I'm Fired Up Now! - A Rant

[Waldo]

It might be my hormones. It might be that I'm working out again. Or it might be that I'm eating "right" again. Whatever it is, it's got me fired up and ready to rumble.

Today's rant:

I don't date bisexual women. I have in the past and I never had a particularly bad experience. My experience, as I've gotten older is that for many bisexual women it's strictly about who they are sleeping with. For me, my queerness also has a component of politics. Yes, I've found some bisexual women who carry their queer politics forward into relationships and I think that's great. But for me? There's just something inherently sexy about a woman who proclaims loudly, and proudly, that she's queer.

That's all well and good but my rant today isn't about bisexuals. It's about what happens around a bisexual person, generally female, after a relationship goes south. All of the recriminations about "you should have known better than to date a bi-girl."

Right now, on another forum I participate in there's a conversation going on about a member who has ID'd as bi for years and years. She's engaged to a man but has recently realized that she's no longer attracted to him. And in realizing this she's realized she's not really attracted to men at all any more. She knows she has to break things off and she's asking for insight and suggestions on how to do this gently with the least amount of pain.

And people are responding as though this is some hideous thing that she's done to him. Saying that she's been lying to him and leading him on. That he's wasted years of his life with her, etc. There's significant blame going on and it saddens me. No, it really makes me angry.

On a day when I'm already at my boiling point over the racial intolerance in Arizona this has just kind of tipped me over the edge. So you fine folks get to read my vent.

Discuss, don't discuss. Share your own story of getting fired up over something. I feel better just having gotten that off my chest. Thanks BFP! You're all peaches!