The Older LGBTIQ Crush Thread - Post Age 40

Martina · 06-08-2010, 05:04 PM

Author of Crybaby Blues. Sigh. She is married to another professor. They have two kids.

Martina · 06-08-2010, 05:21 PM

another of Kay Ryan. She can write too. Big Sigh. She's more or less local, but no sightings of yet.

Soft*Silver · 06-08-2010, 05:42 PM

Elizabeth Montgomery was my first crush as a child, watching Bewitched. As she aged, she became all the more beautiful to me.

Isabelle Rosallini makes my head swirl..the reaction is immediate and intense when I run across her in a film unexpectantly

Queen Latifa is HOT, as is Tracie Chapman.

If Kirstie Alley would just butch out already, I would ask her to marry me. Anyone who loves lemurs is ok in my book...

I love butches of size, too, and there just isnt any in the media (that I know of). The ones who have been in my life were very attractive to me. None of them were truly ok with their size. I was!

On a context note, I want to point out how it feels when you are the young blonde, slim, blue eyed porcelain skinned female in this country. My daughter is one of those. I worked HARD at getting her to not buy into the "desired image" of our culture. She hated that people saw her as that image and devalued me, her mother, who has always been plump, curvy, dark, olive skinned, and now, older and silver haired. She has always valued people for who they are and not what they look like and has had to battle those stereotypes...as well as people who unintentionally devalue her beauty because it IS the desired image. She loves to be beautiful and will advocate her right to be beautiful but also fights to include, not exclude anyone in the realm of beautiful...

she told me the other day, "Mo, you havent looked more beautiful than you do now"...wow...I was blown away...but I had to think it over and realized that she was right...and it was exactly how I felt about myself too!

I WANT a butch with wrinkles, and lovely looser skin, and silver in their hair. Youth feels so unfamiliar to me and I have no desire to lean against someone who hasnt dialed a rotary phone nor ever listened to 45s...the only dance I do nowadays are with those who treasure my aging process...

Martina · 06-08-2010, 05:56 PM

In femmes, Lena Olin is my favorite. As i was growing up though it was Diana Rigg (The Avengers) and Anne Francis (Honey West).

ruthie14 · 06-08-2010, 05:57 PM

*sigh...* k.d. lang... she just gets better with age if you ask me! * swooooooooooooooon*

OH, and Atlasthome... looks damn hot in a tux... trust me on that!!! *fanning*

AtLast · 06-08-2010, 06:58 PM

[QUOTE=softness;125987]

On a context note, I want to point out how it feels when you are the young blonde, slim, blue eyed porcelain skinned female in this country. My daughter is one of those. I worked HARD at getting her to not buy into the "desired image" of our culture. She hated that people saw her as that image and devalued me, her mother, who has always been plump, curvy, dark, olive skinned, and now, older and silver haired. She has always valued people for who they are and not what they look like and has had to battle those stereotypes...as well as people who unintentionally devalue her beauty because it IS the desired image. She loves to be beautiful and will advocate her right to be beautiful but also fights to include, not exclude anyone in the realm of beautiful...

she told me the other day, "Mo, you havent looked more beautiful than you do now"...wow...I was blown away...but I had to think it over and realized that she was right...and it was exactly how I felt about myself too!

QUOTE]

Love what your daughter said to you.

Also, I'm glad you brought this context up. I think many women that do fit the blonde, leggy , perfect body type are often viewed as dumb in our culture- the dumb blonde. And yes, tye devaluing goes much further.

My late partner's daughter is simply gorgeous and brilliant. Guess which attribute she continually was stereotyped as? LOL, she also was one hell of a feminist early on and not one to mince words. Yup, her Mamma taught her well!

Then we have the butch looks stereotypes..... ARGH!!

Soft*Silver · 06-08-2010, 07:24 PM

yes, ALH, many women are placed in the "dumb blonde" category, equating beauty goes hand in hand with dumbness. Wrong wrong wrong. We all know that anyway. I can remember being in Denny's restaurant after an AA meeting with a bunch from the AA meeting. I had my then 8 year old daughter with me. One of the guys was going thru a divorce and was telling horrible women jokes. We women were uncomfortable and were looking at each other but no one spoke up. Well, until my daughter did. She looked up from her coloring book and said "your jokes are offensive to women. Please dont tell them anymore" and went back to coloring.

She hasnt changed much since then.

I got my strength from my mother, who could handle any tractor on the farm and still look like a beauty star out of a movie when she tried. She taught me all about business and how to deal with the logics of the world. So she was smart and pretty.

and my daughter got her strength from me. And she will pass it to her daughters...

in my family, the older females are revered as matriarchs. But the Bubas dont look like they use to anymore. Mine wore bubushka scarves on their heads and flowered dresses and thick hose tied up with those gawd awful rubber band type garters. Now, we wear Liz Claiborne and carry designer purses and yet we hold up our heritage as Bubas with pride. Maybe thats why I dont struggle with the aging process...I find aging powerful and exciting.

oh and by the way. mariska is IT! I forgot about her! HAWT! But she needs more weight on her...

