Big Butch Love

[Shystonefem]

Originally Posted by randrum

This is a great thread. To read everyone's, both butch and femme alike, responses is enlightening.

I've never thought of myself as big until the last couple of years. Technically speaking, based on BMI and height-weight charts, I have always been overweight. Even in peak physical condition in high school and college (I was a swimmer).

I have naturally big shoulders, that are a source of pride really. I like how they look. And I have always been muscular. But over the last few years I've developed a gut. It's a sore spot for me.

I workout regularly. Lift weights, run, yoga, etc. I try to eat right, though I'm a sucker for pizza, burgers, and beer. Lol.

Life would be easier if I just accepted that I have the gut. If I was just happy with the body I'm in, because really there is nothing wrong with it. But even if I accepted it, it doesn't mean other people would.

My dad always comments about my size. My mom tells me every time she sees me that I need to "lose the gut". Or will give me a look when I'm eating something she doesn't approve of.

So that leads me to a bad place. If my parents can't accept my size, how am I going to find a woman to love me in spite of it? Honestly, it's why I haven't even put myself out there to find a gf. I figured I didn't stand a chance.

I never have seen it that way. People tell me that I am small but I don't feel that way. I actually don't like being called small.....

My mother told me, every single day, how fat I was (at the time, I was a size 7).... She was thin (a size 3). What I am trying to say is that what one person appears to see is not what the rest of the world sees.

So what if you have a beer belly? You are still the same person.... just sayin.

[Mel C.]

*bumping for the big butches and their fans*

[JustLovelyJenn]

I'm still loving... from afar... at the moment.

[JDeere]

Can us big trans guys be included? Just wondering! I don't want to start a new thread if us Trans guys can be included here.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by JDeere

Can us big trans guys be included? Just wondering! I don't want to start a new thread if us Trans guys can be included here.

Hey, JDeere.

So, this is just my opinion, but I suspect that there is a number of people (butch, femme, and trans), who would prefer it be a separate thread.

Although both are masculine identities, for some there is no cross over, what so ever.

I have no investment in there being separate threads (because I wouldn't post on either), but I suspect that it would be hard for someone who does have an investment to come in here and say it.

Just my thoughts, bro.

[JDeere]

That is why I asked to see if I needed to start a new thread or not.

[Dr_Finn]

I love fat butches. Fat butches are substantial, we take up space, we are solid. Fat butches are handsome, and I feel blessed to be married to one, and to be one.

(Re-posted from the fat femmes thread; I was unaware of this one when I posted this there).