Where do I meet potential dates??

[imperfect_cupcake]

There is also having a FB page that is your own. I do that. There is my career facebook page which has my real name, and my private life facebook page which is not my real name and shows *nothing* publicly. Solves everything.

[Kelt]

Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

I have put up a rather helpful post

Also, face book offers a bajillion groups to join. I've personally joined about 12 different local social meet up and event groups, 6 of which are dyke-queer focus, so I can have conversation with locals, know of local events within reach and when they happen. Most of these things are not advertised in papers or postered or fliers handed out. People don't do that much anymore - the way they advertise groups and events is through social media.

So joining facebook groups has been really helpful.

I type in search words and find a group to join that local and dyke. Then I look on the members list for someone who looks butch- then go to their page and look up all of their social groups because they might have some great groups I don't know about. I read about those groups, join the ones I like the sound of and repeat the process.

That way I find out a) where the butches and queers are actually going b) seeing where the femmes and girlies are going too. I found a couple femme friendship nights because of this.

It does take some research and a steep learning curve, and time, but if one is willing to try, it's great to learn the new ways social groups are coming together.

Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake

There is also having a FB page that is your own. I do that. There is my career facebook page which has my real name, and my private life facebook page which is not my real name and shows *nothing* publicly. Solves everything.

This raises a question with me. I'm well aware of how social media and particularly facebook are now pretty much the default way that events, especially for sub-cultures, are promoted. I'm not on facebook nor am I comfortable with putting my real name out there to be snagged by random searches from distant relatives or old school acquaintances. Never mind the glaring security issues (as I see it).

I *think* I would enjoy participating in some of the groups I've seen mentioned on other sites and also to have better access to the local scene. My question then, since I've never been on it, is how do you go about setting up an alias? I was under the impression that an alias is somehow routed out or proof was required.

Yes, I live under a rock.

[cinnamongrrl]

my gram said I should meet someone at church or in a library....neither has ever happened....

[Tuff Stuff]

I met someone at a campmeeting last month,we hit it off and we had a one-time fling...so yes,for me,just simply going to church I can find a date.
I tried on-line dating once and I got so many damn hits it was scary.Lesbian hangouts are great for a quickie,but sometimes I like the thrill of the chase before a fast fuck...playing hard to get housewives are kind of a turn-on these days.

A date to me equals sex...no matter how many dates it takes to get there.

Since where on the subject of dating and getting lucky,I respect Femmes on a whole different level than your average horny,neglected housewife.

I would rather a Femme use my body up and then throw me to the curb afterwards.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Kelt

This raises a question with me. I'm well aware of how social media and particularly facebook are now pretty much the default way that events, especially for sub-cultures, are promoted. I'm not on facebook nor am I comfortable with putting my real name out there to be snagged by random searches from distant relatives or old school acquaintances. Never mind the glaring security issues (as I see it).

I *think* I would enjoy participating in some of the groups I've seen mentioned on other sites and also to have better access to the local scene. My question then, since I've never been on it, is how do you go about setting up an alias? I was under the impression that an alias is somehow routed out or proof was required.

Yes, I live under a rock.

*lifts your rock*

Nope. No 'proof' needed. No one will come to your house for fingerprints or a head shot.

FB is just like any other site. Go to it and pick a 'screen name'. You control the information you put out there. Some people use their legal names and some do not. I would highly recommend you set your security features high if you have concerns of people you don't want to find you, finding you.

Prepare yourself for a LOT of game requests once you are 'noticed' though.

No matter how many times I block people.....they keep coming back with those damn requests. No doesn't mean no when it comes to that stuff.

Other than that, FB is decent. I don't go on it often though. I can't handle the time suck for two online 'homes'.

[Kelt]

Originally Posted by Gemme

*lifts your rock*

Nope. No 'proof' needed. No one will come to your house for fingerprints or a head shot.

FB is just like any other site. Go to it and pick a 'screen name'. You control the information you put out there. Some people use their legal names and some do not. I would highly recommend you set your security features high if you have concerns of people you don't want to find you, finding you.

Prepare yourself for a LOT of game requests once you are 'noticed' though.

No matter how many times I block people.....they keep coming back with those damn requests. No doesn't mean no when it comes to that stuff.

Other than that, FB is decent. I don't go on it often though. I can't handle the time suck for two online 'homes'.

Well wadda ya know.

I always just assumed that it was tied to your IP addy or some such. I'd 'heard' that it was part of their cache`, that it was real names only and some web crawler would sort out if you were fibbing.

Now of course the other part of that equation comes into play. As you mention, can I have another time machine going on?

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by Kelt

Well wadda ya know.

I always just assumed that it was tied to your IP addy or some such. I'd 'heard' that it was part of their cache`, that it was real names only and some web crawler would sort out if you were fibbing.

Now of course the other part of that equation comes into play. As you mention, can I have another time machine going on?

I too am feeling the pressure to join because I am missing out on some groups I think I would enjoy. I heard early on too that you had to use your real name, but learned otherwise, at some point along the way. For me I just don't want to have to deal with people from high school and such. I know for you it slides over into your government paranoia crap ( or something along those lines).

[Chad]

Bump Bump Bump!

[homoe]

Yes meeting potential dates at the jails, parole offices and etc etc was a JOKE!

I have no idea where to go to meet women! I've heard to go to activities that one enjoys themselves (such a book reading or joining a book club, cooking classes, etc etc) and you have a chance of meeting at least someone with similar interests! Sounds like a plan to me!

[cinnamongrrl]

My Nana always said I'd meet a nice boy at church....

I always thought I'd meet my perfect match while hiking...but that's how I met my husband...and it was far from perfect lol...

Then I thought college would be nice..My butch friend said she depleted the dating pool in her area and was resorting to AA meetings for potential dates...

Now I meet nice butches around Asheville and silently damn my femme invisibility cloak...

[Chad]

I am definitely thinking about dating. I am trying to figure out how to meet ladies in Texas.