What is your Flirtation Style?

[AtLast]

I am a complete idiot when it come to flirting! Have no sense about it at all. Worse thing is, it takes me forever to figure out if a femme is even flirting with me! There have been more than a few times my friends have had to "clue" me in! BONK!!!

So, I figured there are many members here that could enlighten those of us that are just not good flirts with telling us about how they do it!

Let's have a fun time here! Let your flirtation techniques run free!!!

[pajama]

Well it figures that Rico Suave gets to be the first to respond.

Quite honestly...my flirtation style is honesty. I'm not shy about telling people that I think they are attractive, witty, smart, sexy, etc. I will usually be straight forward and tell them I think they are attractive. Some folks on here view me as just a flirt or player. When in fact, I am being honest and straigtforward. The catch to this is you can't be shy. You have to voice your opinion. Also when I tell someone how I feel about them, it isn't in the hopes of "hooking up". I do it because we all like compliments, honest compliments. So I do it to just let that person know that I think they are special.

The honest compliment opens the door for other conversations.

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[Sachita]

I am not very coy when it comes to approaching someone. If I'm interested I will approach. If they are not receptive or a 2 X 4, I quickly lose interest. I don't chase after anyone. I am more the type of woman you have to get my attention and then keep it. Therefore I am more drawn to straightforward and cerebral approach. I really dislike sexual innuendo in the beginning. I’m very open-minded but reserve that level of flirting for a lover. I want someone that steps up and initiates but isn’t overbearing about it. Some women go for that aloof and mysterious type. It just does nothing for me. I’m more the type that wants you to show you are interested and work at my affection. Only then might you unleash the seductress in me and watch out.

Everyone is different when it comes to the flirting game. I don’t know you very well but from my observation I would guess that friendship is very important to you in a lover- as it should be. You are more likely to befriend someone and see where that goes. I’m the same way but I think my disadvantage, which could be yours too, is that we have these walls and almost “too” careful to allow anything to bloom in that friendship. I admire people who can instantly respond to chemistry and just go with it. I’m far too methodical. Perhaps more so as I get older.

But I love flirting and playfulness. Even if nothing happens. I have a few friends that I can do this with and it never goes beyond that which is fine. I have had some heated and passionate romance in my time with heavy doses of flirting. I would LOVE to do another round of that!

Just be yourself but know that the women that might interest you, again an observation will probably want some hints, a dash of the chivalry you hide so well and an expression of passion. I think at our age, not that we are old but highly experienced our radar is looking for something deeper than a casual interlude might present.

[Sachita]

Perfect answer. I totally agree.

Originally Posted by pajara2

Well it figures that Rico Suave gets to be the first to respond.

Quite honestly...my flirtation style is honesty. I'm not shy about telling people that I think they are attractive, witty, smart, sexy, etc. I will usually be straight forward and tell them I think they are attractive. Some folks on here view me as just a flirt or player. When in fact, I am being honest and straigtforward. The catch to this is you can't be shy. You have to voice your opinion. Also when I tell someone how I feel about them, it isn't in the hopes of "hooking up". I do it because we all like compliments, honest compliments. So I do it to just let that person know that I think they are special.

The honest compliment opens the door for other conversations.

A

[sweetbutch26]

i just get on my pretty boi swag say hello and be my normal sweet charming self

[rockybcn]

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

[sweetbutch26]

Originally Posted by rockybcn

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

amen bro well said

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by rockybcn

When first meeting someone.....I enjoy a quick witted banter. Humor goes a long way with me. A woman who will laugh with me has already captured my attention. You can also tell by her smile and her eyes that she is enjoying herself as well. Sexual innuendos spoken both verbally and or physically, they are not flattering for me. A woman who can entertain me right away with her mind....she is the one I want to know.

excellent

someone once said to me "if you don't kiss and have sex right away how do you know you'll enjoy each other sexually? Sex is important."

Believe it or not lots of people think this way and talk about sex almost right away to establish compatibility. This is an instant turn off for me. I'm like you, make me laugh, spark the playfulness inside of me and intrigue me. Then let me see your substance and that you are capable of a good foundation with me. If all these things measure up I have no doubt I will sexually rock your world. Sex is the easy part IMO.

[Laerkin]

Ooooo. Good thread!

I love flirting. Love love love. Flirting is certainly an art form and everyone executes it and responds to it a little differently.

Flirting requires confidence, so right off the bat that's appealing. Flirting, for me, is about more than "Hey baby, you're hot."

It's more about the smiles and the lingering eye contact. It's in the laughter and genuinely complimenting people. As the others have said, it's about honesty and establishing a connection that draws people in.

Flirting requires engaged conversation and great listening skills and making people feel good about themselves.