AtLast · 06-09-2010, 02:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by softness

yes, ALH, many women are placed in the "dumb blonde" category, equating beauty goes hand in hand with dumbness. Wrong wrong wrong. We all know that anyway. I can remember being in Denny's restaurant after an AA meeting with a bunch from the AA meeting. I had my then 8 year old daughter with me. One of the guys was going thru a divorce and was telling horrible women jokes. We women were uncomfortable and were looking at each other but no one spoke up. Well, until my daughter did. She looked up from her coloring book and said "your jokes are offensive to women. Please dont tell them anymore" and went back to coloring.

I love this!!! I have 2 Granddaughters that would be right behind her! I have to give kudos to my daughter-in-law and yes, my son! Also, both of the girls are very petite and now as teens get all the garbage about being fragile... Shit, both kick-butt on the soccer field and the older one is a gymnist and very physically strong.

oh and by the way. mariska is IT! I forgot about her! HAWT! But she needs more weight on her...

I think Mariska is going through cancer treatment. She has lost weight. I know, I am not one for stick-thin. Give me curves and few extra pounds is fine!! LOL... I have such a great time with her not only being the daughter of Jane Mansfield, but her father was the original Tarzan!!

cinderella · 06-11-2010, 07:03 AM

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Originally Posted by AtLastHome

"....but her father was the original Tarzan!!"[/COLOR][/FONT]

Really? I thought Johnny Weissmuller was the first, then Lex Baxter...I never heard Mickey Hagirtay referred to as Tarzan...but then, I may be wrong.

AtLast · 06-09-2010, 02:35 PM

My main crushee/friend remains our Duchess (I don't know her age, actually... LOL... I still don't ask!!)! She is attached to an awesome Butch, but will forever be my crush! Hell, I am so very harmless!!

But there are several women on the Planet that I see as crush material....too many to list, really. Frankly, the over 40 femmes/women here have brought so much bright light into my world! Thank you all!

scootebaby · 06-09-2010, 02:59 PM

so after perusing the galleries i thought i needed to add to this list...

the pup with the fedora now has me crushing on AtLast

Gemme

definitely the fabulous Ms Duchess

Passionaria--or at least the artwork she posts

theres something bout Linus--

Petal Soft--her writing

im beginning to think im just a crush whore

Spirit Dancer · 06-08-2010, 06:28 PM

Queen Latifah Set it Off

Chaz Bono

Spirit Dancer · 06-08-2010, 06:31 PM

Jane Mansfield

AtLast · 06-08-2010, 06:47 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spirit Dancer

Jane Mansfield

OMG!!! and her daughter, Mariska Hagarty is beautiful and over 40, I believe... please someone say she is!!

morningstar55 · 06-09-2010, 05:36 AM

mawning crushers

im up here wandering around Chicagoland...... delievering some loads.... if anyone is up in this neck of the woods im always up for meeting up for a coffee or eats... yahoo me

hope everyone has a nice day......

06-08-2010, 05:42 PM	#3
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	Elizabeth Montgomery was my first crush as a child, watching Bewitched. As she aged, she became all the more beautiful to me. Isabelle Rosallini makes my head swirl..the reaction is immediate and intense when I run across her in a film unexpectantly Queen Latifa is HOT, as is Tracie Chapman. If Kirstie Alley would just butch out already, I would ask her to marry me. Anyone who loves lemurs is ok in my book... I love butches of size, too, and there just isnt any in the media (that I know of). The ones who have been in my life were very attractive to me. None of them were truly ok with their size. I was! On a context note, I want to point out how it feels when you are the young blonde, slim, blue eyed porcelain skinned female in this country. My daughter is one of those. I worked HARD at getting her to not buy into the "desired image" of our culture. She hated that people saw her as that image and devalued me, her mother, who has always been plump, curvy, dark, olive skinned, and now, older and silver haired. She has always valued people for who they are and not what they look like and has had to battle those stereotypes...as well as people who unintentionally devalue her beauty because it IS the desired image. She loves to be beautiful and will advocate her right to be beautiful but also fights to include, not exclude anyone in the realm of beautiful... she told me the other day, "Mo, you havent looked more beautiful than you do now"...wow...I was blown away...but I had to think it over and realized that she was right...and it was exactly how I felt about myself too! I WANT a butch with wrinkles, and lovely looser skin, and silver in their hair. Youth feels so unfamiliar to me and I have no desire to lean against someone who hasnt dialed a rotary phone nor ever listened to 45s...the only dance I do nowadays are with those who treasure my aging process... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

