How do you know someone is..

[Jett]

Originally Posted by Linus

Now, the reason for this question/thread/poll isn't a matter of testing one's basic gaydar but a question of how much we let that basic gaydar cloud our thought process about others and "how butch/femme" they are.

Hmmm, if I get what you're saying, yeah... on a quick glance of someone's appearance may set off my butch gaydar.

I think over time though, and experiences etc. I haven't found it to be all that reliable so also no, I don't really let how short their hair is or Brahma work boots lead me to make assumptions about "how" anything but just that, their appearance.

I've found some folks can have a bunch of outer "butch markers" and after getting to know them, or learn how they identify that's all the further it ends up going.

Vice versa too, some people who've had much less butch markers have turned out to be some pretty damn hardcore butches.

I'll cop in that in the past, I have partially judged "how butch" by appearance (I didn't do that as much with femmes... but lived life and experiences of being totally wrong often enough has really changed that.

Femmes, are as we now harder to initially spot, but I haven't found any real different observations to what I've said about butches.

That said, today I also look less at "how butch" anyone is... and really see it more as different types of butches.

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