How do you feel about "PDA"?

kittygrrl · 12-19-2014, 09:10 PM

I go back and forth on this question. How much is too much, where and at what point in a relationship?

SleepyButch · 12-19-2014, 09:30 PM

I'm all for public displays of affection. Meaning that I like to hold hands while walking or sitting together... have her arm in mine... my arm around her or my hand on the small of her back. I don't mind a kiss here and there.

I like to touch and be touched but in saying that, I probably am not going to be found making out with someone in public.

I always ask the person I'm with how they feel about PDA as well because I don't want to make the other person uncomfortable.

imperfect_cupcake · 12-19-2014, 10:43 PM

Depends where I am, really (what country, what part).

Generally I enjoy holding hands, or my hand through their arm. Head on their shoulder on the bus or train. Hand on lap at the pub.

Public style kisses, unless it's late night somewhere, after a few drinks, and it's a queer to club, rave or an event or a dark doorway.

I'm not going to play tonsil hockey on the train at 7pm.

But I have made out pretty heavily after midnight in the pub at a table during a queer event. Maybe even did kissing rounds at the table....

Gotten rather frisky at a pride picnic before when some young butch wanted to try kissing the girls that were in our circle... We passed her around for a proper snog each.

Generally, I'm pretty reserved unless the special occasion calls for a bit of fun.

starryeyes · 12-19-2014, 11:12 PM

I love it. Just sayin!! :-D

MysticOceansFL · 12-20-2014, 04:09 AM

I'm all for it! Walking hand and hand or my arm around her waist or while driving I lay my hand on her thigh and her touching me also and telling each other " I love you's " in public also and sharing food off each other plates but I'm not into showing sexually how I deeply feel about my partner in public that should be at home you know that's private! But anything else I'm all for!

CherryWine · 12-20-2014, 09:07 AM

I am pretty much in agreement with what others have posted. Holding hands, quick pecks on the cheek or forehead, maybe a little back rub here and there. Where I live, this is mostly limited to gay bars and gay-friendly events in order to avoid rude comments or stares.

I don't care to watch someone straddling their partner and sucking face in public, so you won't find me doing it either. Get a room for all of that. Lol.

Cole610 · 05-16-2015, 09:41 PM

Would like some

gotoseagrl · 05-16-2015, 10:13 PM

It makes me very proud of who i'm with, but would avoid over doing it. "Discrete" PDA is fun too, just saying.

Mormegil · 05-16-2015, 10:17 PM

I like to hold hands . but my ex gf was afraid to because her fear of retaliation or harassment from the bible thumpers and rednecks here.so i respected her wishes. i seriously doubt anything would happen here if we had...but then again i never EVER see lesbian or gay men holding hands here unless its gay pride downtown or memorial day at the beach.. and ive lived here my whole life not even once have i seen pda in public unless it was a staight couple. but yeah...id hold hands , hug or whatever not makeout or anything

TruTexan · 05-16-2015, 10:59 PM

I don't think there's anything wrong with appropriate PDA. I'm not into getting all over someone ......that's just too much for me and I don't like seeing it either........from any couple. Get a Room for that. LOL

MsTinkerbelly · 05-16-2015, 11:58 PM

I don't give a flying fig what people think if i hold my wife's hand or we share a kiss, but.....i am mindful that not every situation is safe for us.

Orema · 05-17-2015, 04:13 AM

I like PDAs and I especially like seeing it with others--young or old, teasing or sincere, discreet or not.

willow · 05-17-2015, 05:45 AM

I like to indulge in a bit of PDA and to see it from others. Hand holding, arms draped over or around, reaching out, flirting, kissing... I am not up for participating in a public game of tonsil hockey, undressing (not to be confused with public nudity. If you want to get naked on the beach or whatever, remove your own clothing) or heavy petting.

There's a time and a place for sexy time IMO. Even if you're into sharing the experience with many other people, it should still be 'private'.

Tuff Stuff · 09-12-2015, 09:39 PM

I love PDA,anywhere and anytime,fuck who is watching.My gf does not.Like someone said here,always a lady in public.She is so serious about it that if I try to kiss her on the lips she will give me that look,the one that tells me I won't get any when we go home.She will let me hold her hand in public or walk arm and arm together but I gave up trying to kiss her or drag her into a dark corner to make out.*sigh*

I will hold your hand,hug,kiss,squeeze every inch of your body,play with your hair,undress you,whisper things in your ear,physically pick you up and..umm,yes it's worth waiting to get her home.

kittygrrl · 09-19-2015, 07:28 PM

I like it, anywhere, anything

VintageFemme · 09-20-2015, 07:10 PM

I like it very much. And, I like to see others engaging in acts of love and happiness and spontaneous joy that results in kissing and hugging and moments of unexpected everyday magic. I need more PDA in my life.

