Long Distance Relationships

Vincent · 11-24-2018, 03:26 PM

I know this is pretty old,but reading it,I found interesting.
As I head into my 60's,I actually like to be alone and enjoy having my own place.
I have decided that I would prefer to meet someone,that leads a busy life,and would be happy to come over and have a good time,I mean this respectfully.

I just cant offer the "white picket fence" I feel disengenuis,pretending I do.
I am financially ok,so I can buy tickets,and I must say,I seem to have a thing for Americans.

I have thought about this for a long time now,so I thought,why not post it.
Maybe there is a queer dyke femme out there looking for me.

I really dig strong women and I guess I can go into more detail in private,or even chat

cheers from tropical paradise,down under

VintageFemme · 02-18-2019, 12:30 PM

I find that the older I get, the more I'm good with a long distance relationship. The things I want out of a relationship have shifted and are quite different these days. I also love traveling, living alone, my private time and independence. Now, I need to find someone who values these things as well! Tricky tricky business.

RebelDyke · 02-18-2019, 01:58 PM

While my requirements for relationships most assuredly have changed thru the years, I stand by my original statement....

long distance relationships never work.

(i will only add this caveat. They will work if it is treated much like a poly relationship: all involved must be completely honest and open about everything. j/s)

Play · 02-18-2019, 02:19 PM

I can see a LDR working out if both parties
involved have excellent communication skills.

Also, no reason a LDR can't change into a IRL
relationship in time.

JDeere · 02-18-2019, 03:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VintageFemme

I find that the older I get, the more I'm good with a long distance relationship. The things I want out of a relationship have shifted and are quite different these days. I also love traveling, living alone, my private time and independence. Now, I need to find someone who values these things as well! Tricky tricky business.

I love traveling as well, my alone time and independence however the living alone deal.doesn't work due to me being a caregiver.

I however understand it is indeed tricky business.

Vincent · 02-18-2019, 05:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VintageFemme

I find that the older I get, the more I'm good with a long distance relationship. The things I want out of a relationship have shifted and are quite different these days. I also love traveling, living alone, my private time and independence. Now, I need to find someone who values these things as well! Tricky tricky business.

I feel the same
Actually I like different countries
I like living alone,its been 16 years and I never feel bored or lonely
I like people visiting,but I also enjoy them leaving
I did the live in stuff,and it never worked,mainly my fault,coz I wanted my own room and felt smothered.
maybe I just like romantic holidays,just things have changed for me now

Canela · 03-03-2019, 06:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vincent

I feel the same
Actually I like different countries
I like living alone,its been 16 years and I never feel bored or lonely
I like people visiting,but I also enjoy them leaving
I did the live in stuff,and it never worked,mainly my fault,coz I wanted my own room and felt smothered.
maybe I just like romantic holidays,just things have changed for me now

This.

While it might not make sense for everyone, it makes every bit of difference for me/us.

Vincent · 03-04-2019, 03:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Canela

This.

While it might not make sense for everyone, it makes every bit of difference for me/us.

That's the thing,I try and use the analogy of my shoes won't fit most people nor my diet.
Theres no sense in being dishonest or doing something out of guilt.
I moved in with a woman,coz I felt guilty and didn't want to hurt her,it was a distaster and she got hurt anyway,as did I.
I wanted it to work,but's it just not me.
I like that,13,000 miles of ocean between us,LOL

I'm glad you have met someone and its working,good on you both

Do you have a friend into tranguys???????

Bèsame* · 02-04-2020, 07:38 PM

Perfect way to start a long distance relationship....send a Valentine card. Visit the Holiday card thread and sign up..you can can have more than one crush!!!💘💘💘

~ocean · 02-04-2020, 08:59 PM

LDR = fantasy

Lyte · 02-18-2019, 06:40 PM

Indeed. I think I've grown rather comfy with my hermit-esque lifestyle.