06-08-2010, 07:24 PM	#7
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	yes, ALH, many women are placed in the "dumb blonde" category, equating beauty goes hand in hand with dumbness. Wrong wrong wrong. We all know that anyway. I can remember being in Denny's restaurant after an AA meeting with a bunch from the AA meeting. I had my then 8 year old daughter with me. One of the guys was going thru a divorce and was telling horrible women jokes. We women were uncomfortable and were looking at each other but no one spoke up. Well, until my daughter did. She looked up from her coloring book and said "your jokes are offensive to women. Please dont tell them anymore" and went back to coloring. She hasnt changed much since then. I got my strength from my mother, who could handle any tractor on the farm and still look like a beauty star out of a movie when she tried. She taught me all about business and how to deal with the logics of the world. So she was smart and pretty. and my daughter got her strength from me. And she will pass it to her daughters... in my family, the older females are revered as matriarchs. But the Bubas dont look like they use to anymore. Mine wore bubushka scarves on their heads and flowered dresses and thick hose tied up with those gawd awful rubber band type garters. Now, we wear Liz Claiborne and carry designer purses and yet we hold up our heritage as Bubas with pride. Maybe thats why I dont struggle with the aging process...I find aging powerful and exciting. oh and by the way. mariska is IT! I forgot about her! HAWT! But she needs more weight on her... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

06-08-2010, 06:28 PM	#12
Spirit Dancer Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Complex but Tender Preferred Pronoun?: ~Ma`am~ Relationship Status: Shotgun Rider Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Following the red road Posts: 4,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,304 Thanked 12,913 Times in 3,466 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Queen Latifah Set it Off Chaz Bono __________________ “For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.” Judy Garland

06-08-2010, 06:31 PM	#13
Spirit Dancer Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Complex but Tender Preferred Pronoun?: ~Ma`am~ Relationship Status: Shotgun Rider Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Following the red road Posts: 4,519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,304 Thanked 12,913 Times in 3,466 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	*Jane Mansfield* __________________ “For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.” Judy Garland

06-09-2010, 05:36 AM	#15
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	mawning crushers im up here wandering around Chicagoland...... delievering some loads.... if anyone is up in this neck of the woods im always up for meeting up for a coffee or eats... yahoo me hope everyone has a nice day...... __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

06-08-2010, 05:04 PM	#1
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,286 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Author of Crybaby Blues. Sigh. She is married to another professor. They have two kids.

06-08-2010, 05:21 PM	#2
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,286 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	another of Kay Ryan. She can write too. Big Sigh. She's more or less local, but no sightings of yet.

06-08-2010, 05:56 PM	#4
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,286 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	In femmes, Lena Olin is my favorite. As i was growing up though it was Diana Rigg (The Avengers) and Anne Francis (Honey West).

06-08-2010, 05:57 PM	#5
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	sigh... k.d. lang... she just gets better with age if you ask me! * swooooooooooooooon* OH, and Atlasthome... looks damn hot in a tux... trust me on that!!! fanning

06-08-2010, 06:58 PM	#6
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	[QUOTE=softness;125987] On a context note, I want to point out how it feels when you are the young blonde, slim, blue eyed porcelain skinned female in this country. My daughter is one of those. I worked HARD at getting her to not buy into the "desired image" of our culture. She hated that people saw her as that image and devalued me, her mother, who has always been plump, curvy, dark, olive skinned, and now, older and silver haired. She has always valued people for who they are and not what they look like and has had to battle those stereotypes...as well as people who unintentionally devalue her beauty because it IS the desired image. She loves to be beautiful and will advocate her right to be beautiful but also fights to include, not exclude anyone in the realm of beautiful... she told me the other day, "Mo, you havent looked more beautiful than you do now"...wow...I was blown away...but I had to think it over and realized that she was right...and it was exactly how I felt about myself too! QUOTE] Love what your daughter said to you. Also, I'm glad you brought this context up. I think many women that do fit the blonde, leggy , perfect body type are often viewed as dumb in our culture- the dumb blonde. And yes, tye devaluing goes much further. My late partner's daughter is simply gorgeous and brilliant. Guess which attribute she continually was stereotyped as? LOL, she also was one hell of a feminist early on and not one to mince words. Yup, her Mamma taught her well! Then we have the butch looks stereotypes..... ARGH!!

06-09-2010, 02:35 PM	#10
AtLast Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: HER - SHE Relationship Status: Relating Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: CA & AZ I'm a Snowbird Posts: 5,408 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,826 Thanked 10,827 Times in 3,199 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	My main crushee/friend remains our Duchess (I don't know her age, actually... LOL... I still don't ask!!)! She is attached to an awesome Butch, but will forever be my crush! Hell, I am so very harmless!! But there are several women on the Planet that I see as crush material....too many to list, really. Frankly, the over 40 femmes/women here have brought so much bright light into my world! Thank you all!

06-09-2010, 02:59 PM	#11
scootebaby Timed Out How Do You Identify?: yes dear Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: south florida Posts: 2,494 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,264 Thanked 6,737 Times in 1,777 Posts Rep Power: 0	so after perusing the galleries i thought i needed to add to this list... the pup with the fedora now has me crushing on AtLast Gemme definitely the fabulous Ms Duchess Passionaria--or at least the artwork she posts theres something bout Linus-- Petal Soft--her writing im beginning to think im just a crush whore

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