Obituaries

Kobi · 09-06-2010, 02:55 PM

Having been in health care for so long, I got into the habit of reading the obits. It was always an eye opener to see the lives of those I had cared for but knew little about unfold in print.

It used to be that obits were a compilation of facts. Nowadays, many seem to be more personalized, more of a tribute to the person by those who seemingly knew them best.

But, I wonder how the folks in our community are represented in obits. Here in Mass, I have seen spouses of our community members do both a narrative of facts or a tribute or a combination of the two.

I have seen those without spouses whose family of origin has elected to stick to the facts.

I am troubled by the latter. A case in point is a member of our own site, Lieslgrrl or LieslKate, who died a couple of weeks ago. Her obit was what I expected to be written by a family of origin. It was factual but did little to reflect the person I knew.

As an older, single person, I have taken care to be sure "my house" is in order. Now, I am thinking it might be best to write my own obit, so it reflects what I would want it to say.

I am wondering if others have any thoughts on this or if they have encountered similar feelings.

09-06-2010, 02:55 PM	#1
Kobi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Biological female. Lesbian. Relationship Status: Happy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Hanging out in the Atlantic. Posts: 9,234 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,840 Thanked 34,654 Times in 7,652 Posts Rep Power: 21474861	Obituaries Having been in health care for so long, I got into the habit of reading the obits. It was always an eye opener to see the lives of those I had cared for but knew little about unfold in print. It used to be that obits were a compilation of facts. Nowadays, many seem to be more personalized, more of a tribute to the person by those who seemingly knew them best. But, I wonder how the folks in our community are represented in obits. Here in Mass, I have seen spouses of our community members do both a narrative of facts or a tribute or a combination of the two. I have seen those without spouses whose family of origin has elected to stick to the facts. I am troubled by the latter. A case in point is a member of our own site, Lieslgrrl or LieslKate, who died a couple of weeks ago. Her obit was what I expected to be written by a family of origin. It was factual but did little to reflect the person I knew. As an older, single person, I have taken care to be sure "my house" is in order. Now, I am thinking it might be best to write my own obit, so it reflects what I would want it to say. I am wondering if others have any thoughts on this or if they have encountered similar feelings.