what NOT to do in a relationship.......

[dark_crystal]

Originally Posted by chefhmboyrd

yeah i think it's time i write that book, i bet we all could too!
what NOT to do........

#1 do not give away all your power during the honeymoon sex part.......

as in have a backbone, don't let your partner run the whole show. that sets the tone and culture for the whole rest of the relationship.
have and opinion and express it. don't be afraid to disagree. even if you don't feel real strongly about something don't jut roll over and say "scratch my belly again please....."

now that i am reading this it is occurring to me that there is all kinds of precedents that can get set during the honeymoon sex part! there are things you might spend hours doing at first that your personality is not inclined toward as a rule- and when that starts to wear off you find out their personality IS inclined to it and now you have a problem (things like talking on the phone or IM or coccooning on the couch that are natural during the bonding period but may not be the default mode for both partners)