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02-04-2011, 08:34 PM
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Sorry , I hate to break the news to you, but it is not possible for humans to love unconditionally. It's a very romantic notion, and a nice fantasy, but it's not humanly possible. No matter how deeply we love someone there are always condtions of some sort, there is always a boundry, we simply do not have the capacity, not in our design. You can wish or hope or kid yourself, but it's just not possible.
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02-04-2011, 09:13 PM
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Oh i certainly believe in unconditional love....
I believe that if you truely love someone unconditionally, family...lovers...whatever, it just happens and not something that you necessarily try to achieve. Because it can possibly make things harder on you in the long run. IMO: It is either there or it isn't. Doesn't mean you have to even ever see this person again in your life, agree with them, approve of them or associate with them. But, if you have it for someone... you. just. know. it.
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Unconditional love is tricky... In theory it is possible for me. In reality - I am human.
I believe we all *want* to believe we have unconditional love - but always, when there are expectations in a relationship, the possibility of the unconditional love breaking is there. I believe I love my children unconditionally... However, if they were to harm another human being (not speaking self-defense) or rape a woman -- would I continue to love them unconditionally? Probably not. I would probably turn them in and they know this. Unconditional love would prevent me from doing the right thing (in this case.) "I loved you unconditionally." Notice the 'ed - How many times have you heard this after a breaking relationship? Or even said this? If you loved me unconditionally, then you would still be loving me with the same unconditional love you claimed. People by nature will place conditions on most everything. It is not a flaw or an imperfection - it just is. Or maybe I am just not so romantic to believe in the notion. I have never cheated on another person in my life -- Not because I loved them unconditionally, but because I loved them and respected them... But most importantly, because I love me and respect myself. I would not be able to do either, if I did.
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I believe in unconditional love.
My Mother loved me unconditionally. My Father did not. I love my daughter unconditionally even when she is being an ass. She's young. She's made some crazy choices, but that does not diminish my love for her. I tell her often that there is nothing ~ NOTHING ~ she can say or do to cause me to stop loving her......I believe there is a certain kind of confidence one gains when they know in their hearts that SOMEone loves them no matter what. That doesn't mean that I will always LIKE her...<smile> But I will ALways love her. There are several others in my life whom I love unconditionally. And they know it. |
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Yes there can be unconditional love as long as it's not abused in anyway just like many different levels of love.
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People often confuse love (an emotion) for behavior. You can love someone (emotion) and still leave them (behavior). You can (and people often do) love someone, despite the things they have done. You can still love someone who treats you badly, you can still love someone and be appalled at their behavior toward someone or something else. Loving someone does not mean putting up with their bullshit, or being okay with or forgiving everything they think, do, or say. Love is an emotion, and it can and does exist for some people outside of behavior.
"Unconditional love" means "I love you, no matter what". It doesn't imply love for eternity and it doesn't mean "I will always stay in a relationship with you, no matter what."
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No, not in my opinion, but this is my short and simple answer.
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