Living Apart, Together (LAT) A Support Thread

girl_dee · 08-17-2017, 04:11 AM

i will admit that my cohabitation attempts, even in a room mate situation have never worked out and i cannot blame the other person, i am not easy to live with. Things were fine until the move in, i am sure it not working out was inevitable, but living together was always a mistake.

i love having my own place, so when i give in and give it up, i am resentful. i can admit this now.

That is NOT to say that i don't want my butch to be in my space as we date or have a relationship, its quite the opposite.

i would love to be able to see my love on the weekends or at least be within a few hours drive so we can enjoy time together.

Its VERY hard in our dating pool to find that person that is also near.

easygoingfemme · 08-17-2017, 06:15 AM

I was just thinking about this discussion at work yesterday. I manage a women's housing program and my largest unit rents furnished rooms to women in a dorm style living situation at a very low cost. I have three women who are married or partnered but live in the building for "their" space and then they visit their partners on the weekends or when they want to. I think it's brilliant. They all came from living together and knew it wasn't working. They couldn't afford their own full apartment or house, so this came to be a logical and safe solution for them to have a happier life and healthier relationship.

girl_dee · 08-17-2017, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by easygoingfemme

I was just thinking about this discussion at work yesterday. I manage a women's housing program and my largest unit rents furnished rooms to women in a dorm style living situation at a very low cost. I have three women who are married or partnered but live in the building for "their" space and then they visit their partners on the weekends or when they want to. I think it's brilliant. They all came from living together and knew it wasn't working. They couldn't afford their own full apartment or house, so this came to be a logical and safe solution for them to have a happier life and healthier relationship.

this IS brilliant!

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08-17-2017, 04:11 AM	#1
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,827 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	i will admit that my cohabitation attempts, even in a room mate situation have never worked out and i cannot blame the other person, i am not easy to live with. Things were fine until the move in, i am sure it not working out was inevitable, but living together was always a mistake. i love having my own place, so when i give in and give it up, i am resentful. i can admit this now. That is NOT to say that i don't want my butch to be in my space as we date or have a relationship, its quite the opposite. i would love to be able to see my love on the weekends or at least be within a few hours drive so we can enjoy time together. Its VERY hard in our dating pool to find that person that is also near.

08-17-2017, 06:15 AM	#2
easygoingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Lil' Miss Sassy Pants Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: My place by the river Posts: 3,698 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,027 Thanked 14,977 Times in 3,321 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I was just thinking about this discussion at work yesterday. I manage a women's housing program and my largest unit rents furnished rooms to women in a dorm style living situation at a very low cost. I have three women who are married or partnered but live in the building for "their" space and then they visit their partners on the weekends or when they want to. I think it's brilliant. They all came from living together and knew it wasn't working. They couldn't afford their own full apartment or house, so this came to be a logical and safe solution for them to have a happier life and healthier relationship.