Femme Led Relationships and Trans/Butch/Femme Bottoms

[Rufusboi]

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Of course it is rooted in misogyny. I guess we could give it a slice of misandry too.

Here is the notions that seems popular.

Butch = Masculine
Masculine = Male
Male = Strong and Dominant
Femme = Feminine
Feminine = Female
Female = Submissive and Weak

So when we don't ascribe to that ridiculous set of notions? We may encounter some bewilderment, ridicule, and yes...even shunning.

I am amazed that I consider myself to be surrounded by a *pro gender diversity* crowd, yet the binary seems suffocating at times.

Why is this? Because it is so deeply ingrained by socialization that it's pervasive.

Great post. We forget the sex, gender and sexuality are not aligned in a neat little package. We of all people should know that the binaries of male/female, aggressive/passive, strong/weak have no meaning or merit. I mean, come on, this discussion has been going on for decades now. Why do we keep forgetting this. Conciousness raising groups in the 70s were hashing this out. 40 years later we are still falling into the binary trap.

Rufus