Okiebug61 · 09-20-2015, 09:10 PM

If it looks like you need to get a room, enough said!

Ginger · 09-20-2015, 09:49 PM

I think people should make out wherever they feel like it. If I'm feel bothered by it, I'll look away.

Amulette · 09-21-2015, 03:37 AM

Simply put, I like to watch.....

12-19-2014, 09:10 PM	#1
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12-19-2014, 09:30 PM	#2
SleepyButch Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Dude Preferred Pronoun?: He, Him Relationship Status: Taken Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Hidden Valley Ranch Posts: 3,511 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,220 Thanked 11,250 Times in 2,754 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I'm all for public displays of affection. Meaning that I like to hold hands while walking or sitting together... have her arm in mine... my arm around her or my hand on the small of her back. I don't mind a kiss here and there. I like to touch and be touched but in saying that, I probably am not going to be found making out with someone in public. I always ask the person I'm with how they feel about PDA as well because I don't want to make the other person uncomfortable. __________________ . You cannot embrace those things that will not embrace you back.

12-19-2014, 11:12 PM	#4
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,056 Times in 2,077 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I love it. Just sayin!! :-D __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

12-20-2014, 04:09 AM	#5
MysticOceansFL Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch, Preferred Pronoun?: People call me by my nic name. Relationship Status: Not Single, Not Desperate. Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 3,833 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,645 Thanked 4,035 Times in 1,720 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I'm all for it! Walking hand and hand or my arm around her waist or while driving I lay my hand on her thigh and her touching me also and telling each other " I love you's " in public also and sharing food off each other plates but I'm not into showing sexually how I deeply feel about my partner in public that should be at home you know that's private! But anything else I'm all for! __________________ Faith is not belief without proof, but trust without reservation. It is said, " Some lives are linked across time..... Connected by an ancient calling that echoes through the ages "......

05-16-2015, 10:13 PM	#8
gotoseagrl Senior Member How Do You Identify?: old-fashioned queer stone submissive girl Preferred Pronoun?: mermaid, very lucky babygirl Relationship Status: Saltwater mermaid ♡ Join Date: May 2010 Location: CA Posts: 2,209 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,192 Thanked 6,112 Times in 1,726 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	It makes me very proud of who i'm with, but would avoid over doing it. "Discrete" PDA is fun too, just saying. __________________ Be still when you have nothing to say; when genuine passion moves you, say what you've got to say, and say it hot. D. H. Lawrence

12-19-2014, 10:43 PM	#3
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,723 Times in 1,612 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Depends where I am, really (what country, what part). Generally I enjoy holding hands, or my hand through their arm. Head on their shoulder on the bus or train. Hand on lap at the pub. Public style kisses, unless it's late night somewhere, after a few drinks, and it's a queer to club, rave or an event or a dark doorway. I'm not going to play tonsil hockey on the train at 7pm. But I have made out pretty heavily after midnight in the pub at a table during a queer event. Maybe even did kissing rounds at the table.... Gotten rather frisky at a pride picnic before when some young butch wanted to try kissing the girls that were in our circle... We passed her around for a proper snog each. Generally, I'm pretty reserved unless the special occasion calls for a bit of fun.

12-20-2014, 09:07 AM	#6
CherryWine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: The Deep South Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,060 Thanked 10,084 Times in 2,186 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	I am pretty much in agreement with what others have posted. Holding hands, quick pecks on the cheek or forehead, maybe a little back rub here and there. Where I live, this is mostly limited to gay bars and gay-friendly events in order to avoid rude comments or stares. I don't care to watch someone straddling their partner and sucking face in public, so you won't find me doing it either. Get a room for all of that. Lol.

