Picking apart a femme

[Soft*Silver]

TD...sometimes people say things and dont realize they are being insensitive (OH LORD i just did it myself! So anyone can do this!) This thread isnt about beating up on anyone...or abusiveness. This thread is about the "innocent" remarks people say when they arent thinking clearly or have no frame of reference to know this might be a sensitive area.

I too would dismiss anyone who was intentionally cruel or plain old nasty. My BF wasnt. He just didnt realize how it could affect me when my thin upper lip was pointed out...and even when I said it made me uncomfortable, he still didnt get it. He kept telling me he meant no harm. And he didnt. He loved me. He wasnt being a heel. He was just being...uhmmm....dense?

Originally Posted by T D

Welllllll, if someone made a point of saying something (especially in front of others) about my physical appearance that they consider a weakness or flaw (or whatever), I'd kick their ass to the curb. At some point in life I made a conscious decision that I "don't need this shit", and I don't. No one does!