When did you come out?

Lady_Wu · 05-08-2010, 04:36 PM

i first came out in first grade. her name was lacy. we would walk around holding hands and kissing each other. the other kids would tease us but no-one ever really bothered us. i told everyone then and there that i liked girls, not boys, and wanted nothing to do with boys. they were "icky". then in jr. high i discovered dykes in uniform (softball) and never looked back!
Lady_Wu

Andrew, Jr. · 05-08-2010, 06:14 PM

I was very young when I realized that I was a boy, but had a girls body. I wasn't even in school yet. I think I was about 3 or 4 yo.

BornBronson · 05-08-2010, 07:23 PM

The day I came out of my mother's womb,she said I wanted to go back in.Then she brought me to her breast and I began suckling.After my baby brother was born I was literally thrown to the curbside.I've spent many years trying to get that old feeling back,I did.Somehow it was much better than mother,too.

Females rule my world.

Write14u · 05-08-2010, 07:29 PM

I was a little slow on the uptake, not coming out til I was 27. I've made up good time since then. *grin*

Gemme · 05-09-2010, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Write14u

I was a little slow on the uptake, not coming out til I was 27. I've made up good time since then. *grin*

Ha! Beat you!

I came out at 26.

redrose · 05-09-2010, 12:54 AM

i don't really know how did i come out? i consider myself not out but i just can't explain. those people that truly loves me and knows me including my family and a very few circle of friends, knows that i am femme. i never tell that to them face to face but i did not even hide it from them, they just know and feel, and they accepted me and love me more. so when the time comes, i met my butch, there were no questions asked. we were accepted by my family and by her family. when she was sick, my family was with me, my mother would cooked food so i can bring that to her and my sister was with me when my butch was confined in icu, my brother would call me from time to time. When she die, my family was also with me, my mother did come in my butch's wake and funeral. my butch's family is still very attached with me. I think am talkin too much. lol!

i really don't know what coming out means, i did not come out but i did not hide the true me. it's a WHAT YOU SEE WHAT YOU GET thing. and i feel all the love, support and respect from the people that matters to me.

BornBronson · 05-08-2010, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by BornBronson

Females rule my world.

I should say Once Ruled.

Tommi · 05-09-2010, 07:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

I was very young when I realized that I was a boy, but had a girls body. I wasn't even in school yet. I think I was about 3 or 4 yo.

Me too Andrew. I never identified in that bio body.

My Mom knew, and my Gramma nicknamed me Tommi before I ever started school: said I was never going to outgrow the tomboy phase. She made it okay for me to be Roy Rogers, Superman, and General Thomas. They made me cowboy shirts and decorated my jeans to match, and taught me little boy manners.
I took responsibility for guarding my girlie cousins and beating off the boys. I will have to pull out the old pictures. Young Superman flew off the back porch roof at 7 wearing a red bath towel, and my favorite jeans. What a fast free fall, and broken nose.

I was very fortunate, as my Mom was gay too.. Although she remained married to "him", and was in the closet until I graduated from high school, she was my big butch mentor. "he" was insanely abusive, and tough on both of us, so we ran away from home as soon as i was out of school, and lived happy, gay and carefree in SO Cal.

well....not always, but, I feel I have been "out" since I was born.

Oiler41 · 05-09-2010, 07:34 AM

I knew in the first grade that I was different, I just didn't know exactly what or how or why. But, when I hit 16 I knew and it was then, in my sophomore year of high school, that I officially came out. I haven't looked back since! lol.

Glynn

tazz · 05-09-2010, 07:38 AM

i knew when i was 8 years old i was different, was bisexual for a period of time, then totally came out at 23.

BestButchBoy · 05-09-2010, 08:00 AM

I was never in. As far back as I have memory [3? 4?] I have always been the boy I am. And, no one ever told me otherwise, nor does anyone now.

jools66 · 10-21-2015, 01:33 PM

I came out when I was 30.
I told my parents at 12 I was gay, but the rejection I got from them that I didn't know my own mind sent me back into the closet.
But that's life, we do a lot of those kinds of things bc we don't want to disappoint other ppl.
Trust your instints, and don't be afraid to be who you really are.
It will free you

cinnamongrrl · 10-21-2015, 04:29 PM

I knew I liked girls as early as 2nd grade...but it gets drilled into your head (especially in my very Catholic family) that girls like boys....period.

The year my very religious gramma died, I started dating my first girlfriend. I was 28 or 29.

I didn't have an opportunity to "come out" persay....my aunt saw me and my girlfriend together and put 2 and 2 together and informed my mother...who proceeded to have a total melt down.

Its all good now, but it really was not pretty for a long LONG time in my world...

Kelt · 10-21-2015, 05:47 PM

1975

Where's the 'how you know you're getting older' thread?

randrum · 10-21-2015, 06:13 PM

I had a good feeling I was gay and my first girl crush in 6th grade.

But I didn't officially come out until college, age 19.

Ironically, and unintentionally, it was on National Coming Out Day.

05-08-2010, 04:36 PM	#1
Lady_Wu Member How Do You Identify?: OFOS Queer Stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: M'Lady Relationship Status: given up looking sigh Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: somewhere buried under a pile of books Posts: 197 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 285 Thanked 300 Times in 105 Posts Rep Power: 155956	When did you come out? i first came out in first grade. her name was lacy. we would walk around holding hands and kissing each other. the other kids would tease us but no-one ever really bothered us. i told everyone then and there that i liked girls, not boys, and wanted nothing to do with boys. they were "icky". then in jr. high i discovered dykes in uniform (softball) and never looked back! Lady_Wu __________________ I'm the Yin in the Yang and the Yang in the Yin.

