Significant Age Gaps in Relationships

[kittygrrl]

i think being in the same age range works better for the vast majority of people..in my own experience, it's just nice to have in common, the same history or point in time with someone who was also there..history, common interests, lifestyles all play a part...i don't need to relive my youth, burn the candle at both ends nor do i need the cosmic energy from drama to fill the gaps..there are much better things to love

[Gayandgray]

My butch spouse is 75 and I’ll be 49 in a couple months. Big age difference (26yrs) but it’s always worked for us all these years. Actually it comes in handy now because if I was her age I might not be able to lift her wheelchair in and out of the car, get her in and out of the shower, etc. Plus I have always been attracted to older women and wouldn’t want someone my own age.

[candy_coated_bitch]

My most significant age difference was 17 years. That was maybe four or five years ago. The age wasn't really a problem, we clicked on an emotional and intellectual levels. The only time it was noticeable was when he talked about certain music or TV shows I didn't know because I wasn't born yet to be familiar with them, but we'd just laugh about it.

When I was in my 20's I typically dated folks about ten years older. I've dated someone my own age once. I don't think I could date someone 17 years younger I hate to say. Friendship wise I can bond with folks in their 20's but I'd prefer not to partner with them. No offense!

Right now my partner is nine years older and I don't know that it feels like a "significant" age difference. We mesh well together on pretty much every level. But there is a culture gap with certain tv, movie, and music things. And again we just laugh. No big thing.

[MsTinkerbelly]

Kasey is 9 years older than I am, which is pretty typical of most of my romantic relationships. My ex-husband was the same age as I was, so it is not like I can’t date within my age group, but I prefer older.

Absolutely could not date younger.

[Chained Daisy]

In my last LTR my butch was 8 years older, previous one we were around the same age. I am usually drawn to older butches/FTM`s. I have never been in a relationship with any one younger and could never have imagined that happening.

Ultimately though love makes the world go around and age is just a number

[Signmypapyrus]

I prefer older women and the few I have gone on dates with have been older. I mean, at least ten years older, if not more. I imagine when I eventually want a relationship I’ll end up with someone older.

I think it makes sense in queer or same sex relationships.

[introverted1]

Since my mid-30s, I usually end up with people who are five to six years younger than me. I realize that is not a huge age gap.

Whoever can communicate well and keep up with me on the hiking trail is ideal.

[Tuff Stuff]

Older women have always been my thing. But as I am ageing,five or less years younger than me works,but nothing under forty years.

Nothing wrong with younger ladies,just how I feel about it.

[Esme nha Maire]

My one lesbian relationship was with a woman 11 years my junior, and the age difference didn't matter a damn, despite my being in my early 30's and her being in her early twenties, so the percentage difference in age was huge.

I think it depends on the personalities involved. I wouldn't rule out dating someone in their twenties, so long as they were reasonably mature and there weren't any other problems (hey, I don't have the energy I once did!). And I certainly wouldn't rule out someone older! That said, in some respects I'm under-mature for my age, and look younger than I am, whilst being rather more decrepit than most would expect due to various medical oddities.

My ideal is someone a bit more grounded than me, and better able to cope with those aspects of the world I find problematic, with integrity and a good sense of humour. Given those - I'm not too concerned about their age, so long as they are over 20!

[Bèsame*]

Please don't look like a child I could of had , or look like my father..

I just could not kiss that age difference.

But, I've almost always have been the tallest one !