Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[disinterested]

I don't wear a dress to our date, but I'll look great.
I'll have spent hours in bath and in front of my garderobe.
My shoes fit to my scarf and I'm wearing jewelry all over.

If you need to be cool - not opening the door for me and divide the bill -
it will be the first and the last date.
I don't need your macho attitude, but i adore you, if you're sure of yourself, charismatic, individual woman with bright eyes and sweet smile.

I've got a responsible position and I hope you found your way in life, too.
Have my flat, my car, my cat and all other stuff I need to life, and want to share with you, if you know, how to value.

I exactly know what I don't want and I'll let you know - in a roundabout way.

I love sarcasm, irony and wordplay - practicing every day.

yes ... and I'm typically Sagittarius - can love 180 percent on one day and will be bored out on the next

[SweetJane]

What kind of femme am I? Hmm.
I used to think I was a tomboi femme because I love to camp, fish, hike, and learn to do my own car repairs.....But you know that's not all that I am.

Maybe I'm a bluejean femme who feels more comfortable in tight jeans and a t-shirt but I might pair it with a white rabbit ski jacket in the winter...There is still a fierce femme in me.

I can do business casual well and can strut into a meeting with confidence and a little bling.

I can also do high opera with a long black gown, hair just so, and a smile that will get you. But the high heels are a thing of the past and showing leg is only for the bedroom---though I have a dream this year of wearing a pair of red heel and a killer skirt slit up to my thigh.....

Femme is an attitude. It's confidence. It's just who I am.

It's also my gentle approach with people, though I can nail you to the wall with words if you abuse me with your snarky attitude.

Femme is also my approach to life and living.

[spritzerJ]

I am the femme:
- that languishes without tripping the cognitive triggers of whatever interests me at the moment.
- that would protect you with devotion but you'll have to tell me how. Since you are unique and deserves to be treated just so. And I am a terrible guesser
-who doesn't dress to get attention of lots of eyes. I dress up for the ones I want. For those that holds open the safe space to be girly.
- will expose herself to show you the energy within worth stroking.
- you'll have to catch giggling and dancing when I think you aren't looking. If you want me to be that open about it you'll get to lead the way.
- who blossoms in space and closeness.
- that knows the power in silence but must be reminded.
- who struggles mightily with being vulnerable and needs to be told to let go over and over.

there is more... there's always more.

[macele]

now, today, first time seeing this thread. i started on last page (i sometimes read books that way), and as i'm reading ... the posts keep getting better and better. so i thought, ok, lets go to the beginning and read ... just for moods sake. after reading medusa's post, i don't know how anyone could follow lol. i say this respectfully. high five to medusa. i will continue reading ... you all tell your femme mighty fine.

[kittygrrl]

but why would i want to limit who i am by your imagination or my own?..i live and our realities are recreated and merge moment to moment- how can i put words or labels to define that?..impossible..just sayin..

[starryeyes]

I am a girly femme. I love dressing up, make up, hair, and I am usually the most dressed up person wherever I go.

I am an independent femme. I own my own house, I pay my own bills, I have my own business, I own my own car... yadayada, you get the picture!

But, at the same time, I am a dependent femme. I need a strong partner I can depend on, who will take care of me, who will make me feel safe and secure, and who puts me first.

I am a loving femme. I love hard and strong. I am very faithful to the person I am with, and also my friends and my family. I take care of the person that I am with, and always put them first.

I am a sensitive femme. I get hurt easily, I get attached very easily, I fall love way too easily and I cry at movies, sad stories, whatever.

I am a proud femme. Proud to be queer, proud to love butches, proud to be girly, and proud of who I have become.

But overall, I feel I am a pretty awesome femme. I love who I am, who I have become and the prospects of my future!!

Femmes rock!!!!

Smiles!

[msW8ing]

Today i am the dazed and confused femme second guessing myself and my decisions

[SuddenlyWestFemme]

Originally Posted by blush

I am femme.

...But this year has been hard, and I’ve relied on compliments and worn-down thought patterns to tell me what MY femme-ness is.

Wow... love this! (love the whole thread). This year has been hard and I've also relied on compliments and worn-down thought patterns to tell me what MY femme-ness is.

But along the way I've learned a thing or two about the kind of Femme I really am.

I am a NYCFemme who had to learn to mow the Seattle lawn while crying my eyes out. That darned grass refused to stop growing just because I was alone.

I am a NYCFemme who had to learn to fix the furnace because the kids needed heat and there was nobody else to do it.

I am a NYCFemme who had to take out the trash, clean out the gutters, catch and release those scary wolf spiders, and change a tire.

I am a NYCFemme who had to learn to leave the arts - my passion - to enter the 'real world' to pay the bills on my own, buy a car to get me to work, make Seattle friends (still working on this one) and know that I am enough on my own.

2800 miles and life changing loss showed me that FEMME means I have the gift of being strong enough to overcome any obstacle!

Could I have done all this if I wasn't Femme? Sure... but it certainly wouldn't have been as lovely.

