When did you come out?

[Lady_Wu]

i first came out in first grade. her name was lacy. we would walk around holding hands and kissing each other. the other kids would tease us but no-one ever really bothered us. i told everyone then and there that i liked girls, not boys, and wanted nothing to do with boys. they were "icky". then in jr. high i discovered dykes in uniform (softball) and never looked back!
Lady_Wu

[Andrew, Jr.]

I was very young when I realized that I was a boy, but had a girls body. I wasn't even in school yet. I think I was about 3 or 4 yo.

[BornBronson]

The day I came out of my mother's womb,she said I wanted to go back in.Then she brought me to her breast and I began suckling.After my baby brother was born I was literally thrown to the curbside.I've spent many years trying to get that old feeling back,I did.Somehow it was much better than mother,too.

Females rule my world.

[Write14u]

I was a little slow on the uptake, not coming out til I was 27. I've made up good time since then. *grin*

[BornBronson]

Originally Posted by BornBronson

Females rule my world.

I should say Once Ruled.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Write14u

I was a little slow on the uptake, not coming out til I was 27. I've made up good time since then. *grin*

Ha! Beat you!

I came out at 26.

[redrose]

i don't really know how did i come out? i consider myself not out but i just can't explain. those people that truly loves me and knows me including my family and a very few circle of friends, knows that i am femme. i never tell that to them face to face but i did not even hide it from them, they just know and feel, and they accepted me and love me more. so when the time comes, i met my butch, there were no questions asked. we were accepted by my family and by her family. when she was sick, my family was with me, my mother would cooked food so i can bring that to her and my sister was with me when my butch was confined in icu, my brother would call me from time to time. When she die, my family was also with me, my mother did come in my butch's wake and funeral. my butch's family is still very attached with me. I think am talkin too much. lol!

i really don't know what coming out means, i did not come out but i did not hide the true me. it's a WHAT YOU SEE WHAT YOU GET thing. and i feel all the love, support and respect from the people that matters to me.

[Cowboi]

When I was in the first grade, and my guy friends had girlfriends, I didnt understand why none of the girls wanted to be my girlfiend.
The first time I told someone, I was 26.
Since I am butch, I think everybody knew anyway!! LoL

[ALittleStar4You]

I haven't come out-but All your stories were very inspiring. Thank you. (And I am 30)

[Tommi]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

I was very young when I realized that I was a boy, but had a girls body. I wasn't even in school yet. I think I was about 3 or 4 yo.

Me too Andrew. I never identified in that bio body.

My Mom knew, and my Gramma nicknamed me Tommi before I ever started school: said I was never going to outgrow the tomboy phase. She made it okay for me to be Roy Rogers, Superman, and General Thomas. They made me cowboy shirts and decorated my jeans to match, and taught me little boy manners.
I took responsibility for guarding my girlie cousins and beating off the boys. I will have to pull out the old pictures. Young Superman flew off the back porch roof at 7 wearing a red bath towel, and my favorite jeans. What a fast free fall, and broken nose.

I was very fortunate, as my Mom was gay too.. Although she remained married to "him", and was in the closet until I graduated from high school, she was my big butch mentor. "he" was insanely abusive, and tough on both of us, so we ran away from home as soon as i was out of school, and lived happy, gay and carefree in SO Cal. well....not always, but, I feel I have been "out" since I was born.

[Oiler41]

I knew in the first grade that I was different, I just didn't know exactly what or how or why. But, when I hit 16 I knew and it was then, in my sophomore year of high school, that I officially came out. I haven't looked back since! lol.

Glynn

[tazz]

i knew when i was 8 years old i was different, was bisexual for a period of time, then totally came out at 23.

[BestButchBoy]

I was never in. As far back as I have memory [3? 4?] I have always been the boy I am. And, no one ever told me otherwise, nor does anyone now.

[Hack]

I have told this story before on the other site.

When I was in kindergarten, the teacher told us to line up -- girls on one side of the room and boys on the other. I went and stood in the boys line. The teacher then led me by the hand to the other side of the room. It was the first time in my life I realized I wasn't a boy. Rude awakening at age 6.

I have always felt different. When did I officially start telling people I was queer? In my late teens, when I escaped the small town where I grew up and went off to college and experienced queer life full-on. Up until that point, I had no idea what I was...other than some weirdo with crazy mad crushes on all the pretty girls in school.

Jake

[Liam]

I came out of my Mama, in 1956.

[apretty]

Originally Posted by ALittleStar4You

I haven't come out-but All your stories were very inspiring. Thank you. (And I am 30)

you'll do it when you're ready, until then find a good support system. <3

[chefhottie25]

when i was a sophmore in high school. i was dating rome overmeyer...and i slept with my spanish teacher...well she was actually a student teacher. when i broke the news to rome he said his mom thought i was gay(she was a lesbian)...it all worked out, i got an A in spanish and rome and i became good friends. he was very supportive, and so was my family.

[Rook]

I think the very first time I came out to anyone...Was to my brother, we were sitting on the top of a basketball Goal backboard, it was night, and yeah we were being evil lil peeping toms...
Keep in mind, I was 13, he was 11...
I'm not sure what I said, when he had this baffled dumb glance and said "I don't get it, you're a girl, how can u like other girls boobs?', took me a moment and I shrugged sayin 'I just do, always did like girls, if u like 'em why can't i?'
He shrugged and we proceeded to make stupid noises, and got shooed off the Court...

Years later, I was about 17-ish after I figured he totally forgot, I sat on his bed, tried refreshing his memory and after getting tired of the blank stare, I came out...again...He said "I always figured it was a phase, maybe u just haven't met the right guy?"
I shook my head telling him there's no way I'd be with a guy, there's no attraction, no inclination nothing that feels the way I do deep inside when with an intelligent beautiful gal, to this day he continues to hold to his bet that I'll find the "perfect Man" -snort-
Couple days later, I came out to my mother after she poked n prodded cuz I wasn't eating, or sleeping well....
After 2 years of really ugly spats, she and I sat down and she said "It wasn't so much the fact you are a lesbian, but rather, all those years...and those fake boyfriends u brought to me, it was the Lying that hurt me the most..I was raised a certain way, give me time, for now I'm just..tolerating this."
Our rel. has improved since then though....
Granted, Everyone else in the very big...Family spectrum found out thanks to my brothers big-ass mouth....
After my uncle called and told me my father was on the first plane to Puerto Rico to find out for himself, I slammed his ass to the wall and told him "dont ever think I will trust u again, especially if this goes really bad for me"....
And it did...-shrug-

[homoe]

I was NEVER in! It's been pretty obvious I'm a dyke so ...LOL

[Tuff Stuff]

I could never hide it from anyone,either..the fact I was a baby butch...and I definitely sure as hell can't hide it today.I liked girls at an early age and I never came out,I was who I was...my whole family knew what I was..besides,being queer kind of runs in my family's DNA.