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Your comment indicated nothing EXPLICIT about whether or not you found it acceptable but, no, I don't think you would find such unprofessional behaviour appropriate. However, I *did* find your response somewhat surprising and a bit troubling in its implicit connotations, as it focused on proposing a harmless, playful, and even perhaps justified, reason for her intrusive behaviour toward Chad. The "two by four" is a common humorous turn of phrase thrown about due to this perception that butches are clueless when it comes to a woman's attraction toward them. It struck me as minimizing what Chad was feeling and experiencing. I put myself in the same situation (which I have been) and how I'd be frustrated if someone said the same thing to me after me opening up that a guy was bothering me in such a manner at work. It would be somewhat invalidating, as it does take the angle of...well, maybeeeee he just likes you and you're too clueless to realize it! It's like if someone was bothering a student, and I said, "Well, maybe he LIKES you!" which indicates more of an absolution or justification for such unwanted behaviour. It adds a bit of a rationale to their behaviour on the person who is acting inappropriately and suggests that maybe, if you just realized they liked you, you would feel differently and not be quite as irritated by them. I hope this explains more of my response. No, I do not think you would find it acceptable behaviour but, yes, I did find your response carried an odd angle which prompted me to respond in turn. I've been waiting for your response to my post, so I'm glad I was able to elaborate a bit more for you and hope you understand a bit more where I'm coming from. |
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