Permission to propose

stephfromMIT · 09-02-2012, 09:08 AM

Did anyone seek permission from their perspective father-in-law to propose? I was at a Super Bowl party at Mandy's house when I pulled her dad aside and asked if it would be OK to propose. He smiled,"Of course Steph!" He hugged me, telling me,"Welcome to the family."

Soon · 09-02-2012, 09:12 AM

Steph,

You may want to consider deleting the last name of Amanda's family.

stephfromMIT · 09-02-2012, 09:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Soon

Steph,

You may want to consider deleting the last name of Amanda's family.

Good point!

Corkey · 09-02-2012, 09:24 AM

We both told the parental units that we were getting married. Somewhere down the line, they forgot. We were both older and independent of the family unit, so no I did not feel the need to ask. They don't believe in LGBT marriage so it's rather a moot point.

The_Lady_Snow · 09-02-2012, 09:31 AM

I'm not quite sure if I'll ask weatherboi's parents for permission to collar him. If I do I expect a long line of questioning regarding his security, well being, health so on. Mr weatherboi's Dad and I will probably go for some drinks and discuss these matters away from Mrs weatherboi's mom and him. We're old school like that

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girl_dee · 09-02-2012, 09:33 AM

no, HELL no.

The_Lady_Snow · 09-02-2012, 09:36 AM

So Steph, is Amanda going to request your hand in marriage to your parental units?

BullDog · 09-02-2012, 09:38 AM

I would not ask any formal permission from parents and family because I feel it is the person I am proposing to that has that right to make the decision whether she wants to marry me or not.

If I were to ask parents as a gesture of good will, then I would ask both parents if possible, not just the father. In my situation unfortunately that is not possible, so it would be just her Mother and possibly her two sons. But to be honest I think I would just propose without checking with family because I feel it is our decision.

09-02-2012, 09:08 AM	#1
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09-02-2012, 09:24 AM	#4
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09-02-2012, 09:12 AM	#2
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