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Hi, Folks.
I wasn't quite sure where to put this. Last Thursday (3/25/10), I wrote on the "What made you sad today" thread about my Dad being diagnosed with Stage 3 Lung Cancer. Unfortunately, by the next morning he was in ICU on a respirator. Yesterday, we had to take him off of life support as the tumors were so large in his lungs that they could not get rid of the infection to even look at being able to treat the cancer. It is amazing how one can go from being a very healthy person who exercised everyday, played golf nonstop (in the winter he played "freezing fridays" :-), and ate right, to having an increasingly bad cough for about 5 weeks, get a cancer diagnose, and then die within 8 days. How the heck does not happen? The doctors were amazed by how aggressive the cancer was. And he hadn't smoke in 24 years. Anyway, I wanted to post an update as after that first post I received PMs and reps of support. Thank you all. -A
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04-04-2010, 09:48 AM | #2 |
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Awww.. dude. Sorry to hear this. Your father, you and your family with be in my prayers.
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I am very sorry to hear about that, My prayers are with you and your family.
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I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
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I am sorry for your loss, DapperButch. You and your family are in my thoughts.
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dear dapperbutch,
my deepest condolences to you and your loved ones during this time of great loss. belle |
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I'm so sorry for your loss. What a tragedy!! This actually happened to a friend of mine who had never smoked in his life! Cancer is ugly! What a complete shock this must have been for you!
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I'm so sorry to read this update and extremely sad and sudden turn of events with regards to your Dad... I can't even imagine how you must be feeling right now. __ Peace and love to your heart and your family - and may wonderful memories bring you ALL comfort in the days ahead... Sincerely, WILDCAT
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I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your father. Cancer is such an ugly thing and so incredibly unpredictable. My condolence to you and your family. Take care of yourself. Kimbo |
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I am very sorry to hear this Dapper. All my best wishes to you and your family.
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Hey A... so sorry to hear this. I knew things were bad but I'm shocked to hear how fast things progressed... my heart goes out to you and your family big time my friend.
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My condolences to you and your family, Dapper. I just went through a similar experience. We took my step dad of 49 years off of life support at 6pm on Monday 3/29 and he passed away in little over 6 and 1/2 hours, at 12:45am. I was just glad that it was fast, and he didn't appear to suffer at all during the process. I know how fast ones health can decline, and I totally feel for you. Be sure to take care of yourself through all of this!!!! |
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Thanks so much to everyone who has responded with support on this thread and through reps.
The toughest will be for my mom who has been with him since she was 15 years old. 52 years together and 45 years of marriage (she waited until he went through the Navy and college before marrying). They did everything together (except golf!), so this will be tough for her. Fortunately she is close to one of her neighbors and is connected to her church, as well, so that will be helpful. My mom was the traditional homemaker who has never even paid a bill before, so there will be some new things that she will need to learn. I guess they figured that there was time for him to show her how he handled their finances because they were both so healthy. I am glad that I live close by so I can help her with all of this stuff. She is a smart woman, so she should be ok. She is just scared since she went from living with her mother to marrying my father; she has never lived alone. Thanks again, friends.
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We are so sorry Dapper, our prayers go out to you and your Mom.
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very sorry to hear this sad news. will be praying for you and your family
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I'm really sorry Dapper.
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My deepest condolances Dapper.
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Dapper, I am so very sorry to learn of this news. I am lifting all of your family up in prayer. I am glad you are there for your Mom. Love, Andrew |
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