Breaking it down - describe the Femme that you are

[girl_dee]

I am loved and protected

[blush]

I am femme.

This past week, I chopped my hair off super short. I needed to look at myself differently. I needed to not equate femme, with, well, femme. It’s easy to slap some high heels on and do my nails, and call it done. But this year has been hard, and I’ve relied on compliments and worn-down thought patterns to tell me what MY femme-ness is.

Haven’t we all been there? Those moments or days or months or years when carving ourselves out of mashed potatoes just isn’t happening? When you realize you can’t back it up? The heels are there, the hair is there, the nails are there…and it all just makes you tired.
So I chopped off my hair to fuck with my femme-ness, to see if it was as easy as wearing high heels or curling my hair. It’s not, but we all knew that.

And I’ve come up with my truths:

I am femme because I say so.

I am femme because it describes my strength, not my weakness.

I am femme and a burlap sack couldn’t hide it, and encyclopedias couldn’t describe it.

[Medusa]

Originally Posted by blush

I am femme.


I am femme because it describes my strength, not my weakness.

YES! GOD, YES!

That is perhaps the most brilliant thing I have read in a good long while!

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Anya/Georgia

5. I am a recovering perfectionist & frequently fall off the wagon

7. I need to be in control so much in my professional life, I crave being
able to give it up in other areas of my life

7. On the other hand, the thought of giving up control also scares me (even though "control" is really illusionary)

9. I have many regrets about choices I have made in my life but work hard to accept that I did the best that I could under the circumstances

11. I love looking feminine but must admit wearing dresses or high heels really is not me

Honest? Too honest? That's also me at times.

I am femme.

I could have written this!

[Chancie]

I am a slightly grimy gardening femme.

[SuddenlyWestFemme]

Originally Posted by blush

I am femme.

...But this year has been hard, and I’ve relied on compliments and worn-down thought patterns to tell me what MY femme-ness is.

Wow... love this! (love the whole thread). This year has been hard and I've also relied on compliments and worn-down thought patterns to tell me what MY femme-ness is.

But along the way I've learned a thing or two about the kind of Femme I really am.

I am a NYCFemme who had to learn to mow the Seattle lawn while crying my eyes out. That darned grass refused to stop growing just because I was alone.

I am a NYCFemme who had to learn to fix the furnace because the kids needed heat and there was nobody else to do it.

I am a NYCFemme who had to take out the trash, clean out the gutters, catch and release those scary wolf spiders, and change a tire.

I am a NYCFemme who had to learn to leave the arts - my passion - to enter the 'real world' to pay the bills on my own, buy a car to get me to work, make Seattle friends (still working on this one) and know that I am enough on my own.

2800 miles and life changing loss showed me that FEMME means I have the gift of being strong enough to overcome any obstacle!

Could I have done all this if I wasn't Femme? Sure... but it certainly wouldn't have been as lovely.

[ScandalAndy]

I am a femme with many facets.

I am a scientist femme who looks conservative during the 9 to 5.
I am a shot girl femme who could sell anything to anyone with my cleavage.
I am the femme your mother warned you about, surrounded by a shroud of sex, mystery, desire and danger.
I am stubborn, opinionated, willful, effervescent, hilarious, warm and generous, and EVERYTHING can be turned into an innuendo.
I am a musician who cannot live without the undercurrent of music as a running constant in her life.
I am the girl who can go from tailored pants, flats, no makeup and a ponytail to 8" heels, fishnets, miniskirt and pinup hair in no time flat.
I am a femme who can get lost in the museum of natural history and be blissfully happy, who wouldn't be hard pressed to spend hours in museums, planetariums, or on educational trips.


I am secretly a die hard romantic who wants to be swept off her feet and cared for, but will fight you to the death if you ever imply that I cannot take care of myself.

I'm independent and intimidating, but so worth it.

[*Anya*]

1. I am a study in contradictions

2. Heart, soul, appearance & sexual identity are femme

3. I am warm, loving, nurturing, kind, sensitive & insightful

4. I am also inpatient at times and do not easily suffer fools

5. I am a recovering perfectionist & frequently fall off the wagon

6. I accept the human frailties of others much more easily than accepting my own

7. I need to be in control so much in my professional life, I crave being
able to give it up in other areas of my life

7. On the other hand, the thought of giving up control also scares me (even though "control" is really illusionary)

8. I become tearful at Hallmark commercials & laugh at silly jokes

9. I have many regrets about choices I have made in my life but work hard to accept that I did the best that I could under the circumstances

10. I dearly loved my dog Baby & miss her terribly. She was my first dog & I never knew that one could love an animal this much

11. I love looking feminine but must admit wearing<<disallowed word>>dresses or high heels really is not me

12. A former BF once said I was a cast-iron marshmallow (tough on the outside, soft on the inside)

13. I love to be fucked but have also been known to throw a good one myself if the stars and moon are in alignment & my partner so desires

14. The Daddy dynamic interests me greatly but also scares me (see number 7 above)

15. Writing all these makes me feel vulnerable & I don't know if that is a good thing or a bad thing.<<disallowed word>>

Honest? Too honest? That's also me at times.

I am femme.

[lillith]

I am rough around the edges. When I am nervous i either talk too much or not at all. I have a loud laugh. I am a mother, student, preoccupied with life. I would rather say, "Damn, what was I thinking?" over "Damn, that was a missed opportunity!" I am kind, gentle-hearted, but don't fuck with me or my loved ones. I swear like a sailor and am as tattooed as one as well. I love with all I have, and give until I have nothing left, and am resourceful enough to find more. I have my faults, but they are mine and I am not broken. I am Mommy and little girl. I am bold, maybe too much so. I have my opinions, but will thoughtfully listen to others, and can be swayed. My truth is mine. I am an author, literary critic, and a seer of the unseen. I cry at puppy dog, and baby diaper commercials. I am sensitive to your words and quips. I can change my oil, flush the radiator, change a light bulb, but scream like a little bitch when I see a spider. I will spend pennies on me and dollars on those I love. I am like no one else, but am like everyone else. I am me, pure and complex...me.

[girl_dee]

Right now the femme that I am feels very vulnerable and fragile.

and thats ok because, Tomorrow I will be solid and feisty.

[Star Anise]

Originally Posted by lillith

I am rough around the edges. When I am nervous i either talk too much or not at all. I have a loud laugh. I am a mother, student, preoccupied with life. I would rather say, "Damn, what was I thinking?" over "Damn, that was a missed opportunity!" I am kind, gentle-hearted, but don't fuck with me or my loved ones. I swear like a sailor and am as tattooed as one as well. I love with all I have, and give until I have nothing left, and am resourceful enough to find more. I have my faults, but they are mine and I am not broken. I am Mommy and little girl. I am bold, maybe too much so. I have my opinions, but will thoughtfully listen to others, and can be swayed. My truth is mine. I am an author, literary critic, and a seer of the unseen. I cry at puppy dog, and baby diaper commercials. I am sensitive to your words and quips. I can change my oil, flush the radiator, change a light bulb, but scream like a little bitch when I see a spider. I will spend pennies on me and dollars on those I love. I am like no one else, but am like everyone else. I am me, pure and complex...me.

I am the type of femme that can relocate that spider outside unharmed.