05-08-2010, 07:23 PM	#3
BornBronson Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently banned 7/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: Straight Butch Woman Relationship Status: Nice Tie Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In Love Posts: 177 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24 Thanked 139 Times in 82 Posts Rep Power: 0	It was.. The day I came out of my mother's womb,she said I wanted to go back in.Then she brought me to her breast and I began suckling.After my baby brother was born I was literally thrown to the curbside.I've spent many years trying to get that old feeling back,I did.Somehow it was much better than mother,too. Females rule my world.

05-08-2010, 07:29 PM	#4
Write14u Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: I'm easy Relationship Status: She's some kind of wonderful. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: I keep my heart and soul in the boondocks Posts: 626 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 240 Thanked 714 Times in 325 Posts Rep Power: 759422	I was a little slow on the uptake, not coming out til I was 27. I've made up good time since then. grin __________________ "I believe in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days." -- Crash Davis, Bull Durham

05-09-2010, 12:54 AM	#6
redrose Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: at peace Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Philippines Posts: 291 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 62 Thanked 252 Times in 123 Posts Rep Power: 276024	i don't really know how did i come out? i consider myself not out but i just can't explain. those people that truly loves me and knows me including my family and a very few circle of friends, knows that i am femme. i never tell that to them face to face but i did not even hide it from them, they just know and feel, and they accepted me and love me more. so when the time comes, i met my butch, there were no questions asked. we were accepted by my family and by her family. when she was sick, my family was with me, my mother would cooked food so i can bring that to her and my sister was with me when my butch was confined in icu, my brother would call me from time to time. When she die, my family was also with me, my mother did come in my butch's wake and funeral. my butch's family is still very attached with me. I think am talkin too much. lol! i really don't know what coming out means, i did not come out but i did not hide the true me. it's a WHAT YOU SEE WHAT YOU GET thing. and i feel all the love, support and respect from the people that matters to me. __________________ ... death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal ... http://youtu.be/N0SgLJEtaok

05-09-2010, 07:38 AM	#10
tazz Member How Do You Identify?: Athlete/tomboi Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, cutie Relationship Status: Estoy recibiendo cómodo con él Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: you never know where i might end up ;) Posts: 1,365 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,807 Thanked 1,759 Times in 642 Posts Rep Power: 20456639	i knew when i was 8 years old i was different, was bisexual for a period of time, then totally came out at 23. __________________ "She walks a different path than some of us, but those on her wavelength enjoy the journey with her." --DLOS

05-08-2010, 06:14 PM	#2
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	I was very young when I realized that I was a boy, but had a girls body. I wasn't even in school yet. I think I was about 3 or 4 yo.

05-09-2010, 07:34 AM	#9
Oiler41 Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Happily Single! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nunya Posts: 1,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,355 Thanked 2,574 Times in 789 Posts Rep Power: 18276167	I knew in the first grade that I was different, I just didn't know exactly what or how or why. But, when I hit 16 I knew and it was then, in my sophomore year of high school, that I officially came out. I haven't looked back since! lol. Glynn

05-09-2010, 08:00 AM	#11
BestButchBoy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Male ID Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 3,925 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 406 Thanked 5,450 Times in 2,037 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I was never in. As far back as I have memory [3? 4?] I have always been the boy I am. And, no one ever told me otherwise, nor does anyone now.

10-21-2015, 01:33 PM	#12
jools66 Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: uk Posts: 289 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 192 Thanked 696 Times in 227 Posts Rep Power: 3251484	I came out when I was 30. I told my parents at 12 I was gay, but the rejection I got from them that I didn't know my own mind sent me back into the closet. But that's life, we do a lot of those kinds of things bc we don't want to disappoint other ppl. Trust your instints, and don't be afraid to be who you really are. It will free you

10-21-2015, 04:29 PM	#13
cinnamongrrl Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: cleverly disguised as a responsible adult* Preferred Pronoun?: wild woman Relationship Status: No, thank you. Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Home in NC..gonna dig in like a tick this time… Posts: 7,660 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,225 Thanked 27,596 Times in 6,955 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	I knew I liked girls as early as 2nd grade...but it gets drilled into your head (especially in my very Catholic family) that girls like boys....period. The year my very religious gramma died, I started dating my first girlfriend. I was 28 or 29. I didn't have an opportunity to "come out" persay....my aunt saw me and my girlfriend together and put 2 and 2 together and informed my mother...who proceeded to have a total melt down. Its all good now, but it really was not pretty for a long LONG time in my world... __________________

10-21-2015, 05:47 PM	#14
Kelt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Beach Butch Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: SoCal Posts: 2,751 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 19,765 Thanked 15,303 Times in 2,539 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	1975 Where's the 'how you know you're getting older' thread?

10-21-2015, 06:13 PM	#15
randrum Member How Do You Identify?: Boi Preferred Pronoun?: Just call me G Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jan 2015 Location: Cincinnati Posts: 695 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,480 Thanked 3,056 Times in 668 Posts Rep Power: 21474847	I had a good feeling I was gay and my first girl crush in 6th grade. But I didn't officially come out until college, age 19. Ironically, and unintentionally, it was on National Coming Out Day. __________________