[uniquetobeme]

Lets see...I don't always wear make-up, a dress, and high heels, but I love it when I do. I'm a mom and have a very nurturing nature. I am sensitive, giving, and I have a big heart.

Oh, I LOVE getting my nails done and seeing my toes with purple polish and for some strange reason, I seem to type better when I have nail polish on my fingers...

A cute butch always catches my eye. It is profound, those moments we pass in a grocery store and lock eyes for a second that feels like an eternity...anyway...LOL

I don't need much, but I do really enjoy all the little things that make me feel special. Ok, I love to be spoiled, and I don't mean with gifts (although I don't mind those LOL), but I mean opening the door for me, saying and doing things that make me feel like a lady, making time for me, and flirting with me (which are actually the best gifts to me).

This may sound wrong, but I love when someone I'm attracted to is attracted to me, and that discomfort that they show, it is adorable. Or, the first time they see me in a dress and heels and are speechless...or can't form a complete sentence..that rocks :-) Ok, I like what I do to butch women, but not at all in a malicious way. Alright...I'll admit it...I might be a slight tease...but I don't think they mind...LOL (plus it all turns around and I end up wrapped around their finger...so I enjoy my moments while I have them) LOL

There is so much more, but at some point, or perhaps at all points, it becomes difficult to distinguish which traits are specified to the kind of femme I am and to who I am as a person...so, maybe I should keep it simple and say that I'm just a femme and I like it :-)

[girl_dee]

BUMPPPP for the femme sisters!


today i feel fearless and brave!

[LipstickLola]

It's time for me to change the oil in my truck again. I'll probably wear my pink ballcap, and just a tad of lipstick.

It will be nice to be someone's princess again someday

[Lady Pamela]

This is one of my favorite threads...So I had to BUMP IT, in hopes all you femme's out there will add to it.

It is such a beautifully raw, truthful thread...gotta love it!

Hope to see more writing...smiles

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I am a Gemini femme in every way.

I bore easily.

I love the shinies and sparklies.

I give 100% when I dive into something. Of course, when I lose interest and embark on another venture, I give that one 100% too.

One of the most hurtful comments someone ever made to me was that I bored them. I take great pride in bringing excitement and variety to someone's life, even if things aren't always hunky dory, so that really hit me hard and deep.

I go from 0 to 60 in .2 seconds. I am Italian and have that temperament. Little stuff blows over quickly and without damage. Big stuff simmers like a pot of sauce for a long time and when I'm done, prepare for the big kaboom.

One minute, I am demure and soft and sweet and the next, I am crass and mean and sassy. Contradictions, yes. I have them. Embody them.

Terms used to describe me (by myself and others) include: finicky, selfish, giving, funny, bright, loud, quiet, vulnerable, defensive, annoying, pleasant, driven, lazy, chunky, tiny, private, open, fearless, scared shitless, bold, shy, talented, dramatic, wallflower, spirited, an emotional void, as well as umpteen others. I'm sure this has cleared up any questions one might have about who I am.

There are always multiple streams of thought in my head. I see every situation from multiple angles and, while I attempt to wade through the variables, people often assume I am wishy washy. I'm not...usually. I just want to make the very best decision and/or choice possible. Some times that takes time.

I have control issues. When I feel control is being taken from me, without my consent and without negotiation, I throw up walls.

I firmly believe in the mantra *my body, my choice*. I determine who and what touch my body and in what capacity. If someone doesn't respect that and my body, then it will be my choice to knock them on their ass. Despite my short stature, I am perfectly capable of doing just that.

While I am perfectly capable of many things, I derive pleasure from people doing things for me. Not because they think they should, but because they want to, and I want to do things for them. It's a cycle that, once in motion, is mutually symbiotic. I am his Princess; he is my Prince.

Music is life. I, literally and absolutely, would not be here...typing this...breathing air...without it. I don't care what anyone thinks, but I know for a fact that Madonna saved my life and, in return, she gets at least 15 songs on my MP3, always and forever. Even with over 1300 songs on it, that is devotion, man.

I have eclectic tastes. Musically, I love Madonna, Kelly Clarkson, Aretha, Marvin Gaye, Christina Aguilera, Nickelback, Daughtry, Disturbed, Rob Thomas, TSO, Tina Arena, Chaka Khan, Adam Lambert, 3 Doors Down, *Nsync, Timbaland, Missy Elliott, Annie Lennox/Eurythmics, Bianca Ryan, Black Eyed Peas, Carrie Underwood, Britney, Deborah Gibson, DJ Laz, Faith Hill, God-des and She, Hilary Duff, Leona Lewis, Maroon 5, Prince, Rick Spingfield, Rick James, James Brown, Three Days Grace, Vanessa Hudgens, Ciara, Everlife and about 5000 other singers, musicians, bands and groups.

I rarely have one favorite of anything. Mostly, it's my top 3 faves. I do have a favorite movie though. I decided, as a child watching it, that that was going to be my favorite and it was done.

