For those for whom Mother's Day is not a Good Day

Glenn · 05-08-2010, 11:05 AM

[QUOTE=ruthie14;98451][COLOR="DarkOrchid"][SIZE="3"][FONT="Comic Sans MS"]I have a very hard time with Mother's day. I was never able to have any children of my own and My stepchildren no longer talk to me , even though I raised them when NO one else wanted them. If it wasn't for my own mother I would just hybernate for the day. As it approaches, I get increasingly depressed and weepy.

Dear Ruthie; I visited my mother nearly everyday in her old age and helped take care of her in her last days, often doing what the nurses would'nt. My ex-wife complained about it but all I said to her was "She is my mother, she brought me in the world and did her best with the little she had to take care of me, and now I'm going to help take care of her!" And that is what I did, and what we all should for good mothers/stepmothers if we could. Anything less is shameful and anyone who does otherwise I have no respect for.

ruthie14 · 05-08-2010, 02:13 PM

Thanks for the support Popcorninthesofa !

As far as your ex not understanding about your desire to take care of your mother, I'm sure that is one of the reasons she is your ex. That would have made me crazy. My mother and I just bought a house together.. she makes me crazy.. but I wouldn't want her alone as she is getting older.

BornBronson · 05-08-2010, 08:10 PM

I really don't know if Mother's Day is a good day or a bad day for me,yet.It certainly is a strange day for me,I will give it that.

My mother is dead,and when that date on the calendar rolls around I usually take a walk out to the family cemetery and stay there for an hour or so.Just remembering all the memories we shared together,the good and bad.I had her remains cremated and brought her ashes here to be laid next to her father and mother.When I dug a hole what now seems like three very long years ago I knew what I was burying was not my mother..but,well,ash.There are others I have 'laid to rest' in that cemetery,and when Mother's Day comes around for them,I will see flowers and stuffed animals left behind from their visiting family members.I gave those sort of things to my mother while she was living.

ruthie14 · 05-09-2010, 10:42 AM

How is everyone doing?

I'm not doing too badly. A friend sent me a lovely thinking of you card. Mom is out getting a mani and pedi, so good for a little while. She loved the rosebush I got her for mother's day.

On the flip side, Mom brought up memories of my sisters boy when he was a baby. That was hard to hear and keep smiling. I don't think she thinks before she speaks sometimes. Checked my email and nothing from the my stepkids. No texts, no card, no phone call. I just don't exist for them anymore. I feel very empty and sad. Forgotten. All the years of love, nuturing and sacrifice, and I am forgotten.

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05-08-2010, 11:05 AM	#1
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old thing Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,602 Thanked 3,729 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	[QUOTE=ruthie14;98451][COLOR="DarkOrchid"][SIZE="3"][FONT="Comic Sans MS"]I have a very hard time with Mother's day. I was never able to have any children of my own and My stepchildren no longer talk to me , even though I raised them when NO one else wanted them. If it wasn't for my own mother I would just hybernate for the day. As it approaches, I get increasingly depressed and weepy. Dear Ruthie; I visited my mother nearly everyday in her old age and helped take care of her in her last days, often doing what the nurses would'nt. My ex-wife complained about it but all I said to her was "She is my mother, she brought me in the world and did her best with the little she had to take care of me, and now I'm going to help take care of her!" And that is what I did, and what we all should for good mothers/stepmothers if we could. Anything less is shameful and anyone who does otherwise I have no respect for.

05-08-2010, 02:13 PM	#2
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	Thanks for the support Popcorninthesofa ! As far as your ex not understanding about your desire to take care of your mother, I'm sure that is one of the reasons she is your ex. That would have made me crazy. My mother and I just bought a house together.. she makes me crazy.. but I wouldn't want her alone as she is getting older.

05-08-2010, 08:10 PM	#3
BornBronson Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently banned 7/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: Straight Butch Woman Relationship Status: Nice Tie Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In Love Posts: 177 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24 Thanked 139 Times in 82 Posts Rep Power: 0	I really don't know if Mother's Day is a good day or a bad day for me,yet.It certainly is a strange day for me,I will give it that. My mother is dead,and when that date on the calendar rolls around I usually take a walk out to the family cemetery and stay there for an hour or so.Just remembering all the memories we shared together,the good and bad.I had her remains cremated and brought her ashes here to be laid next to her father and mother.When I dug a hole what now seems like three very long years ago I knew what I was burying was not my mother..but,well,ash.There are others I have 'laid to rest' in that cemetery,and when Mother's Day comes around for them,I will see flowers and stuffed animals left behind from their visiting family members.I gave those sort of things to my mother while she was living.

05-09-2010, 10:42 AM	#4
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	How is everyone doing? I'm not doing too badly. A friend sent me a lovely thinking of you card. Mom is out getting a mani and pedi, so good for a little while. She loved the rosebush I got her for mother's day. On the flip side, Mom brought up memories of my sisters boy when he was a baby. That was hard to hear and keep smiling. I don't think she thinks before she speaks sometimes. Checked my email and nothing from the my stepkids. No texts, no card, no phone call. I just don't exist for them anymore. I feel very empty and sad. Forgotten. All the years of love, nuturing and sacrifice, and I am forgotten.