What TO DO in a relationship.....

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 07:46 PM

Ok I'll start....

BE HONEST!

Softly · 04-13-2011, 07:47 PM

ALWAYS kiss goodnight!

wolfbittenpoet · 04-13-2011, 07:48 PM

Take every moment as a gift. Never go to bed angry.

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 07:52 PM

Make a list of priorities in your life, make "partner" #1.

justkim · 04-13-2011, 07:53 PM

Laugh... often... at yourself... with each other...

moxie · 04-13-2011, 07:53 PM

Respect that the person you are with is always going to have individual needs and their own life outside the collective needs/life of the relationship.

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 07:55 PM

Turn the computer off, and your partner on.

Miss Scarlett · 04-13-2011, 07:56 PM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Ok I'll start....

BE HONEST!

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Originally Posted by Softly

ALWAYS kiss goodnight!

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Originally Posted by wolfbittenpoet

Take every moment as a gift. Never go to bed angry.

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Originally Posted by June

Go to therapy if you're in it for the long haul. There's no shame in it, and it can help a lot when you're trying to figure out why you keep doing the same things over and over again that aren't working.

All of the above plus...

If you are wrong, don't be afraid to admit it but most important of all never, ever forget to say "I love you"

violaine · 04-13-2011, 07:56 PM

give each other s p a c e .

Softly · 04-13-2011, 07:57 PM

take showers together

go on dates no matter how long you've been together

do communication exercises to learn new things

make dinner together

Duchess · 04-13-2011, 07:58 PM

Do maintain a sense of privacy. Family and friends don't need to know the intricate details.

Duchess

girl_dee · 04-13-2011, 08:00 PM

Meet someone before you commit to a lifetime. Online is only half the story.

Bard · 04-13-2011, 08:01 PM

Talk to each other about everything even the hard stuff
take the time to show her how you feel actions do speak louder then words
make each other laugh
kiss her every chance you get
be honest be true but be kind
let her share your world for she wants to be part of you
never ever take each other for granted tomorrow is not promised
take time for the two of you to walk in the rain
hold her close when she is sad kiss the tears away
AND Cowboi don't you ever forget she is a lady and should be treated as such open her door walk her to her car before work bring her flowers just because

scootebaby · 04-13-2011, 08:03 PM

Be honest--dont sugarcoat or rearrange the truth to make yourself look better or to garner sympathy

say thank you

say i love you

enjoy the silence sometimes

talk about things--even if it means things might get tense for a moment

never go to bed angry--if space is needed at least give them a kiss goodnight and let them know you love them

Scorp · 04-13-2011, 08:09 PM

Unload the dishwasher

Oiler41 · 04-13-2011, 08:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Ok I'll start....

BE HONEST!

Yep; this is the highest priority to me. If I can't trust you to tell me the truth, everything else is pointless.

Glynn

justkim · 04-13-2011, 08:14 PM

Remember to say *Please* & *Thank you*
Listen and hear what is being said...
Be patient... Be kind...

JAGG · 04-13-2011, 08:15 PM

Make promises you keep.
Make yourself easy to love.
Make the one you love feel safe and secure.
No matter what, make the one you love know she is a priority.
Talk about everything, and be brutally honest, even if it's difficult.
Treat her like a queen, and love her in all ways , always.
Build a bond together that noone or no thing can come between .
Apologize for your mistakes, make amends and do better next time. Then make amends again.
Take responsibility for your actions .
Validate her feelings by listening, stop what your doing, even when you're busy and pressed for time.
Always make time for her needs , even if your tired ,injured or bored.
Just a few things I always try to do when I love someone. It doesn't guaranty she won't still choose to walk away, but I don't think it hurts anything.

JustJo · 04-13-2011, 08:22 PM

Always assume good intent ... and have it yourself too.

Say "I love you" and mean it...frequently.

Be faithful...not just physically, but also emotionally, verbally...and especially in your own head and heart.

Talk it out...and if you find yourself shouting, take a breath, and keep talking.

Do the little things that show your love to your partner...in our case it's jello and foot rubbing (not together

)

Spend time together....just the two of you. It doesn't have to be a fancy date....take a walk, go to the garden center, sit outside and enjoy the day.

Remember that they're human and make mistakes....and the same goes for you.

Remember why you got together in the first place.

Soft*Silver · 04-13-2011, 08:28 PM

I disagree. I have to sometimes have time to process. I need a night for my internal soul to talk it out to my silly self. I actually wake up and understand it all and can work it out at the breakfast table with smoothness. But I need that night to process in my sleep....

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Originally Posted by wolfbittenpoet

Take every moment as a gift. Never go to bed angry.

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04-13-2011, 07:46 PM	#1
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justkim Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Relationship Status: <3 myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 2,023 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,062 Thanked 6,800 Times in 1,553 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Remember to say Please & Thank you Listen and hear what is being said... Be patient... Be kind...

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JustJo Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: pushy broad Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Follow your heart; it knows things your mind cannot explain. Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Southeast corner Posts: 5,633 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,417 Thanked 25,408 Times in 4,660 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Always assume good intent ... and have it yourself too. Say "I love you" and mean it...frequently. Be faithful...not just physically, but also emotionally, verbally...and especially in your own head and heart. Talk it out...and if you find yourself shouting, take a breath, and keep talking. Do the little things that show your love to your partner...in our case it's jello and foot rubbing (not together ) Spend time together....just the two of you. It doesn't have to be a fancy date....take a walk, go to the garden center, sit outside and enjoy the day. Remember that they're human and make mistakes....and the same goes for you. Remember why you got together in the first place. __________________ I'm not tall enough to ride emotional roller coasters