getting to know you..... Give me ONE ........

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by GeorgiaMa'am

I prefer living alone. I've had relationships as long as 8 years where we lived together, but I'm never really quite relaxed when someone else is in the house, or might come home. What if I want to walk around naked? What if I want to tap dance in the kitchen at 3 a.m.? What if I want to use my Magic Wand when everyone's asleep? (Those things are great, but they're loud.) I realize this is a really privileged position, but I'm really lucky to be able to live alone most of the time.

Originally Posted by girl_dee

this made me chuckle.

Every day when i come home, i think to myself LOVE being here alone. i have tried co-habitation too many times to try it again. i want my own space.

however, it would be nice to have some company, but then they have to go home.

My dad had it right all these years. I used to think he was bonkers but as I've aged and grown to appreciate my own space, I think he's totally onto something.

He and my stepmom lived in separate homes. Granted, they usually lived next door or around the corner from one another for over 30 years but it was ideal. He came over and helped her with the house and she sent him home with a plate of food. They were able to love one another and then go HOME. It was like they dated for over 3 decades so they kept the spark alive.

[easygoingfemme]

Originally Posted by Gemme

My dad had it right all these years. I used to think he was bonkers but as I've aged and grown to appreciate my own space, I think he's totally onto something.

He and my stepmom lived in separate homes. Granted, they usually lived next door or around the corner from one another for over 30 years but it was ideal. He came over and helped her with the house and she sent him home with a plate of food. They were able to love one another and then go HOME. It was like they dated for over 3 decades so they kept the spark alive.

I could SOOO get behind a setup like that...

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by easygoingfemme

I could SOOO get behind a setup like that...

It's brilliant when you think about it. Sure, not as cost effective as cohabitating but if you are in a committed, trusting relationship, it's gold. Think of all the fights and disagreements that wouldn't happen because you can say, "I need to go home and think about that' or because their junk is all over THEIR space, not yours.

[Mel C.]

I don't like flip flops. They are noisy and I don't like having a toe wedgie.

[AmazonDC]

Originally Posted by Mel C.

I don't like flip flops. They are noisy and I don't like having a toe wedgie.

lol I dont like them either but its for different reasons... I am missing My left bug toe so it makes it very hard to wear flip flops.lol

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by easygoingfemme

I think it's totally brilliant and so healthy to be that in touch with your personal needs, and respectful of each others. I feel like that's the best of both worlds. You're close enough that you can be together whenever you want for as long as you want and then have your space to retreat to with no hard feelings. Sign me up!

I sort of did this with a semi-distance relationship for almost four years. The "part time together" worked well for both of us as we both liked our space, but the distance between us was too great. We had trouble being able to really keep our relationship building and merging as neither of us were going to be relocating. We "lived together" pretty much every weekend and then were an almost 4 hour drive apart during the week. For me, I'd want my living apart partner to be close... in their own space.

I think something like this probably is why my parents stayed together. They always lived together but their entire working lives they worked opposite schedules. My mom worked all day while my dad was home and my dad worked all night while my mom was home. She panicked when he retired because she wasn't sure what to do with him so she made him build a wood shop (he's a woodworker/handyman) in the back yard so he would keep busy out of the house and he wasn't allowed to retire until the shop was finished being built.

Yeah, it definitely works when someone is within a reasonable distance.

*going to find said thread

[easygoingfemme]

Originally Posted by Gemme

It's brilliant when you think about it. Sure, not as cost effective as cohabitating but if you are in a committed, trusting relationship, it's gold. Think of all the fights and disagreements that wouldn't happen because you can say, "I need to go home and think about that' or because their junk is all over THEIR space, not yours.

I think it's totally brilliant and so healthy to be that in touch with your personal needs, and respectful of each others. I feel like that's the best of both worlds. You're close enough that you can be together whenever you want for as long as you want and then have your space to retreat to with no hard feelings. Sign me up!

I sort of did this with a semi-distance relationship for almost four years. The "part time together" worked well for both of us as we both liked our space, but the distance between us was too great. We had trouble being able to really keep our relationship building and merging as neither of us were going to be relocating. We "lived together" pretty much every weekend and then were an almost 4 hour drive apart during the week. For me, I'd want my living apart partner to be close... in their own space.

I think something like this probably is why my parents stayed together. They always lived together but their entire working lives they worked opposite schedules. My mom worked all day while my dad was home and my dad worked all night while my mom was home. She panicked when he retired because she wasn't sure what to do with him so she made him build a wood shop (he's a woodworker/handyman) in the back yard so he would keep busy out of the house and he wasn't allowed to retire until the shop was finished being built.

[WheatToast]

Originally Posted by easygoingfemme

I could SOOO get behind a setup like that...

Me too! Maybe a duplex, but I'd need my own zone that was off limits and she'd have one, too. I'm not a snoopy person, but so many people are--I love my privacy, especially with journals--that's where I write stuff that might offend someone, in or out of context.