Quote:

Originally Posted by VintageFemme

I find that the older I get, the more I'm good with a long distance relationship. The things I want out of a relationship have shifted and are quite different these days. I also love traveling, living alone, my private time and independence. Now, I need to find someone who values these things as well! Tricky tricky business.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vincent

I feel the same
Actually I like different countries
I like living alone,its been 16 years and I never feel bored or lonely
I like people visiting,but I also enjoy them leaving
I did the live in stuff,and it never worked,mainly my fault,coz I wanted my own room and felt smothered.
maybe I just like romantic holidays,just things have changed for me now

JDeere · 02-18-2019, 09:41 PM

The only crap I can't stand about LDR's is the waiting to see each other, I am impatient as fuck!!!!!

However this gives me time to save money LOL

kittygrrl · 02-19-2019, 09:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JDeere

The only crap I can't stand about LDR's is the waiting to see each other, I am impatient as fuck!!!!!

However this gives me time to save money LOL

it's worth the wait JD

JDeere · 02-20-2019, 04:16 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kittygrrl

it's worth the wait JD

I hope so i truly hope so

homoe · 03-03-2019, 10:34 AM

I'm certainly no expert on this subject matter, but I think it helps TONS if the person lives in a city you love visiting...........

11-24-2018, 03:26 PM	#1
Vincent Member How Do You Identify?: Transman Preferred Pronoun?: Him,he Relationship Status: just me Join Date: Apr 2015 Location: Tweed Heads Australia Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,205 Thanked 936 Times in 335 Posts Rep Power: 12178444	very old thread I know this is pretty old,but reading it,I found interesting. As I head into my 60's,I actually like to be alone and enjoy having my own place. I have decided that I would prefer to meet someone,that leads a busy life,and would be happy to come over and have a good time,I mean this respectfully. I just cant offer the "white picket fence" I feel disengenuis,pretending I do. I am financially ok,so I can buy tickets,and I must say,I seem to have a thing for Americans. I have thought about this for a long time now,so I thought,why not post it. Maybe there is a queer dyke femme out there looking for me. I really dig strong women and I guess I can go into more detail in private,or even chat cheers from tropical paradise,down under __________________ https://soundcloud.com/conormont https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kb1y2xyfYSw If Not Me-Who If Not Now-When If Not Here-Where

02-18-2019, 12:30 PM	#2
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,620 Times in 1,655 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I find that the older I get, the more I'm good with a long distance relationship. The things I want out of a relationship have shifted and are quite different these days. I also love traveling, living alone, my private time and independence. Now, I need to find someone who values these things as well! Tricky tricky business. __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

02-18-2019, 01:58 PM	#3
RebelDyke Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her/Hers...please no male ID..it's insulting Relationship Status: settled and content Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: oz Posts: 2,569 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,574 Thanked 3,223 Times in 1,574 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	While my requirements for relationships most assuredly have changed thru the years, I stand by my original statement.... long distance relationships never work. (i will only add this caveat. They will work if it is treated much like a poly relationship: all involved must be completely honest and open about everything. j/s) __________________ *"Do it trembling if you must, but DO IT!" ~Emmet Fox* "The cave that you fear holds the treasure you seek" Please, cancel my subscription to your issues.

02-18-2019, 02:19 PM	#4
Play Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Nope Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Boondocks Posts: 105 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 593 Thanked 381 Times in 95 Posts Rep Power: 2165824	Possible.... I can see a LDR working out if both parties involved have excellent communication skills. Also, no reason a LDR can't change into a IRL relationship in time.

02-04-2020, 07:38 PM	#9
Bèsame* Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femm Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: loved by many Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Closer to the waves Posts: 15,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,161 Thanked 40,985 Times in 10,756 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	Perfect way to start a long distance relationship....send a Valentine card. Visit the Holiday card thread and sign up..you can can have more than one crush!!!💘💘💘 __________________ kisses A kiss is a whisper in your mouth. Can I borrow a kiss? I promise to give it back.

02-04-2020, 08:59 PM	#10
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,017 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	LDR = fantasy __________________ ~ Always, ocean

02-18-2019, 09:41 PM	#12
JDeere Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Transgender Preferred Pronoun?: He/him/his Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 17,752 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 31,018 Thanked 28,833 Times in 9,708 Posts Rep Power: 21474865	The only crap I can't stand about LDR's is the waiting to see each other, I am impatient as fuck!!!!! However this gives me time to save money LOL __________________ Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. Albert Einstein

03-03-2019, 10:34 AM	#15
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