Of course, flirting with someone doesn't mean they get the message (some butches need to be hit over the head with a frying pan before they get the hint) and some people simply aren't interested. And that's okay too! In my opinion, flirting doesn't have to be sexual in nature and it can be innocent. It's fun to get to know new people and to make someone smile and to walk away feeling special.

Fun topic. I can't wait to read the conversations that will develop out of this one. Lol.

[rockybcn]

Originally Posted by Sachita

excellent

someone once said to me "if you don't kiss and have sex right away how do you know you'll enjoy each other sexually? Sex is important."

Believe it or not lots of people think this way and talk about sex almost right away to establish compatibility. This is an instant turn off for me. I'm like you, make me laugh, spark the playfulness inside of me and intrigue me. Then let me see your substance and that you are capable of a good foundation with me. If all these things measure up I have no doubt I will sexually rock your world. Sex is the easy part IMO.

Exacto mundo Sachita!!! Maybe its an age thing(I´m old!!!)....but everything comes in stages...its how one wishes to take it to the next level of the flirtation(If there is one). I always enjoyed the courting stage. It gave me time to watch for consistancy in a person. When dating,she could tell me just everything she wanted me to know about herself ...but I observed for myself and time always revealed many truths. Have fun...enjoy the art of great conversation,lots of laughter, the comfort level in each others silence, the sweetness of holding hands. Because when you get old and she is still by your side....you will have made fond memories.

[Tucker]

Flirting is the naughty looks from across the room, devious smiles, misbehaving, and generally not feeling bad for anything you say. Blame it on the moment.

[Glenn]

Originally Posted by AtLastHome

I am a complete idiot when it come to flirting! Have no sense about it at all. Worse thing is, it takes me forever to figure out if a femme is even flirting with me! There have been more than a few times my friends have had to "clue" me in! BONK!!!

So, I figured there are many members here that could enlighten those of us that are just not good flirts with telling us about how they do it!

Let's have a fun time here! Let your flirtation techniques run free!!!

It's not about what you say, it's what you demonstrate and project. The power of confidence is massive. It must lie in the fact that it is HONEST. Genuine to the turbo-max. All of successful flirting is based on HONESTY X 1000. Don't just be yourself,...BE yourself... BE yourself to the HILT. This will make you an Apocalyptic Flirter that demonstrates a Shock and Awe style.
Example: You see someone you'd like to get with. You rock up to them and say in a confident, level, voice: "Hey, how's it going?"
They will say;
"Fine."
You then say:
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say:
"I'm not sure.
You then say:
"Do you want to come home with me?"

[jenny]

Directness... focused attention... banter... eye contact. Flirtation, for me, is all about intelligence, humor, and a forthright style of communication.

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by rockybcn

Exacto mundo Sachita!!! Maybe its an age thing(I´m old!!!)....but everything comes in stages...its how one wishes to take it to the next level of the flirtation(If there is one). I always enjoyed the courting stage. It gave me time to watch for consistancy in a person. When dating,she could tell me just everything she wanted me to know about herself ...but I observed for myself and time always revealed many truths. Have fun...enjoy the art of great conversation,lots of laughter, the comfort level in each others silence, the sweetness of holding hands. Because when you get old and she is still by your side....you will have made fond memories.

I envy you sweetie. kiss

Thats why I have the three month rule. I dont care if my pussy is dripping and I want to jump your bones... I wait. I know that without a foundation it won't last. Now there has been times when I broke that rule, not very often, BUT it was a needed moment. It did not last. In fact I know this cute little FTM and for some reason we have this amazing chemistry. Its been like that for years. A year can go by and we see each other and BAM. Its amazing. But when its done its done. I love him like family but have zero interest in a relationship. I wouldnt do him if I was in a committed relationship.

Now if that happened again and more often I might need to change that rule. lol but then I would look at it all as a spiritual evolution of spirit. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever connect with one completely or if that lies in my future. Life is ever changing.

[Soft*Silver]

I never realized I use the gift of laughter as the main part of my flirting style. Well, maybe I dont. I think I am just a happy joyous person and if I am attracted to someone, laughter just naturally comes of it. I am told I have a great laugh. I know I feel really at home in it so it springs from me.

to flirt with me, all someone has to say is the word "horse" in a sentance. LOL....

intelligence is important to me. And thats doesnt mean just IQ. Social intelligence, creative intelligence, and empathetic intelligence are equally if not more important to me.

[Jude]

Example: You see someone you'd like to get with. You rock up to them and say in a confident, level, voice: "Hey, how's it going?"
They will say;
"Fine."
You then say:
"Cool. What are you doing later?"
She will say:
"I'm not sure.
You then say:
"Do you want to come home with me?"[/QUOTE]

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May it's just my age, but I'd be concerned that you were BOTH infected.

[ravfem]

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[Canela]

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[sweetbutch26]

Originally Posted by ravfem

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[ravfem]

Originally Posted by sweetbutch26

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