Is Marriage for you?

theoddz · 02-10-2012, 08:46 AM

This from the script of one of my most favorite scenes in one of my most absolute favorite movies, "Out of Africa" (1985). I'm posting it because it deals with marriage and hits the nail on the head with how I feel about marriage.

Scene5

Karen: When you go away on safari, are you ever with someone else?

Denys: I'd be with you if I wanted to be with anyone.

Karen: Do you ever get lonely?

Denys: Sometimes.

Karen: Do you ever wonder if I am lonely?

Denys: No, I don't.

Karen: Do you think about me at all?

Denys: Often.

Karen: But not enough to come back.

Denys: I do come back all the time. What is it?

Karen: Nothing. Bror has asked me for a divorce. He found someone that he wants to marry. I just thought we might do that someday.

Denys: Divorce? How... How would a wedding change things?

Karen: I would have someone of my own.

Denys: You wouldn't.

Karen: What's wrong with marriage, anyway?

Denys: Have you ever seen one you admire?

Karen: Yes, I have. Many. Belfields, for one.

Denys: He sent her home for the rains in 1910. Didn't tell her they were over till 1913.

Karen: It's not a joke. People marry. It's not revolutionary. There are animals that mate for life.

Denys: Geese.

Karen: You use the damn animals for your own argument. You won't let me use them for mine.

Denys: I'd mate for life. One day at a time.

Karen: I'd just like someone to ask me once, that's all. Promise me you'll do that, if I promise to say no?

Denys: Just trust you, eh?

Karen: When you go away, you don't always go on safari, do you just want to be away.

Denys: It's not meant to hurt you.

Karen: It does.

Denys: I'm with you because I choose to be with you. I don't want to live someone else's idea of how to live. Don't ask me to do that. I don't want to find out one day that I'm at the end of someone else's life. I'm willing to pay for mine. To be lonely sometimes. To die alone, if I have to. I think that's fair.

Karen: Not quite. You want me to pay for it as well.

Denys: No, you have a choice, and you're not willing to do the same for me. I won't be closer to you and I won't love you more because of a piece of paper.

Good thread.

~Theo~

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02-10-2012, 08:46 AM	#17
theoddz Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Cranky Old Poop Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. Beast Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 3,532 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,086 Thanked 9,941 Times in 2,507 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	This from the script of one of my most favorite scenes in one of my most absolute favorite movies, "Out of Africa" (1985). I'm posting it because it deals with marriage and hits the nail on the head with how I feel about marriage. Scene5 Karen: When you go away on safari, are you ever with someone else? Denys: I'd be with you if I wanted to be with anyone. Karen: Do you ever get lonely? Denys: Sometimes. Karen: Do you ever wonder if I am lonely? Denys: No, I don't. Karen: Do you think about me at all? Denys: Often. Karen: But not enough to come back. Denys: I do come back all the time. What is it? Karen: Nothing. Bror has asked me for a divorce. He found someone that he wants to marry. I just thought we might do that someday. Denys: Divorce? How... How would a wedding change things? Karen: I would have someone of my own. Denys: You wouldn't. Karen: What's wrong with marriage, anyway? Denys: Have you ever seen one you admire? Karen: Yes, I have. Many. Belfields, for one. Denys: He sent her home for the rains in 1910. Didn't tell her they were over till 1913. Karen: It's not a joke. People marry. It's not revolutionary. There are animals that mate for life. Denys: Geese. Karen: You use the damn animals for your own argument. You won't let me use them for mine. Denys: *I'd mate for life. One day at a time.* Karen: I'd just like someone to ask me once, that's all. Promise me you'll do that, if I promise to say no? Denys: Just trust you, eh? Karen: When you go away, you don't always go on safari, do you just want to be away. Denys: It's not meant to hurt you. Karen: It does. Denys: I'm with you because I choose to be with you. I don't want to live someone else's idea of how to live. Don't ask me to do that. I don't want to find out one day that I'm at the end of someone else's life. I'm willing to pay for mine. To be lonely sometimes. To die alone, if I have to. I think that's fair. Karen: Not quite. You want me to pay for it as well. Denys: *No, you have a choice, and you're not willing to do the same for me. I won't be closer to you and I won't love you more because of a piece of paper.* Good thread. *~Theo~* __________________ *"All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."* -- J. R. R. Tolkien