Your Death and Post-Death Preferences

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Originally Posted by Nat

I know it sounds morbid, but we are all facing eventual death. Sometimes we know it's coming and sometimes we don't. It's the one area where we have little control over when or where or how.

Today, it's on my mind. I'm not sure why, and I am. It's not coming from a morbid place. It's just that it's been on my mind lately. Maybe it was beautiful sweetcalico's clothes at the femme clothing swap and the feeling she is still with us, that her memory lives on among us. Due to a long break from the community, I wasn't aware she was sick. But she was one of my favorite posters on the dash site, and it was saddening to know she had passed over. But the clothing swap was beautiful and part of the reason for that was the passing on of her clothes to her sister femmes and the honoring of her spirit in that sweaty half-naked, warm frenzy.

And I've been thinking about the funerals and other memorials I've attended. I love cemeteries - especially the older ones.

So I guess this thread is a chance to think about what you'd like to leave behind, how you'd like your death handled, what you want to happen with your body, how you'd like to be remembered. Of course these ideas are like to change over the years. So, I will post my own thoughts later. Hopefully death is a long long way away for most of us, but I don't think it would be ad to have an idea in mind for the time when it comes. For those facing death at closer range, I assume you may have begun to think about these things more than those of us may have.

No matter what you think of death,its morbid just thinking about it.Yeah,it's there at times,somewhere in the back of my mind...of course right now its up front and center.
My lady worries more about it than me.My job sometimes requires I leave home and hit the roads around 1-3 am in the morning.The roads here are dark and winding and I have escaped a few catastrophes where I had to literally breath a loud sign of relieve that I had escaped death once again.

I have been up close and personal with death.I have seen people die right before my eyes.It doesn't scare me when i'm out there in the world.

Death will frighten me only when i'm like laying in bed at night and my mind is relaxed and I start thinking about people,friends,loved ones who have passed on and I start to let my mind wander about life and death.And its like, when I die that's it,life will be over...and I wonder if it will hurt to die..I mean,you stop breathing and that starts to scare me and I think of something else real quick.

Some tell me death is like birth,like the baby doesn't want to leave its mothers womb,its like people don't want to leave our mother earths womb.I mean what is really on the other side?..anywhere,that's probably another thread.

It's in my Will that I want to be cremated and taken to the family cemetery.That cemetery dates back to the late 1800's and I suppose i'll have plenty of family kin to hang around with...see I don't know..what happens after...and don't tell me it doesn't matter what happens after you are dead,because it dose..you leave behind family,some that will miss you.Btw,i'm not saying that to anyone here in particular.

My death,your death dose matter...I think i would not want to leave any heartbreaks and sorrows behind me..no funeral,plz.
If they must,write an obituary and put it in the paper..and talk about the good stuff,not so much of my passing.