Butches!!! - Page 14

ruffryder · 11-19-2011, 01:34 PM

UofMfan · 11-19-2011, 07:06 PM

*Anya* · 12-25-2011, 08:08 AM

Why? My favorite subject!

jac · 12-30-2011, 06:13 AM

Stoney lips...lol

No more bare feet shots after my accident nearly 4yrs ago.

uglyboi · 12-30-2011, 07:13 AM

I can not submit a picture as I don't have any lips. I am like a Mr Potato Head. I can't even draw any on. My feet have more lips than my face.

12-30-2011, 07:18 AM

Please remember folks that we're not meant to post pictures of ourselves except in our own gallery.

dykeumentary · 03-14-2014, 07:28 AM

Ok so I'm here at the hospital with a dear friend. Her appearance is that of a heteronormative woman. My appearance is that of a gender non-conforming butch woman. Here are my thoughts for discussion:

Isn't it interesting that her "straight appearance" (she is straight) never is enough to make anyone think that i am straight too? Why do I magically lesbianize whomever I'm walking next to?

When the staff refer to her as my partner, do i say "We are not a couple. Lesbians can have straight friends." Or should I let people practice what it's like to be around people they perceive as gay?

Also: Hospital gowns are non-gendered garments. How is it that she looks so different then I do when I've had to wear them recently? Amazing. She looks good!

imperfect_cupcake · 03-14-2014, 07:44 AM

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Originally Posted by dykeumentary

Ok so I'm here at the hospital with a dear friend. Her appearance is that of a heteronormative woman. My appearance is that of a gender non-conforming butch woman. Here are my thoughts for discussion:

Isn't it interesting that her "straight appearance" (she is straight) never is enough to make anyone think that i am straight too? Why do I magically lesbianize whomever I'm walking next to?

When the staff refer to her as my partner, do i say "We are not a couple. Lesbians can have straight friends." Or should I let people practice what it's like to be around people they perceive as gay?

Also: Hospital gowns are non-gendered garments. How is it that she looks so different then I do when I've had to wear them recently? Amazing. She looks good!

I am extremely tempted to say something smart arse and sexual as a response. But look how polite I'm getting since I left the UK...

dykeumentary · 03-14-2014, 07:47 AM

Say it. I dare you.

imperfect_cupcake · 03-14-2014, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by dykeumentary

Why do I magically lesbianize whomever I'm walking next to?

That sounds like fun. Would you like to magically lezbianize me?

BullDog · 03-14-2014, 07:56 AM

I personally am happy that people don't ever seem to assume I am straight. I am a walking stereotype, lol, but it does suit me. I have been out with straight woman friends where people assumed we were a couple and also femme friends as well.

I think the hospital staff is trying to be considerate of a lesbian couple, even though you aren't one. Much better than kicking you out.

But yes, it is interesting...

dykeumentary · 03-14-2014, 08:16 AM

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Originally Posted by honeybarbara

That sounds like fun. Would you like to magically lezbianize me?

Sure, I'd be glad to get out my wand, to show you the ropes.

imperfect_cupcake · 03-14-2014, 08:28 AM

Wands and ropes. Lezboism sounds very interesting. Do we wear the hospital gowns?
Or is that just one person?

dykeumentary · 03-14-2014, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by honeybarbara

Wands and ropes. Lezboism sounds very interesting. Do we wear the hospital gowns?
Or is that just one person?

You can wear whatever makes you feel sexy.
My extraordinary lezbonizationary skills will turn anything you've got to my purposes.

imperfect_cupcake · 03-14-2014, 10:14 AM

*coloured impressed*

dykeumentary · 03-14-2014, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by BullDog

I personally am happy that people don't ever seem to assume I am straight. I am a walking stereotype, lol, but it does suit me. I have been out with straight woman friends where people assumed we were a couple and also femme friends as well.

I think the hospital staff is trying to be considerate of a lesbian couple, even though you aren't one. Much better than kicking you out.

But yes, it is interesting...

Why do you think that happens? I don't get it. But some Femmes I've dated really liked being outed by my appearance.

