Stone Butches

Gemme · 06-07-2017, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Lyte

You are so right!

My thought was ... it's two very different meanings with (essentially) the same name... when spoken. Which is why I said I'd have to have the gal write down her preference. Iol Written down... then I'd know if she was with a space or without a space femme.

Or you could just talk about it. lol

Quote:

Originally Posted by *Anya*

I think that these days, labels are a general "alert" ( probably the wrong word) as to what a person feels comfortable with, to narrow the dating pool down a tad.

The only way to really know, is to discuss. Even then, for some, it depends on the person and the situation.

By the time you are ready to have sex of any type, a clear and open discussion should have already been had.

I do training at my job (one of my hats) about HIV/AIDS and it still amazes me the number of people that tell me that they have sex first and ask the questions after or tell me "but he or she looked clean". I have straight men/straight women/transfolk/lesbians and gays; so it is everyone not always having those open and honest discussions.

By that point, uh oh.

Yes, there are many different sexual identities and desires for lesbians, too.

Yes! To all of this.

You have two cans of food. One has a label and one doesn't. The one without the label could be anything, good or bad or a combination of both, but at least you have an idea of what might be in the other can, even if the label is faded and worn or half torn off. You at least have a clue of what you might be in for.

I get what you are saying about an 'alert'. Labels give me a general idea of what someone's likes/dislikes/limits might be but without a good conversation filled with hard and honest questions, one will not know for sure.

Never make assumptions, though.

Lyte · 06-07-2017, 01:16 PM

Well of course! It just struck me funny how that conversation might go...

Her: I'm a stone femme

Me: Oh... uh ... so... is that with the space or without the space?

Her: Sorry? *looking confused*

Me: Well... ya know... is that... capitol S space capitol F? Or... just capital S ... no space.

Her: *looking more confused*

Me: Ya know... penetration good *makes goofy happy happy face* ... or penetration bad?? *makes exaggerated sad face*

*waitress overhears, turns and walks slowly away from our table*

Her: Umm... I'm going to powder my nose ... I'll be right back. *looking a little nervous*

Me: Oh sure... certainly... *oblivious*

*Her leaves table... heads towards restroom and then darts the opposite direction out of the restaurant*

Yes, these are the things that amuse me.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gemme

Or you could just talk about it. lol

Shystonefem · 06-07-2017, 02:20 PM

I didn't know there was a difference between Stone Femme and Stonefemme.

What I found very interesting is that, in one article, they discussed the difference between a high femme and a Stone Femme / Sonefemme (incorrectly).

They made Stone Femmes / Stonefemmes sound like sirens and high Femmes, the prize.

I realize labels are fluid but I am, in no way, a hard stone that doesn't feel anything and adapts because I learned how. That is how Stone Femmes/ Stonefemmes were described.

dark_crystal · 06-07-2017, 03:39 PM

I identify as stone because i don't naturally default to an active role, but my only hard limit is around the wearing of toys.

Outside of that, i will do things that are outside of my default role, but there has to be a specific and direct request lol

*Anya* · 06-07-2017, 03:53 PM

I have loved the world of BFP because I have learned so much that I never knew.

I have been out since 1978 but much has changed since that time. My world got smaller during my 19-years with the same woman.

I have appreciated the frank discussions on the threads like this and I have appreciated that one could honestly admit a lack of knowledge (respectfully, of course) and that there is always someone that will step in to educate (also respectfully).

Sometimes, I get touchy because it has been difficult for me at times, when, on occasion, I feel as though I need to stand up and represent for those of us that still identify as lesbians.

No one loses their shit however, and I appreciate that too.

06-07-2017, 02:20 PM	#3
Shystonefem Member How Do You Identify?: Stone Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Shy for President Join Date: May 2014 Location: NH Posts: 1,105 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,475 Thanked 3,673 Times in 897 Posts Rep Power: 21474849	I didn't know there was a difference between Stone Femme and Stonefemme. What I found very interesting is that, in one article, they discussed the difference between a high femme and a Stone Femme / Sonefemme (incorrectly). They made Stone Femmes / Stonefemmes sound like sirens and high Femmes, the prize. I realize labels are fluid but I am, in no way, a hard stone that doesn't feel anything and adapts because I learned how. That is how Stone Femmes/ Stonefemmes were described. __________________ Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. ~Lao Tzu

06-07-2017, 03:39 PM	#4
dark_crystal Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: jenny Preferred Pronoun?: babygirl Relationship Status: First Lady of the United SMH Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Houston, Texas Posts: 5,445 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,532 Thanked 26,550 Times in 4,688 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I identify as stone because i don't naturally default to an active role, but my only hard limit is around the wearing of toys. Outside of that, i will do things that are outside of my default role, but there has to be a specific and direct request lol __________________

06-07-2017, 03:53 PM	#5
Anya Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Lesbian non-stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: Committed to being good to myself Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: West Coast Posts: 8,258 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 39,306 Thanked 40,460 Times in 7,283 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I have loved the world of BFP because I have learned so much that I never knew. I have been out since 1978 but much has changed since that time. My world got smaller during my 19-years with the same woman. I have appreciated the frank discussions on the threads like this and I have appreciated that one could honestly admit a lack of knowledge (respectfully, of course) and that there is always someone that will step in to educate (also respectfully). Sometimes, I get touchy because it has been difficult for me at times, when, on occasion, I feel as though I need to stand up and represent for those of us that still identify as lesbians. No one loses their shit however, and I appreciate that too. __________________ ~Anya~ Democracy Dies in Darkness ~Washington Post "...I'm deeply concerned by recently adopted policies which punish children for their parents’ actions ... The thought that any State would seek to deter parents by inflicting such abuse on children is unconscionable." UN Human Rights commissioner

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