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			If You've had a cruddy day, what do You do to 'shake it off'?  Meditate?  Listen to music?  Read?  Walk? 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	What do You do to center Yourself...to bring peace to Your soul? ~Diva  | 
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			Right now, sleep would give me peace. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	I'll revisit this thread much later, when I'm more alert and give my view(s). -Scorp-  | 
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			Take a nice, long bath. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	Listen to music and read upstairs while the guys watch TV downstairs (I'm not big on TV). Masturbate. ![]() Words  | 
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			Nature 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	My Faith Sometimes just being in the presents of friends - not talking but being together  | 
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			- a good cigar 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	- a quiet moment just listening to the world whiz by - going for a long (8 hours+) bike ride and getting lost in the country with not a soul around - playing WoW  
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			~ Music........always the music.........<smile> 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	~Talking to my daughter ~Talking to The Berry ~Standing on my terrace, listening to the crunching of leaves in the woods, knowing that the deer are there..... ~Having a houseful of people, all talking and laughing....I could stand off to the side and listen to them for forever.....all that noise? Yes....it gives me peace! Go figure! ~A cup of coffee and quiet conversation in The Quiet Room ~Diva  | 
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			tonight, there's a soft rain...  
		
		
		
		
		
		
			Taking a nap today is preventing me from sleeping now... The rain is a gentle drizzle and so refreshing... So I decided to walk down my long driveway to check the mailbox for my Netflix... with flashlight in hand, I was so delighted to take a slow stroll in bare feet and hear nothing but the sounds of nature and so content NOT to hear any city noises... no traffic, no trains, no obnoxious neighbors and NO fire department or police sirens!! Pennsylvania has the MOST annoying fire sirens that sound like 1940's ear piercing air raid sirens!! And for some strange reason, I always ended up living near the fire department. Tonight... all I heard was the rain and LOTS of Spring Peepers and Bull Frogs. I could sit out hear all night... on a little hill in my Hundred Acre Wood. 
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			it depends on what's going on for me. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	Recently, I spent the weekend with two of my best friends at the beach and I was able to just be in the moment: enjoying the lull of the ocean surf, the dark stormy clouds on the horizon as the sun was nearly gone to the lone calls of birds up above and all of us giggling in merriment over things we were talking about... I need to do that more often - just get away, unplug from everything and just be with friends (or even on my own) out in nature.  
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			water 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			breeze music blue still of night sleeping pets being lost in a book the serenity of being surrounded by books in the silence of the library - or - art in a museum thinking only of the present moment good smells running my hands and feet through the cool sand pulling the blanket up over my ears in bed overcoming obstacles remembering i'm doing the best i can unconditional love 
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			Silence 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	meditation music building things fixing things riding around in the country with my big brother camp fires thunderstorms gardening  | 
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			What brings me peace... 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	Tilting my face toward the sunlight, closing my eyes, and feeling the warmth on my skin. Sitting in my rocking chair on my front porch at dusk, and watching the sun turn the sky into the prettiest shades of pink & purple cotton candy at sunset. Looking out at the waves at the beach, as they crash upon the shore, and feeling the salty breeze on my skin. A lil' ME time, with a nice glass of wine, a good book & curled up on the couch in my leopard print Snuggie (hey, don't judge)  
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			Graphics... Creating something pretty, at times I can lose myself in it for hours. I created the one in my signature line, but it's not one of my best, just one that would fit well.. lol 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			*edit for clarification* I do not draw the women, I just put them all together add some special effects, etc... In the one in my sig line, the woman on the left side was drawn just for me by the artist Ismael Rac. It's for sale in the site where he sells his graphics for public use, but I got to commission her for being member of the month at his forum. The full one is so cool, she's in leather corset, panties, garter, and has stockings, and she's holding a riding crop. He made a separate version that is only mine, that no one else can even buy where she has red streaks in her hair, and has leather studded collar and bracelets. 
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			The thought of a small white cottage with lacy curtains blowing in the wind....all white inside and out, with sky blue ceilings and a porch swing......a place to write.....and it sits on a cliff, overlooking the Pacific Ocean..... 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	I don't know if such a place exists....but the thought of it gives me peace just the same.  | 
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			Walking on the beach  
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
	Watching the waves Smoking a really good cigar A nice gentle breeze Drinking a really good cup of coffee or a mixed drink  | 
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			 I was having a bad day yesterday. I recently had a procedure that has had me trapped in the house for the past week.... I felt like I was going to bust outta my skin yesterday. Sooooo, I had someone come pick me up and take me to their place for a while. Sometimes just doing something entirely different helps me a LOT. Other times, complete silence is my soothing medicine. I can sit in silence all by myself for a good long time and come out of it greatly calmed down and with a new attitude. Then of course there's always critter love. Who can stay in a funk with fur babies lovin on them? I know I can't ![]() 
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			The sight, sound, and smell of the ocean 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
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			Silence gives me peace. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			I like to sit in silence and let my thoughts do it's thing and when all is said and done I can re-process. Hot baths/showers work wonders too. 
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			Gut wrenching, soul stirring music.
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			
		
		
		
		
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			Sometimes I go to St. Jude's Shrine and just sit in a pew for a few hours.  All walks of life come into the Shrine for everything from sight-seeing, to praying for a miracle, for shelter for a few hours, to just having some peace and quiet. 
		
		
		
		
		
		
		
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 If I'm angry or frustrated, Disturbed or Three Days Grace or Breaking Benjamin is good. If I am contemplative, One Republic or Daughtry or John Mayer or Rob Thomas is good. If I'm just kind of rowdy, Nickelback or Pitbull or Ciara is good. If I'm feeling sweet, Colbie Caillat or Demi Lovato or Mandy Moore is good. These are good singers and groups that I consider my 'go to' music, but there are several acts that have produced music that can fit into different categories, such as Christina Aguilera, Madonna, Bianca Ryan, and T-SO.  | 
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