The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over.

morningstar55 · 11-22-2009, 07:27 PM

evening lofters
is a pleasant evening here in the indy area
i have a early morning wake up..want to beat the rush hour traffic.. heh

BellaOctober1 · 11-22-2009, 07:46 PM

Yay! Love this.

I'm 54, and after 12 years, am about to be single again. Should be interesting.

Anyway. Great to see this board and be a part of it.

morningstar55 · 11-22-2009, 08:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BellaOctober1

Yay! Love this.

I'm 54, and after 12 years, am about to be single again. Should be interesting.

Anyway. Great to see this board and be a part of it.

hello bella [_]D

WolfyOne · 11-22-2009, 11:55 PM

I'm enjoying this thread....reading is fundamental.

Boots13 · 11-23-2009, 01:35 AM

knock-knocking on 48, or 49 ... I forget.

At any rate, I havent celebrated a birthday in ages. Maybe thats why I
feel young, ignorance is bliss.

but then there's that constant noise :
creeek, craaack, groannn.

Isadora · 11-23-2009, 03:08 AM

Now that I am almost 57, I get softer instead of tougher, I cry more, I hurt deeply, everything is closer to my skin.

I don't recover as fast and any set back is a chasm rather then a crack in the sidewalk. I am more sorry for my mistakes.

I see some things clearer and am less tolerant and more stubborn in some ways. I am less patient with fools, know-it-alls, liars and bullies. I am more patient with people that I love and respect.

I smile from the inside out when happy and cry. I cry from the inside out when hurt. I remember as my Grandparents aged they cried more...at everything...Goddess help me...

I still go out. A lot. I have a full schedule. I drink less but I still enjoy a very active social life. I am taking better care of my health. It may take my hips and knees a couple days to recover but I can still salsa and rumba with hip swaying joy!

I am still a night owl, I still get by on 6 hours of sleep but I love taking short naps in the afternoon. I love the nightlife....

Andrew, Jr. · 11-23-2009, 02:51 PM

I am concerned with the healthcare system. We all know its broken. I am not sure of what the future is going to bring. It does make me nervous. This week I got a bill from my insurance carrier for $80 for my flu shot. Yep. I almost fell over with that one.

I live a full life. I have a very full schedule. I volunteer, and I also make sure to donate whenever I can. I want to make a difference in the lives of animals as well as people, esp. children.

I am very cautious with the relationships I have now. Some are golden, and some I don't even bother with. I do know that I thank God for my adopted family and my siblings there. I do think about the future and what is in store for all of us.

When my sister, JoAnn, died, a part of me died. I really thought in the back of my mind that she would be one of the lucky ones who would overcome the melanoma. No. That wasn't in God's plan. In turn, I have had to make peace with letting her go. It isn't easy. Not by a long shot. In fact, I think it is a wound that never really heals. I know in 50 years from now, I will still remember my beloved sister, and I will still miss her as much as I do today.

WolfyOne · 11-24-2009, 10:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Isadora

Now that I am almost 57, I get softer instead of tougher, I cry more, I hurt deeply, everything is closer to my skin.

I don't recover as fast and any set back is a chasm rather then a crack in the sidewalk. I am more sorry for my mistakes.

I see some things clearer and am less tolerant and more stubborn in some ways. I am less patient with fools, know-it-alls, liars and bullies. I am more patient with people that I love and respect.

I smile from the inside out when happy and cry. I cry from the inside out when hurt. I remember as my Grandparents aged they cried more...at everything...Goddess help me...

I still go out. A lot. I have a full schedule. I drink less but I still enjoy a very active social life. I am taking better care of my health. It may take my hips and knees a couple days to recover but I can still salsa and rumba with hip swaying joy!

I am still a night owl, I still get by on 6 hours of sleep but I love taking short naps in the afternoon. I love the nightlife....

I totally get what you're saying and just thought it was me. I'm just turning 51 next month and my emotional state has changed so much over the last year. Softer as I age is a great description. Along with the less tolerant and more stubborn (lord help those that know me). I sleep less than I used to. I'm lucky if I get 3 solid hours before waking up. Thing is, most days it's enough for me. I have to have a week of little sleep to want to nap though. I think that when we go through the change of life (I'm still in it), it's natural to get this way.

