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12-16-2012, 05:25 PM

Hey-up you batty, addictive types of Gotham I needs me some advice/suggestions from folks who're more sensible than I.

I heard recently that a long time acquaintance told mutual friends, who happen to be two of my closest friends, a malicious lie that she's possibly heard as gossip. How else she may come up with it I can't fathom. Apparently I was carried out from a college friends wedding, a couple of months ago, because I was leglessly drunk.

My immediate reaction...I don't really do thoughtful, measured responses...was to confront the two college 'friends' - the bride and maid of honour - to ask why on earth they would even tell this person such a big a fat lie. Context - both college folks know said acquaintance after working together at a local kids theatre group.

However, another college friend - the dude I'd gone to the wedding with and who I went back to the wedding festivities with after a fellowship meeting - suggested I ask the person who gossiped to my close friends, where this came from, because he's convinced that the bride and maid of honour wouldn't be so horrid and I concur. It's hard to believe they would say such a thing. Especially as it is so very far from the truth.

I haven't done anything about it since asking for advice in a meeting...sadly the only advice forthcoming was from the one person I know that could make giving me the benefit of her experience, strength and hope, all about her and how hard life is for her and I was left none the wiser

It's a couple of weeks since I heard that this thing has been said and addict-brain keeps pick at the scab

So, whaddo I do?

Step one tells me I'm powerless; over people places and things. I have no control over what folks think or say about me. It shouldn't matter who said what to who. Step two tells me that by connecting with my HP and asking for direction I stand a much better chance of responding sanely............then I'm in unknown territory, I've only shared the last of step 2 this week.

Addict-brain screams out "...I want to duckin' know why this person holds such a bloody grudge and has done since she 'took sides' with an ex of mine (that she'd met twice) almost 9yrs ago" and why she's always prepared to believe the worst about me. We were actually friends once upon a time until Evil Edna got in the way.

Recovery-brain keeps it simple and says don't sweat the little things. This is so inconsequential. It's not all about me! There are better things to channel the obsession to

Was that a penny dropping? By jove! I think I might have answered myself

Anyhoo, this is the bit where you lot come in with your sage words of experience and advice.

I thank you in advance

ps. After typing all that out I realise just how loony my addict-brain is.

12-16-2012, 05:25 PM	#1
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	Putting out the Bat-Addict call... Hey-up you batty, addictive types of Gotham I needs me some advice/suggestions from folks who're more sensible than I. I heard recently that a long time acquaintance told mutual friends, who happen to be two of my closest friends, a malicious lie that she's possibly heard as gossip. How else she may come up with it I can't fathom. Apparently I was carried out from a college friends wedding, a couple of months ago, because I was leglessly drunk. My immediate reaction...I don't really do thoughtful, measured responses...was to confront the two college 'friends' - the bride and maid of honour - to ask why on earth they would even tell this person such a big a fat lie. Context - both college folks know said acquaintance after working together at a local kids theatre group. However, another college friend - the dude I'd gone to the wedding with and who I went back to the wedding festivities with after a fellowship meeting - suggested I ask the person who gossiped to my close friends, where this came from, because he's convinced that the bride and maid of honour wouldn't be so horrid and I concur. It's hard to believe they would say such a thing. Especially as it is so very far from the truth. I haven't done anything about it since asking for advice in a meeting...sadly the only advice forthcoming was from the one person I know that could make giving me the benefit of her experience, strength and hope, all about her and how hard life is for her and I was left none the wiser It's a couple of weeks since I heard that this thing has been said and addict-brain keeps pick at the scab So, whaddo I do? Step one tells me I'm powerless; over people places and things. I have no control over what folks think or say about me. It shouldn't matter who said what to who. Step two tells me that by connecting with my HP and asking for direction I stand a much better chance of responding sanely............then I'm in unknown territory, I've only shared the last of step 2 this week. Addict-brain screams out "...I want to duckin' know why this person holds such a bloody grudge and has done since she 'took sides' with an ex of mine (that she'd met twice) almost 9yrs ago" and why she's always prepared to believe the worst about me. We were actually friends once upon a time until Evil Edna got in the way. Recovery-brain keeps it simple and says don't sweat the little things. This is so inconsequential. It's not all about me! There are better things to channel the obsession to Was that a penny dropping? By jove! I think I might have answered myself Anyhoo, this is the bit where you lot come in with your sage words of experience and advice. I thank you in advance ps. After typing all that out I realise just how loony my addict-brain is.