What does maturity mean to you?

Kobi · 01-09-2011, 05:37 PM

A group of us, aged 50’s-65ish, went for a little retreat this weekend.
One of the discussions we had was about getting older and what it
meant to us – not in terms of age but the way we choose to live.

Two groups seemed to emerge.

1. the adventurers – like to take on new challenges, grab for the gusto,
like to take risks often.
2. the mellowers – preferring a more sedate existence, like the tried
and true, like to ease into things, take relatively few risks.

Of course each group had plenty to say about the other.
The adventurers felt the mellowers had given up on living and
settled into life. The mellowers felt the adventurers needed to
stop trying to recapture their youth and grow up.

There is a lot of wiggle room here, but would you see yourself
as an adventurer or a mellower or some other category you get
to name?

Gayla · 01-09-2011, 05:44 PM

In my head, I'm an adventurer! In reality, I'm not. As time goes on, I realize that I'm all about quiet and simple and predictable. I like my routine and knowing what to expect from my day. But in my head, man, it's really exciting!

morningstar55 · 01-09-2011, 05:57 PM

interesting topic........ kobi..

hmm id like to think im kinda in the middle.....
half of me likes the adventure..... my job well its a risk factor every time i drive down the highways....
as for the mellow half of me..... i love to just be able to cuddle up in the evening after working all day or a day out doing what ever and just watch some tv... make a nice dinner.. paint.. etc..

Just_G · 01-09-2011, 06:19 PM

First off, great thread!

I consider myself to be of the "settled in" nature, but as I am pushing 40 this year, and having just gone back to school to start part of my life over, I have decided it is time to BE more of an adventurer. There are so many things I have said I was going to do and never done.

Going back to school was the beginning of my new adventure, and I see things like skydiving, running a 5k, finding love (which we ALL know is an adventure all it's own any more!

), finding a new exciting job once I have my degree, and playing lots of volleyball in my future!

I don't think I am trying to recapture my youth by any means...I think I am just ready to come alive again and have some fun!

Laerkin · 01-09-2011, 06:50 PM

Adventure! The older I get, the more important it is to me to grab life by the horns and dip my toe into as many different pools as I possibly can.

If I wonder what something is like, then by god I'm going to try and find out. Life is too short to sit around and wonder. I want to taste it, smell it, feel it, see it, touch it ALL.

Bring on new foods, new places, new friends, new knowledge!!!!

You never know when that bus is gonna hit ya and it's lights out. So I want to live as much as possible with the time I have.

And, the more I experience...the more I WANT to experience.

WOOHOO!!!!!

Blade · 01-09-2011, 07:04 PM

I guess it all depends on how one defines adventure. Will I still jump on a 4 wheeler and act stupid, probably but not real stupid. My ole bones don't heal like they once did.

I'm accepting of change and trying new things. However, I'm very settled and prefer the routine in my day. I'm very predictable from my physical everyday life to the way I will respond to situations. So I'd say I'm sorta in the middle adventurer and mellow.

Great thread by the way!

01-09-2011, 05:37 PM	#1
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01-09-2011, 06:50 PM	#5
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