LieslKate · 01-18-2010, 11:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Isadora

Now that I am almost 57, I get softer instead of tougher, I cry more, I hurt deeply, everything is closer to my skin.

I don't recover as fast and any set back is a chasm rather then a crack in the sidewalk. I am more sorry for my mistakes.

I see some things clearer and am less tolerant and more stubborn in some ways. I am less patient with fools, know-it-alls, liars and bullies. I am more patient with people that I love and respect.

I smile from the inside out when happy and cry. I cry from the inside out when hurt. I remember as my Grandparents aged they cried more...at everything...Goddess help me...

I still go out. A lot. I have a full schedule. I drink less but I still enjoy a very active social life. I am taking better care of my health. It may take my hips and knees a couple days to recover but I can still salsa and rumba with hip swaying joy!

I am still a night owl, I still get by on 6 hours of sleep but I love taking short naps in the afternoon. I love the nightlife....

AMEN !

AtlantaButch824 · 08-08-2010, 08:28 PM

I'm 52 and single again after 10.5 yrs. I feel strange trying to date again. You think you know someone after that much time, only to realize you didn't.

Jet · 08-08-2010, 08:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by AtlantaButch824

I'm 52 and single again after 10.5 yrs. I feel strange trying to date again. You think you know someone after that much time, only to realize you didn't.

so don't date

11-22-2009, 07:27 PM	#1
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	evening lofters is a pleasant evening here in the indy area i have a early morning wake up..want to beat the rush hour traffic.. heh __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

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BellaOctober1 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Kansas City, MO Posts: 10 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 0 Thanked 8 Times in 3 Posts Rep Power: 16	Yay! Love this. I'm 54, and after 12 years, am about to be single again. Should be interesting. Anyway. Great to see this board and be a part of it. __________________ BellaOctober1@att.net Kansas City, MO

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Isadora Member How Do You Identify?: Momma, Ma'am Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her Relationship Status: I am in love. Truly Madly Deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: California Posts: 997 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 502 Thanked 2,127 Times in 559 Posts Rep Power: 2369288	Now that I am almost 57, I get softer instead of tougher, I cry more, I hurt deeply, everything is closer to my skin. I don't recover as fast and any set back is a chasm rather then a crack in the sidewalk. I am more sorry for my mistakes. I see some things clearer and am less tolerant and more stubborn in some ways. I am less patient with fools, know-it-alls, liars and bullies. I am more patient with people that I love and respect. I smile from the inside out when happy and cry. I cry from the inside out when hurt. I remember as my Grandparents aged they cried more...at everything...Goddess help me... I still go out. A lot. I have a full schedule. I drink less but I still enjoy a very active social life. I am taking better care of my health. It may take my hips and knees a couple days to recover but I can still salsa and rumba with hip swaying joy! I am still a night owl, I still get by on 6 hours of sleep but I love taking short naps in the afternoon. I love the nightlife.... __________________ "I have a respect for manners as such, they are a way of dealing with people you don't agree with or like." Margaret Mead Read me! www.leatherati.com

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Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	I am concerned with the healthcare system. We all know its broken. I am not sure of what the future is going to bring. It does make me nervous. This week I got a bill from my insurance carrier for $80 for my flu shot. Yep. I almost fell over with that one. I live a full life. I have a very full schedule. I volunteer, and I also make sure to donate whenever I can. I want to make a difference in the lives of animals as well as people, esp. children. I am very cautious with the relationships I have now. Some are golden, and some I don't even bother with. I do know that I thank God for my adopted family and my siblings there. I do think about the future and what is in store for all of us. When my sister, JoAnn, died, a part of me died. I really thought in the back of my mind that she would be one of the lucky ones who would overcome the melanoma. No. That wasn't in God's plan. In turn, I have had to make peace with letting her go. It isn't easy. Not by a long shot. In fact, I think it is a wound that never really heals. I know in 50 years from now, I will still remember my beloved sister, and I will still miss her as much as I do today.