When a Femme meets a Butch... dating advice!

[Katniss]

Originally Posted by Dance-with-me

THAT's what the real issue is here - I have no clue as to how to move it from professional to social, especially if we don't have very much reason to be face-to-face.

Ask her out. You already have something in common (the charity group, yes?)
You have her contact info. Trust me, your lips will not fall off your face if you open you mouth and say, "Hey, I really enjoyed chatting with you the other day. It seems we have a few things in common and I would like to get to know you better. Would you like to go out *on a date* next...(blah, blah...fill in the blank as to where/when)".

Also, please use the word "date." I have 3 charities I am involved with plus some serious hobbies. If someone asks me to "get together" at an event involving one of those things I assume it is because they are interested in the charity/hobby as well, not because they are angling for a date.

As to the whole B-F who should ask whom....if you are confident and comfortable initiating the date and the Butch in question finds that a turn-off...well, they weren't the one for you and best find out now.

Good luck...and remember, sometimes the biggest risk of all is not taking one.


Katniss~~