Also, Medical hospital workers have been very nice to me, about my gender stuff and nice to my various girlfriends.
The psych hospital doctors were less friendly.. My Crazy Boxers

imperfect_cupcake · 03-14-2014, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by dykeumentary

Why do you think that happens? I don't get it. But some Femmes I've dated really liked being outed by my appearance.

Also, Medical hospital workers have been very nice to me, about my gender stuff and nice to my various girlfriends.
The psych hospital doctors were less friendly.. My Crazy Boxers

Well, it's nice to be seen. It's a relief. It's less smothering. It can be really depressing at times to be always seen as something you are not. The having to take the deep breath and correct people can be... Awkward at best and gladiatorial at worst. So it's nice to not have to have that conversation, for once, to be seen. Having a butchdyke accessory is something I have occasionally pondered. They make great purses too, with the whole "trousers that have pockets thing." My exwife was a very fashionable purse. She was like Gok Wan.

That film was hilarious/painful. If she was playing a therapist, she did quite well!

Perhaps it was that they were worn over tights with a blanket as a cape?

imperfect_cupcake · 03-14-2014, 04:06 PM

That's true. If I'm wearing something girly and I'm with a bloke my age they assume we are partners.
If I was with my exwife they assumed she was my son. That used to crack her the fuck up and have me huff off....

DapperButch · 03-14-2014, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by dykeumentary

Why do you think that happens? I don't get it. But some Femmes I've dated really liked being outed by my appearance.

If you were male, they would assume you were straight and that you were her husband or boyfriend. You "look like a lesbian", which tells them you date women. Just like if you were male, this makes you romantically attached to your friend.

People don't get that people who could be attracted to each other could just be friends.

You haven't experienced this before?

I find it very logical.

dykeumentary · 03-14-2014, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

If you were male, they would assume you were straight and that you were her husband or boyfriend. You "look like a lesbian", which tells them you date women. Just like if you were male, this makes you romantically attached to your friend.

People don't get that people who could be attracted to each other could just be friends.

You haven't experienced this before?

I find it very logical.

It's weirder than that. Maybe it's NYC but people are near one another all the time. In my experience a gay man walking near a straight man doesn't generate the same assumptions abour the nature of their relationship. And an out non-butch lesbian doesnt confer lesbian status on the people she's walking near.

It is kind of hot in an old-school way- that I'm seen as a butch predator and a person capable of recruiting to a sinful lifestyle. I like it.
Protect your daughters!

12-25-2011, 08:08 AM	#263
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03-14-2014, 07:28 AM	#267
dykeumentary Member How Do You Identify?: butch dyke Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 449 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 341 Thanked 1,548 Times in 359 Posts Rep Power: 19160663	Ok so I'm here at the hospital with a dear friend. Her appearance is that of a heteronormative woman. My appearance is that of a gender non-conforming butch woman. Here are my thoughts for discussion: Isn't it interesting that her "straight appearance" (she is straight) never is enough to make anyone think that i am straight too? Why do I magically lesbianize whomever I'm walking next to? When the staff refer to her as my partner, do i say "We are not a couple. Lesbians can have straight friends." Or should I let people practice what it's like to be around people they perceive as gay? Also: Hospital gowns are non-gendered garments. How is it that she looks so different then I do when I've had to wear them recently? Amazing. She looks good! __________________ The Origins of Butch & Femme (a retelling): https://youtu.be/U7VkXpZl4Mk Watch more of my funny butch/femme movies here: https://www.youtube.com/dykeumentary1

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dykeumentary Member How Do You Identify?: butch dyke Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 449 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 341 Thanked 1,548 Times in 359 Posts Rep Power: 19160663	Say it. I dare you. __________________ The Origins of Butch & Femme (a retelling): https://youtu.be/U7VkXpZl4Mk Watch more of my funny butch/femme movies here: https://www.youtube.com/dykeumentary1

03-14-2014, 07:56 AM	#271
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12-30-2011, 06:13 AM	#264
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03-14-2014, 08:28 AM	#273
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imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	coloured impressed

03-14-2014, 04:06 PM	#278
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,712 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	That's true. If I'm wearing something girly and I'm with a bloke my age they assume we are partners. If I was with my exwife they assumed she was my son. That used to crack her the fuck up and have me huff off....