Neurodiversity

[Andrew, Jr.]

Lady Snow,

It is confusing to me. I love you as my sister. I talk to most everyone each day. I would think that you would love me as your brother. What is the difference between that love and being born by the same mother? I am not ref. to anything racial. I don't believe in that at all. My love is the same like I have for Urs or Madusa or anyone else.

In community and love of family how are they different then? I am lost.

Andrew

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

Lady Snow,

It is confusing to me. I love you as my sister. I talk to most everyone each day. I would think that you would love me as your brother. What is the difference between that love and being born by the same mother? I am not ref. to anything racial. I don't believe in that at all. My love is the same like I have for Urs or Madusa or anyone else.

In community and love of family how are they different then? I am lost.

Andrew

I would like to take this elsewhere Andrew out of respect to everyone in here, I have a boy who is Aspie, and he can pick up on energies and things that go out of wack, this to *me* feels to *heavy* in energy for myself and people in here who have *enough* going on with their extra senses.. I will copy and paste and find the Red Zone so I can address it properly..

[Andrew, Jr.]

Lady Snow,

It was just posted that you are dating Weatherboi, and that somehow this is being twisted around to mean something totally different than what I am saying. No. I am done.

I don't mean disrespect. I had no clue. I apologise yet again too have offended you and Weatherboi. I feel like a jackass.

Andrew

[Ursy]

There will always be misunderstandings... the trick is to move on.

Easier said than done! I don't know if it's an Aspie thing, but I berate myself when I am part of a misunderstanding. I was quite old when I realised that most others just shake it off and keep going (but I don't know if that's a neurotypical thing in particular).

It's a very painful part of my existence, especially as misunderstandings can happen relatively frequently when you're an Aspie, but I am working on it.

Do you think it's an Aspie thing? The berating oneself I mean. Oh, and the hanging on to stuff that is best let go? 'Cause that's something else I have to work on!

[christie]

Originally Posted by urs

There will always be misunderstandings... the trick is to move on.

Easier said than done! I don't know if it's an Aspie thing, but I berate myself when I am part of a misunderstanding. I was quite old when I realised that most others just shake it off and keep going (but I don't know if that's a neurotypical thing in particular).

It's a very painful part of my existence, especially as misunderstandings can happen relatively frequently when you're an Aspie, but I am working on it.

Do you think it's an Aspie thing? The berating oneself I mean. Oh, and the hanging on to stuff that is best let go? 'Cause that's something else I have to work on!

Urs -

My Aspie son doesn't berate himself. In fact, Bratboy has quite an opposite reaction in that he ALWAYS projects any blame/responsibility on others. Nothing is ever his fault. As a parent, I find this as equally difficult to navigate as the self berating. I "think" it would be easier to try and show him that he is not solely responsible for something rather than to try and show him that he does have responsibility in a situation.

We have NINE days of school left and if the last week has been an indicator, I would rather eat nails. He has decided that he doesn't need to go, that he can just repeat the 11th grade next year. He knows well enough that he will finish the school year, and to me, the frustration is that he spends so much time making the simplest of things so fucking difficult. I keep reminding him that he isnt 18, he doesnt live in a democracy and in most instances, he doesnt get to vote. LOL

[Andrew, Jr.]

Christie0918,

You are fortunate in that your son doesn't berate himself. I do. It's a trigger. Moving on is much easier said than done for me.

[Ursy]

Originally Posted by christie0918

Urs -

My Aspie son doesn't berate himself. In fact, Bratboy has quite an opposite reaction in that he ALWAYS projects any blame/responsibility on others. Nothing is ever his fault. As a parent, I find this as equally difficult to navigate as the self berating. I "think" it would be easier to try and show him that he is not solely responsible for something rather than to try and show him that he does have responsibility in a situation.

We have NINE days of school left and if the last week has been an indicator, I would rather eat nails. He has decided that he doesn't need to go, that he can just repeat the 11th grade next year. He knows well enough that he will finish the school year, and to me, the frustration is that he spends so much time making the simplest of things so fucking difficult. I keep reminding him that he isnt 18, he doesnt live in a democracy and in most instances, he doesnt get to vote. LOL

Actually now that you mention it, my dad (who we're quite sure is Aspie) is similar - he is never at fault. I guess it depends on the individual personality. I imagine that it might be tied to the "theory of mind" thing.

Anyway, I hope it all settles down for you and bratboy - they can be trying, for sure. Bek and I went through some bad times - but we're in a good place right now. May there be a good place waiting for you and bratboy soon! xx

[katzietootle]

someone help...
do anyone here knows how to manage visual stims?i dealt with verbal stims and other self stimulatory behaviours but i'm having a hard time managing visual stims...