05-16-2015, 09:41 PM	#7
Cole610 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hey You, Dude Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: New Westminster BC Canada Posts: 57 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 514 Thanked 197 Times in 44 Posts Rep Power: 2362245	Would like some

05-16-2015, 10:17 PM	#9
Mormegil Junior Member How Do You Identify?: just myself Preferred Pronoun?: meh Relationship Status: single Join Date: May 2014 Location: pensacola , FL Posts: 64 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31 Thanked 184 Times in 50 Posts Rep Power: 1853353	I like to hold hands . but my ex gf was afraid to because her fear of retaliation or harassment from the bible thumpers and rednecks here.so i respected her wishes. i seriously doubt anything would happen here if we had...but then again i never EVER see lesbian or gay men holding hands here unless its gay pride downtown or memorial day at the beach.. and ive lived here my whole life not even once have i seen pda in public unless it was a staight couple. but yeah...id hold hands , hug or whatever not makeout or anything __________________ "All is full of love"

05-16-2015, 10:59 PM	#10
TruTexan Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: in a one horse town in a large state, in the U.S. Posts: 3,952 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 5,267 Times in 1,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I don't think there's anything wrong with appropriate PDA. I'm not into getting all over someone ......that's just too much for me and I don't like seeing it either........from any couple. Get a Room for that. LOL __________________

05-16-2015, 11:58 PM	#11
MsTinkerbelly Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ... Preferred Pronoun?: ... Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ... Posts: 6,573 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,737 Thanked 22,953 Times in 5,021 Posts Rep Power: 0	I don't give a flying fig what people think if i hold my wife's hand or we share a kiss, but.....i am mindful that not every situation is safe for us.

05-17-2015, 04:13 AM	#12
Orema Superlative Soul Sister How Do You Identify?: Lesbian stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Cottage of Content Posts: 13,203 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 41,220 Thanked 34,465 Times in 8,756 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	I like PDAs and I especially like seeing it with others--young or old, teasing or sincere, discreet or not.

05-17-2015, 05:45 AM	#13
willow Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: sugar and spice Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: at the end of the rainbow Posts: 6,782 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,477 Thanked 6,750 Times in 1,836 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I like to indulge in a bit of PDA and to see it from others. Hand holding, arms draped over or around, reaching out, flirting, kissing... I am not up for participating in a public game of tonsil hockey, undressing (not to be confused with public nudity. If you want to get naked on the beach or whatever, remove your own clothing) or heavy petting. There's a time and a place for sexy time IMO. Even if you're into sharing the experience with many other people, it should still be 'private'. __________________ Do not meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup! http://fc05.deviantart.net/fs11/i/20...ockAvatars.gif

09-12-2015, 09:39 PM	#14
Tuff Stuff Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Married Join Date: May 2013 Location: California Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 904 Thanked 1,320 Times in 506 Posts Rep Power: 9408453	I love PDA,anywhere and anytime,fuck who is watching.My gf does not.Like someone said here,always a lady in public.She is so serious about it that if I try to kiss her on the lips she will give me that look,the one that tells me I won't get any when we go home.She will let me hold her hand in public or walk arm and arm together but I gave up trying to kiss her or drag her into a dark corner to make out.sigh I will hold your hand,hug,kiss,squeeze every inch of your body,play with your hair,undress you,whisper things in your ear,physically pick you up and..umm,yes it's worth waiting to get her home.

09-19-2015, 07:28 PM	#15
kittygrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Ochiba Preferred Pronoun?: b. grrl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: crescent moon Posts: 8,972 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 21,445 Thanked 21,584 Times in 6,840 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I like it, anywhere, anything __________________ "All cruelty springs from weakness" Seneca

09-20-2015, 07:10 PM	#16
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,639 Times in 1,656 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I like it very much. And, I like to see others engaging in acts of love and happiness and spontaneous joy that results in kissing and hugging and moments of unexpected everyday magic. I need more PDA in my life. __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

09-20-2015, 09:10 PM	#17
Okiebug61 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Light Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Hitched to Red Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,528 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,261 Thanked 5,380 Times in 1,245 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	If it looks like you need to get a room, enough said! __________________ "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawake." ~ Anatole France

09-20-2015, 09:49 PM	#18
Ginger Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme lesbian Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: East coast Posts: 2,416 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,829 Thanked 12,309 Times in 2,056 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	I think people should make out wherever they feel like it. If I'm feel bothered by it, I'll look away. __________________ Reach out.

09-21-2015, 03:37 AM	#19
Amulette Member How Do You Identify?: Ma chérie, a sweet thing. Preferred Pronoun?: feminine Relationship Status: Following the scent of flowers. Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: La vie bohem Posts: 489 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 544 Thanked 792 Times in 232 Posts Rep Power: 0	Simply put, I like to watch.....