The Anti-Love List

dixie · 06-20-2011, 11:29 PM

Here's a place to list the unwanted things in a potential partner... and of course, I'll go first.

Do Not Want!
- someone who will make me cry (not in the good way)
- someone who does not exist and/or is fraudulent in their existence
- someone who treats their family poorly (family is very important to me)
- someone who talks down to me
- someone who will not communicate openly with me
- someone who is demeaning to others and/or me and mine
- someone who is constantly in a bad mood
- someone with no personality
- someone with no sense of humor
- someone who is abusive (physically or verbally) to other people and/or animals
- someone who does not take me seriously as an individual
- someone who wants to change me (if you want to change me, why be with me to begin with?)
- someone who lacks passion, not only in the bedroom but in life in general
- someone rude or lacking manners, especially in public
- someone who doesn't believe me when I tell them how I feel

dixie · 06-21-2011, 01:44 AM

Oh, and someone with bad personal hygiene. That's a no-no.

pajama · 06-21-2011, 02:04 AM

Woo Hoo! Thank you Dixie.

There are some things that I don't want because of childhood issues with my aunt whom I loathe....
I don't want a hypochondriac, or really even someone who complains much about any illness or bad feelings.
I don't want someone obsessed (mildly or severely) with weather.
I don't want someone that is passive agressive. (I broke myself of that habit and don't want it in a mate.)
I don't want someone that can't live in the present.

Then there's the other stuff.
I don't want someone who doesn't have a sense of wonderlust.
I don't want an opinionated christian.
I strongly prefer a non-smoker. (Although I have been with 3 in my 20+ years of dating.)
I don't want someone who has a menagerie of animals.
I strongly (even stronger than the non-smoker) prefer someone that doesn't have children in the home. (Only dated 1 of these.)
I don't want someone who is not intelligent. (Don't confuse that with uneducated. Some of the most brilliant people I've known never even finished High School.)
I don't want someone "vanilla" in the bedroom. Well or in any part of their life, for that matter.
I don't like skinny.
I don't want someone that wants to try to change me. I can be changed on some things, but you have to plant the seed gently.

I want to interject here, that the things listed aren't bad, or carry any judgement to you or anything, just my personal preferences.

Mr Nice Guy · 06-21-2011, 04:00 AM

Well, I don't want someone who says they're gay and then after I fall in love they go straight. So if your not a real lesbian then go to hell.

girl_dee · 06-21-2011, 05:48 AM

no addictions please

no exes that you can't let go of please

no fakers or takers

apretty · 06-21-2011, 08:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ElusiveButch

Well, I don't want someone who says they're gay and then after I fall in love they go straight. So if your not a real lesbian then go to hell.

that's a bit judgmental.

T4Texas · 06-21-2011, 07:37 PM

I guess my list has grown over time and experience.

I dont want someone who gives up and wants to leave at the first sign of a problem.
Someone who is even remotely close to being bipolar
Someone who is under 30
Someone who only wants me for what they can get and not for me myself
Someone who is high maintenance
Someone who cant carry an intelligent conversation
Someone who doesnt have a job or a place to live
Someone who isnt mature regardless of the age
Someone who needs constant justification. I am an extremely supportive individual, but day in and out of buoying someone up gets old.
Someone who wont stand up for themselves
If you dont share at least a few similar interests...forget it.
Someone who knows that a relationship is not all about sex but about two people working together to make it work.
I also prefer non smokers and women without small children.
No guilt trippers or passive agressive types
No Liars
and since my life revolves around monogamy, No bi's, polys or other forms. WE dont share over here.

Please note that my choices are simply my preferences and not meant to slander or debase anyone that falls in those categories. live and let live I say.
Gawd, if I thought about this subject long enough I could probably go on forever. LOL

06-20-2011, 11:29 PM	#1
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06-21-2011, 07:37 PM	#7
T4Texas Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Ready to play again! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 233 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 436 Thanked 647 Times in 167 Posts Rep Power: 6739721	I guess my list has grown over time and experience. I dont want someone who gives up and wants to leave at the first sign of a problem. Someone who is even remotely close to being bipolar Someone who is under 30 Someone who only wants me for what they can get and not for me myself Someone who is high maintenance Someone who cant carry an intelligent conversation Someone who doesnt have a job or a place to live Someone who isnt mature regardless of the age Someone who needs constant justification. I am an extremely supportive individual, but day in and out of buoying someone up gets old. Someone who wont stand up for themselves If you dont share at least a few similar interests...forget it. Someone who knows that a relationship is not all about sex but about two people working together to make it work. I also prefer non smokers and women without small children. No guilt trippers or passive agressive types No Liars and since my life revolves around monogamy, No bi's, polys or other forms. WE dont share over here. Please note that my choices are simply my preferences and not meant to slander or debase anyone that falls in those categories. live and let live I say. Gawd, if I thought about this subject long enough I could probably go on forever. LOL __________________ Chivalry is when you meet a woman you would rather die for, than live with.

06-21-2011, 01:44 AM	#2
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06-21-2011, 02:04 AM	#3
pajama Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Klingon Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Just South of Nashvegas Baby Posts: 3,115 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,546 Thanked 7,476 Times in 1,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Woo Hoo! Thank you Dixie. There are some things that I don't want because of childhood issues with my aunt whom I loathe.... I don't want a hypochondriac, or really even someone who complains much about any illness or bad feelings. I don't want someone obsessed (mildly or severely) with weather. I don't want someone that is passive agressive. (I broke myself of that habit and don't want it in a mate.) I don't want someone that can't live in the present. Then there's the other stuff. I don't want someone who doesn't have a sense of wonderlust. I don't want an opinionated christian. I strongly prefer a non-smoker. (Although I have been with 3 in my 20+ years of dating.) I don't want someone who has a menagerie of animals. I strongly (even stronger than the non-smoker) prefer someone that doesn't have children in the home. (Only dated 1 of these.) I don't want someone who is not intelligent. (Don't confuse that with uneducated. Some of the most brilliant people I've known never even finished High School.) I don't want someone "vanilla" in the bedroom. Well or in any part of their life, for that matter. I don't like skinny. I don't want someone that wants to try to change me. I can be changed on some things, but you have to plant the seed gently. I want to interject here, that the things listed aren't bad, or carry any judgement to you or anything, just my personal preferences.

06-21-2011, 04:00 AM	#4
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06-21-2011, 05:48 AM	#5
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