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Originally Posted by *Anya*
My love and I try to do the very best that we can to honor our feminism, knowing full-well that we are fully socialized into a patriarchal society.
I think a difference is that we are aware and not pretending to ourselves that it has had no effect on us.
I no longer have the time to fight the same battles that I used to fight. Now, I just want to live my life, have a measure of happiness and grow old with her.
I make no apologies for wanting to change my last name to hers.
Part of feminism to me is acceptance of each woman and her choices.
No shaming or judging.
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I reread your post several times because it's easy to miss something important when you just read a post once or even twice. I think I see the possible dissonance you were referring to. And I see why it would not make you uncomfortable. I totally get that. I too understand that I have been "fully socialized into a patriarchal society" and I also make no apologies for being willing to give my name to Truly if she wants it. And I identify as a feminist. Any dissonance that might cause I am fully capable of shaking off. Is that what you mean?