Butch Femme Planet - View Single Post - Butch Pronouns

princessbelle · 09-16-2013, 09:28 AM

I would like to mention that i've never ran across anyone who would get upset when using the wrong pronoun. Especially at the beginning.

You can't tell by appearance, by gender, by anything else for that matter so there are honestly, no clues. It is just a personal decision. I also do try to steer away from it best i can, by using you or the name of the person when i'm not sure and don't want to appear rude.

Let's face it we are a community of very fluid pronouns and most of us know by now to ask which one to use for which person. At times i do feel like i need a schematic to keep up with it and boy oh boy do i falter. But, MY experience has been met with kindness and a gentle redirection.

You could tell me you are a she and the next sentence it could come out a he, but i mean no harm or disrespect. It's just hard to remember for me.

On top of that we are all evolving and growing and changing and our gender and or pronouns do too sometimes.

It's best to ask, but hard to remember. I guess would be my answer to this ever changing pronoun.

09-16-2013, 09:28 AM	#28
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,499 Times in 5,201 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Thanks to the hy's and she's and he's. I would like to mention that i've never ran across anyone who would get upset when using the wrong pronoun. Especially at the beginning. You can't tell by appearance, by gender, by anything else for that matter so there are honestly, no clues. It is just a personal decision. I also do try to steer away from it best i can, by using you or the name of the person when i'm not sure and don't want to appear rude. Let's face it we are a community of very fluid pronouns and most of us know by now to ask which one to use for which person. At times i do feel like i need a schematic to keep up with it and boy oh boy do i falter. But, MY experience has been met with kindness and a gentle redirection. You could tell me you are a she and the next sentence it could come out a he, but i mean no harm or disrespect. It's just hard to remember for me. On top of that we are all evolving and growing and changing and our gender and or pronouns do too sometimes. It's best to ask, but hard to remember. I guess would be my answer to this ever changing pronoun.