Generation SILENT

Jess · 08-25-2010, 07:14 AM

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Originally Posted by christie0918

I'm glad you posted this, altho tears in my morning kona wasn't what I had planned!

It looks as if it will be shown at the Charlotte Film Festival (who knew?) in September. I hope we can make plans to attend.

One woman in the trailer said it best: If not for them, we wouldn't be here!

I absolutely agree with her sentiment. As we ourselves advance in age, we have to start looking at issues like this. Why you think I wanna sell house and do condo down the road? LOL

I would love for us to be able to go see it in C'ville ( actually, that film festival is pretty cool). We may have to buy it as well and pass it on to friends who aren't near screening areas.

Your ole codger loves you... ( that was a slight derail, my bad)

Jess · 08-25-2010, 07:37 AM

Here are a couple of links that may be helpful...

http://healthnewsdigest.com/news/Sen...ommunity.shtml

http://www.asaging.org/constituent_groups/lain/

always2late · 08-25-2010, 08:40 AM

Thank you so much Jess for posting this. I work in the field of geriatrics, a population that is often overlooked in most circumstances anyway, especially those in nursing homes or other institutionalized care. Its so heartbreaking to think how hard someone in that age group had to fight to be who they are, only to feel the need to hide in their "golden years". At my job, there are quite a few out employees, and I would like to think that no elderly person who was gay would be treated any differently....however, in this case, its sometimes not the employees that are the problem. Its the fellow patients. These are people who grew up in that time...and most, if not all, have brought the prejudices of a lifetime with them. At my old job I heard of one female patient, who had died several years before I worked there, being ostracized by other patients because she was gay. The thought of that is so horrible....to outlive your friends, and either have no family...or family that puts you in a home and forgets about you...and then to be shunned by your "peers". What could be a worse way to spend your final years on this earth? I have heard of several "retirement communities" founded by, and for, the LGBT community....but what about the years after, when more care is required? What about when one can no longer live independantly? Its a sobering thought...and one that needs to be addressed. No one should have to spend the end of their life in hiding or in fear.

Heart · 08-25-2010, 04:37 PM

Conference on LGBTQ aging coming up in November:

http://www.sageusa.org/index.cfm

Jess · 08-25-2010, 05:40 PM

Thanks for the link Heart! I doubt we can make it there, but can and will keep up with their work! Very grateful for the info.

christie · 08-25-2010, 07:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Heart

Conference on LGBTQ aging coming up in November:

http://www.sageusa.org/index.cfm

Thank you for posting this link! I wish we could attend, but Jess was correct in that we can't - Bratboy's school schedule just won't allow for it!

SAGE is doing important work. As of late, issues with aging keep coming forefront - the film Hannah Free and now this one.

Maybe that ole dyke retirement home isn't such a bad idea!

princessbelle · 08-25-2010, 08:08 PM

Wow what a wonderful, inspiring and thought provoking thread and link.

I worked for many years in the HIV/Aids floor and even though it has gotten better, the predjudice is of course still around. There were many nights I would sneak in partners into a patient's room because the family had forbid them to see a dying loved one. I am hoping as we age that there will be many in the medical field that will be gentle and kind to us all.

I agree with Always regarding the other patients and also the families and friends of a lot of "our" people being where the majority of a lot of the problems that our elderly face. I have a Certification in Geriatrics and I remember there was education to us nurses while taking this course regarding how to recognize and embrace different lifestyles into the dying process for the patient and family. I think it was brilliant to include that in our training and I was very proud. Of course, it was not enough training but it was at least mentioned.

It is never too early to get Living Wills and especially Medical Power of Attorney. Doctor's offices and office supply stores sell them. These are VERY important for planning and helping our partners deal with what could happen to any of us at any time.

Of course the obvious, IRAs, 401Ks and Pensions are also a great idea to have money so that the government won't be the ones in charge of us as we age.

If only life was fair and we were all given the same recognition and equality of a just, honorable and safe existance when we age. Education, communication, planning and hope is what will see us through.

citybutch · 08-25-2010, 08:45 PM

Thanks for posting Jess! I am passing this on...

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always2late Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: m'lady Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 2,000 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,834 Thanked 6,231 Times in 1,462 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Thank you so much Jess for posting this. I work in the field of geriatrics, a population that is often overlooked in most circumstances anyway, especially those in nursing homes or other institutionalized care. Its so heartbreaking to think how hard someone in that age group had to fight to be who they are, only to feel the need to hide in their "golden years". At my job, there are quite a few out employees, and I would like to think that no elderly person who was gay would be treated any differently....however, in this case, its sometimes not the employees that are the problem. Its the fellow patients. These are people who grew up in that time...and most, if not all, have brought the prejudices of a lifetime with them. At my old job I heard of one female patient, who had died several years before I worked there, being ostracized by other patients because she was gay. The thought of that is so horrible....to outlive your friends, and either have no family...or family that puts you in a home and forgets about you...and then to be shunned by your "peers". What could be a worse way to spend your final years on this earth? I have heard of several "retirement communities" founded by, and for, the LGBT community....but what about the years after, when more care is required? What about when one can no longer live independantly? Its a sobering thought...and one that needs to be addressed. No one should have to spend the end of their life in hiding or in fear. __________________ Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there ~ Rumi

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princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	Wow what a wonderful, inspiring and thought provoking thread and link. I worked for many years in the HIV/Aids floor and even though it has gotten better, the predjudice is of course still around. There were many nights I would sneak in partners into a patient's room because the family had forbid them to see a dying loved one. I am hoping as we age that there will be many in the medical field that will be gentle and kind to us all. I agree with Always regarding the other patients and also the families and friends of a lot of "our" people being where the majority of a lot of the problems that our elderly face. I have a Certification in Geriatrics and I remember there was education to us nurses while taking this course regarding how to recognize and embrace different lifestyles into the dying process for the patient and family. I think it was brilliant to include that in our training and I was very proud. Of course, it was not enough training but it was at least mentioned. It is never too early to get Living Wills and especially Medical Power of Attorney. Doctor's offices and office supply stores sell them. These are VERY important for planning and helping our partners deal with what could happen to any of us at any time. Of course the obvious, IRAs, 401Ks and Pensions are also a great idea to have money so that the government won't be the ones in charge of us as we age. If only life was fair and we were all given the same recognition and equality of a just, honorable and safe existance when we age. Education, communication, planning and hope is what will see us through. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

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08-25-2010, 07:37 AM	#2
Jess Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: decidedly indifferent Preferred Pronoun?: other Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Patrick Springs, VA Posts: 2,812 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,247 Thanked 5,700 Times in 1,682 Posts Rep Power: 0	Here are a couple of links that may be helpful... http://healthnewsdigest.com/news/Sen...ommunity.shtml http://www.asaging.org/constituent_groups/lain/

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