Permission to propose

Corkey · 09-02-2012, 03:06 PM

I think the blending of lives should always be up to the couple doing it. Ours was and is a amalgamation of who we are as a couple and as individuals. So we're happy, that I believe is as it should be.

princessbelle · 09-02-2012, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

I think the blending of lives should always be up to the couple doing it. Ours was and is a amalgamation of who we are as a couple and as individuals. So we're happy, that I believe is as it should be.

Absolutely!!!!! Bully and i have our own traditions as well. I find those very fascinating and also what the meanings of those are "way back when". I was just thinking it may be a good thread.

I didn't mean to imply we don't have our own traditions. As couples or singles.

Just thought it was interesting.

Bard · 09-02-2012, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

I think the blending of lives should always be up to the couple doing it. Ours was and is a amalgamation of who we are as a couple and as individuals. So we're happy, that I believe is as it should be.

I am with you on this and really it is what Desd and I did in our wedding it was held in a place that was special to me kind of like my place of peace. The Minister that gave us a blessing he is a dear friend that I have worked with for a long time and he is a man I go to when I am troubled part of his blessing was that we were already married that this was our sharing our comitment with our family and friends blending our family. My daughter was a very important part of the whole ceremony as the pagan minister said to us this in not a union of two but of three my Goose may be young but no less important. My Father was in the front row proud as hell when we were renting the tuxes desd and I had said to the fathers that they could have a vest color that matched our mothers, now I told my dad that Ihad changed his color to match my mom his responce to me was that I was to cahnge it back he was my father and he wanted to be just like me. Our parents were a important part of the wedding not because we expected them to help us oot with expences but becasue they wanted to help to make this day special for us. . There was a chance that our wedding would be protested as it was the first legal same sex wedding at Syracuse University and I can tell you my best man would have defended us to the hilt as would have the rest of my officers. I guess what I am trying to say is that I love and respect my fatehr - in - law I asked him for the privlage to marry into his family for his blessing I asked MY Father also for his blessing and because it was important to me that he be a part of one of his childrens wedding day. Our wedding day was a wonderful beautiful day filled with love and support it was amazing I know Desd and I are very blessed

Parker · 09-02-2012, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by BullDog

Yes exactly! I wore a tux last year to the Reunion and will wear one this year. If I get married I will be wearing one as well. I will be a butch groom, not representing the man.

I do not subscribe to butch=male; femme=female. Some do, but I do not.

This. I love this - butch groom. I am tucking that away for the future.

Also, I dont subscribe to butch=male; femme=female either.

Bard · 09-02-2012, 04:48 PM

My Dad siad it all to us in his speech " I came here today with one wonderful daughter and now I have two" then he welcomed Desd to our family

Ginger · 09-02-2012, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Bard

My Dad siad it all to us in his speech " I came here today with one wonderful daughter and now I have two" then he welcomed Desd to our family

Wow. Having just endured two years of a mother-in-law who hated me with a white-hot hate that poisoned every family gathering for me and finally resulted in me withdrawing from my partner's family completely—which means, of course, she won—I can only say, your post made me get a little weepy.

BullDog · 09-02-2012, 04:54 PM

I think it is awesome that Steph's future father-in-law welcomed her into the family and that Bard & Desd has support from the fathers as well.

bright_arrow · 09-02-2012, 05:06 PM

The end of my dad's toast "I wish them many years of happiness, and many children.. that they must raise themselves!"

I have yet to upload my father-in-law's speech.. I think I have it somewhere

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Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,268 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I think the blending of lives should always be up to the couple doing it. Ours was and is a amalgamation of who we are as a couple and as individuals. So we're happy, that I believe is as it should be. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

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