[Bard]

Originally Posted by Corkey

I think the blending of lives should always be up to the couple doing it. Ours was and is a amalgamation of who we are as a couple and as individuals. So we're happy, that I believe is as it should be.

I am with you on this and really it is what Desd and I did in our wedding it was held in a place that was special to me kind of like my place of peace. The Minister that gave us a blessing he is a dear friend that I have worked with for a long time and he is a man I go to when I am troubled part of his blessing was that we were already married that this was our sharing our comitment with our family and friends blending our family. My daughter was a very important part of the whole ceremony as the pagan minister said to us this in not a union of two but of three my Goose may be young but no less important. My Father was in the front row proud as hell when we were renting the tuxes desd and I had said to the fathers that they could have a vest color that matched our mothers, now I told my dad that Ihad changed his color to match my mom his responce to me was that I was to cahnge it back he was my father and he wanted to be just like me. Our parents were a important part of the wedding not because we expected them to help us oot with expences but becasue they wanted to help to make this day special for us. . There was a chance that our wedding would be protested as it was the first legal same sex wedding at Syracuse University and I can tell you my best man would have defended us to the hilt as would have the rest of my officers. I guess what I am trying to say is that I love and respect my fatehr - in - law I asked him for the privlage to marry into his family for his blessing I asked MY Father also for his blessing and because it was important to me that he be a part of one of his childrens wedding day. Our wedding day was a wonderful beautiful day filled with love and support it was amazing I know Desd and I are very blessed