myself to date more than one woman, so I tried and dated two. I failed miserably at it and wouldn't want to try again. I think those that can do it, good for them. I'm at an age where I would just like to settle down and live happily ever after. After letting myself heal and cleaning out cobwebs these last few years, I almost deem myself relationship ready. The only thing holding me back at this point is finances and my rescues. Someone would have to be able to accept the fact that if I never find forever homes for some of these rescues, they'll stay with me. Also, it bothers me that since I left Chicago over 6 years ago, I can't seem to find FT work and struggle. I never want someone else to pay my way. Work defines a big part of who I am. Being a Sag, I spent my life restless, but as I get older, I realize I just want to make one last move and settle in there. Anyhow, I often wonder if once you've found that BIG love in your life and screwed it up, will I be able to love like that again. Keep in mind, for me, there is a difference between being in love and loving someone enough to live comfy with them. I do know I am taking my time getting to know whomever enters my life this next time around and have no idea if I'd even want to live in the same house as another or better off living alone and each having our own space when needed. So much to think about, but I suppose I'll cross that bridge when I get there. Anyone else have thoughts on dating and/or relationships as we get older and more comfy living alone, but miss the company of a partner? __________________ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo

08-27-2012, 08:33 PM	#3
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Evening loft dwellers n peekers Am all tucked in my sleepr bunk I need a bedtime story .... __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-27-2012, 10:11 PM	#4
Sweet_Amor_Taino Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Gentleman Preferred Pronoun?: he/him Relationship Status: Exclusively dating, Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Austin Tx Posts: 538 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 388 Thanked 853 Times in 298 Posts Rep Power: 4397590	I am very comfortable alone, But... I have been single for the past 4 years . I met a few ladies whom I share time with but nothing develop, I am alone but not lonely. I often image how sweet it would be to enjoy my life with a partner. I recently reconnected with a lady whom I have a strong affection for and as we all dream, I dream it is what we both hope for. As I get older I appreciate the simple things life more but it would be even nicer to share it with a special lady. __________________ When we are aware that each moment of each day and each step we take,is truly mystical and full of wonder,we will live our lives with greater thought and care, we will also respect and appreciate This moment.

08-28-2012, 03:44 PM	#6
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Yay .... leaving TN....headng to ... east liberty, ohiya..... __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-28-2012, 04:09 PM	#7
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Ty electrocell 4 , letting me park at the Goode ranch. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-28-2012, 02:21 AM	#5
iamkeri1 Member How Do You Identify?: femme woman Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: solo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Florida Posts: 905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 302 Thanked 2,153 Times in 659 Posts Rep Power: 16642920	That sounds wonderful Taino, My best wishes for you and your lady, and your wished-for future together. Smooches, Keri

08-28-2012, 06:31 PM	#8
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Arrived a shipper .... waiting to get truck loaded. grabbed a small Hawaiin blizzard.... Looks like am gonna b driving late, ....sigh... am not a night owl... hopefully will find someone to chat with via cell . .. help me stay awake. Ty electrocell... Ty for the repps everyone... __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-28-2012, 07:24 PM	#9
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Sometimes I should not b allowed to listen to CW music.... makes me think to much.... then I get weepy moment's . In other news .... pix in da gallery . __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-29-2012, 03:49 PM	#10
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	has anyone seen this in the news??? http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=5548 __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-29-2012, 04:37 PM	#11
WolfyOne Magically Delicious How Do You Identify?: Gentle Butch Relationship Status: Single and content Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Minnesota Posts: 6,558 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,052 Thanked 15,392 Times in 4,138 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	FYI all, MS makes really good guacamole This I remember from a party we both attended some years back So, if she's ever traveling into your neck of the woods, invite her over asap __________________ Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo

09-02-2012, 05:57 AM	#12
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning loft dwellers n peekers Hope you all r having a great weekend.... I have to drive ... all the way to Memphis area..... Funny thing , I might not make it home to get some items, before its time make my way to little rock.. so electrocell suggestd just to wear some jeans to the event's Ahhh ...... I dont think so. May hit a mall or 2 in my travels... ha Time roll here. __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-28-2012, 08:16 AM	#13
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	been going over the postings on the age and relationships topic... im 57.... eveyone in my family have been on a long term relationship ... except me.. why?? what is my problem??? last time I gave my heart away and trust 200% .. i was soo soo content.happy , focusing on a home. a life with my other half ... well that got blown out of the water... some people just sometimes think the grass might be greener on the other side of the fence with no thoughts on how it may affect there partner i guess. sigh ....... that was the last time i gave my self to someone soo deeply. Im scared to go thru that again.... I tried having a couple more relationships after that but it has not been the same and it never will .... im trying to get use to the idea of just dating now and then ... and dont get to serious with anyone anymore. at out age we are all set in our own ways ... although if i could just see someone steady ... would be nice. I am a 1 person kinda girl... i am loyal , honest. down to earth , love life . can be a jokester..... i was told by an X ... reason why i am alone is cause i only think of myself... hmmmm i dont get that. all the friggin sacrafices i have made and still make... renting my bedroom out at home.. to a friend of my daughters cuz he was kickd out of his home ... when he came out to his family he was gay. driving the truck im hardly ever there anyways whn i go home i sleep in the living room for now.. or my truck. helping a lady out few yrs bk... that was homeless... living out of her car. giving paintings away to friends and such... painting special post cards and sending them off... cuz i like giving out smiles. id like to move... for 5 yrs now ... been planing on NC near Danville VA .. there i can get bk to messing with the horses and have thoughts of having a artist workshop biz as my retirement income... i have a cousin whom is a professor in albany NY and helps write grant letters all the time...... soo this is going to take a lil time i guess... mean while....... i will keep on trucking and doing my art when i can. thats my story and im ahh sticking to it. hehe __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-28-2012, 08:42 AM	#14
Sun Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Trans Preferred Pronoun?: He, him, his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: N/A Posts: 1,775 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,557 Thanked 5,551 Times in 1,456 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Stopping by Hola everyone Taking a short break at work thought I would stop by and say hi. Need some coffee. Weird weather here today. Downpour and now bright sunshine. Life on an Island. Go figure. __________________ “Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.” ― Rumi

08-28-2012, 08:44 AM	#15
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,018 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	rainning here too ~~ bright skys then down pours ~~ back to bright ~

08-28-2012, 08:50 AM	#16
Countyfem Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: NC Posts: 244 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 469 Thanked 932 Times in 211 Posts Rep Power: 9455032	Good morning all Hello everyone, finally got my laptop re-imaged and now getting back into the swing of things! Is a beautiful day here in NC, feels like fall! Where in the world has this year gone to, my grandmother always said time flys by quicker the older one gets and she was so right. Hope everyone has a wonderful day!!

08-29-2012, 05:28 AM	#18
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old thing Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,602 Thanked 3,729 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Mornin Folks and All; How are you? I hope you are all well. There's a senior couple living on an old farm up the road a piece. I see them outside once a year or so, on my way to the store. I always slow down to see how they are doing. Yesterday I saw them, standing close together, holdin on to each other for dear life. Sort of pulled my little pecker string. That's all, and take care Folks.

08-29-2012, 01:52 PM	#19
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning loft dwellers nd peekers drove all nite... hate that , it Ross's up my Morningstar ..... and morning ritual... heh. Ty Mr. Leonard for trying to help me stay awake , ... BTW you snore... giggling...... Anyways walked around homedepot.. now thinking of making some guacamole , with unsalted chips and rotisserie chicken __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.