I compartmentalize things very well.

I am a referential artist and crafter, though my skill level is minimal.

I never know what to say to someone when they suffer a great loss. I feel helpless in situations in which I don't know what the 'right' thing to do or say is.

I often end my sentences with prepositions and I don't care, even though I fancy myself a writer on occasion and am kind of a grammar snob (but only about certain things).

I am Wonderland and sometimes, I feel like Alice, lost deep within myself.

*bumping my own stuff*

Cuz, like Lady Pamela, I want to hear what my femme sisters have to say.

[girl_dee]

i am a femme who has yet to conquer all the things she's wanted to, i'll get there!

[Lady Pamela]

Pardon me for bouncing..but I loved this thread and want to see if anyone else wanted to post in it. smiles

[yotlyolqualli]

What kind of femme and I?

I am the kind of femme who likes to wear jeans, skirts, shorts and dresses equally. I very rarely wear/use makeup. I've worn heels twice in the past year and both times told myself "never again!" They HURT!

I am the kind of femme who likes to get her hands dirty. Nothing like running my fingers through freshly overturned soil. I love gardening, though I hate weeding.

I am the kind of femme who will dress somewhat modestly, but not matronly. If/when I am with someone, that person only, gets to see anymore than what I show the world, both figuratively and literally.

I can paint my nails and do sometimes, but never mourn one that gets broken.

I am a nurturer by nature. I am strong enough to carry heavy items, independent enough to think and act under my own volition and clever enough to build a deck.

I am a femme who knows how to use tools, even power tools (except my pretty purple and lime green chainsaw....*sighing). I have swung a hammer in my lifetime, as well as a maul and an axe.

I am the kind of femme who will cook for you, sew buttons on your shirts or fix a tear or patch a hole. I will bake for you, care for you and even cede things to you. However, I will not cater to you.

I am the kind of femme who hates housework, but will do it because it's "my job" and I've yet to find someone to do it for me. My Mother used to say that that was why she had so many children.

Finally, I am me. Unique, sometimes odd, often sarcastic (light heartedly most of the time) often vulnerable, but strong enough to mend my own wounds and strengthen my own weaknesses. I love deeply and protect fiercely.

I may not be the perfect femme. I may not be high maintenance. I may not be ultra girly. But if I were, then I wouldn't be me and I LIKE me and love being me.

PS. to compensate for my pretty chainsaw being taken away by my father (he was afraid for my safety) I went out and bought a pretty orange and purple fishing pole. When I told my brother this, he rolled his eyes, took my "fly fishing rod" away, and gave me one for the kind of fishing I ws attempting to do. It was an ugly brown

[Beloved]

I am FEMME

I am fiercely loyal and will love you with all that I am. I crave emotional intensity and this can lead me into relationships with people that aren't really good for me. I am very forgiving but if you hurt me over and over my love will dry up and my soul will pull away.

I have been a girly girl since birth. As a toddler I refused to wear pants. I can fall in love several times a day with a child, a cat, a phrase, a song. I love shopping, sparkly things, babies, and animals. I am compassionate. I save turtles, lizards and snakes from the road. I even save caterpillars and bugs on the sidewalk.

I have been through hell and back and have put the hours in in therapy to heal myself. I was diagnosed with PTSD after being kidnapped and held against my will at 18 years old. Please don't ask me about it because I only talk about it with people I am close to. As bad as it was I wouldn't change it because it made me who I am today. I am a survivor and I am stronger because of it.

I am strong, independent, opinionated, and take care of myself. That doesn't mean I don't like being taken care of at times. I am powerful but I will give up that power in the bedroom to a butch that is worthy and I feel safe with. I am affectionate and kinky and I love sex. Good sex is built on trust and trust is very sexy. It gives you the ability to let go and enjoy the ride.

I am a mother and I love my daughter more than anything in the world. Don't fuck with my kid because you will lose.

I am a work in progress. I am always trying to improve myself. I am not perfect but I am me and I am femme.

[~ocean]

one word to describe who i am.. a "keeper"

[pinkgeek]

I am a femme who reads almost anything with words, obsessed with the wordsmitthing of others. Who wears dirt smudges with mascara and leaps from tall building to save kittens, or books, or shoes, and most certainly her friends. I am not fearless or scarless or tattooless.

I am irreverent and reverent in the same breathy mouthful of sarcastic pragmatism. My heart lives under the scale of a dragon and the leaf of a plant, inside the purse of a strange lost girl and on the shelf of a kitchen that over looks the ocean.

I collect lip gloss as readily as I collect knowledge. My hair has it's own zip code and fan club. I've learned to embrace my mane the 5 letters of my plain tall name.

I love harsh climates and jagged passionate reality poured over my favorite summer wine from Italy. I infuse my gin with Earl Grey tea and my whiskey with masala spices.

I study in a tiara. I am probably an acquired taste.

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by Beloved

Good sex is built on trust and trust is very sexy. It gives you the ability to let go and enjoy the ride.

I so agree with you about trust!
Scout