Being perceived as ditzy, flaky or shallow for being femme

fatallyblonde · 01-02-2014, 05:45 PM

I have had the experience, not just of butches treating me this way, but other lesbians as well and trans men and gay men too.

the thing is, I AM a ditz and I can be kinda flaky - and I LOVE shopping and makeup and gossip and stuff, which some people code as 'shallow' - but none of these things mean I am stupid or deserving of condescension!! In fact I am WHIP smart and very insightful. It's just this misogyny that is still so prevalent, that devalues qualities seem as "feminine" and as deserving of contempt. It stinks!

Definitely not all butches... many are very respectful... but I have absolutely noticed the dynamic at work often.

01-02-2014, 05:45 PM	#19
fatallyblonde Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: earth Posts: 446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 389 Thanked 770 Times in 181 Posts Rep Power: 7054721	I have had the experience, not just of butches treating me this way, but other lesbians as well and trans men and gay men too. the thing is, I AM a ditz and I can be kinda flaky - and I LOVE shopping and makeup and gossip and stuff, which some people code as 'shallow' - but none of these things mean I am stupid or deserving of condescension!! In fact I am WHIP smart and very insightful. It's just this misogyny that is still so prevalent, that devalues qualities seem as "feminine" and as deserving of contempt. It stinks! Definitely not all butches... many are very respectful... but I have absolutely noticed the dynamic at work often.