If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently?

WingsOnFire · 08-22-2010, 10:18 AM

I am not sure I would change much of anything.... my ten year controlling relationship led me here... yes it caused me severe emotional distress... I have grown so much from it, learned so much from it. It made me strong and independent. It kept me from falling into the same footsteps of my family. And if I hadnt moved here and done the growing I have done I wouldnt have met my Daddy.. the love of my life...

However, the growing I did from that past relationship caused me to become extremely dominant and put up defense mechanisms that are unhealthy. I wish over the past year I had done some self reflection on how that dominance was affecting me, us. I am glad I see it now. Now to work on "me" and make healthy changes.

08-22-2010, 10:18 AM	#11
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I am not sure I would change much of anything.... my ten year controlling relationship led me here... yes it caused me severe emotional distress... I have grown so much from it, learned so much from it. It made me strong and independent. It kept me from falling into the same footsteps of my family. And if I hadnt moved here and done the growing I have done I wouldnt have met my Daddy.. the love of my life... However, the growing I did from that past relationship caused me to become extremely dominant and put up defense mechanisms that are unhealthy. I wish over the past year I had done some self reflection on how that dominance was affecting me, us. I am glad I see it now. Now to work on "me" and make healthy changes. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png