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Make promises you keep.
Make yourself easy to love. Make the one you love feel safe and secure. No matter what, make the one you love know she is a priority. Talk about everything, and be brutally honest, even if it's difficult. Treat her like a queen, and love her in all ways , always. Build a bond together that noone or no thing can come between . Apologize for your mistakes, make amends and do better next time. Then make amends again. Take responsibility for your actions . Validate her feelings by listening, stop what your doing, even when you're busy and pressed for time. Always make time for her needs , even if your tired ,injured or bored. Just a few things I always try to do when I love someone. It doesn't guaranty she won't still choose to walk away, but I don't think it hurts anything.
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04-13-2011, 10:23 PM
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Exactly what JAGG said! I would also add, Take time to understand what she's trying to say even if the words are not perfect sometimes to emotions and feeling make it hard to get em all right all the time... (well for me) assume the best, if you can't then just ask. Commitment is putting her first above anyone else except for a child. If it is best for you then it should be best for both of you. |
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04-13-2011, 10:55 PM
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Sometimes you just say it loud for all to hear
so I will hijack this for a moment cause I know desd will thread stalk me SHANNON I LOVE YOU NOW AND ALWAYS 
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04-13-2011, 11:12 PM
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04-13-2011, 11:23 PM
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Work for it.
Not that a relationship should be something that you toll at, nor is it something that you clock in and out for, but it's not something you can opt to show up for either. You're in it 24/7 or not at all. Be present. Take into consideration the consequences of your actions (or lack thereof) on your partner and adjust your behavior accordingly. Breaking it down biblically, do unto others. Treat him or her as you would like to be treated. Show respect. Earn respect. It's a mutually beneficial cycle. LISTEN and HEAR what is being said, whether it's about an opinion on where to hang a picture or whether it's about future goals for the relationship. Clean up after yourself. Chances are, you don't live with your mom still. Don't make your partner your parent. Give yourself and your partner some leeway. Neither of you are perfect. Allow for idiocyncrasies and mistakes and adjust your behavior accordingly. Never say no to requests for sweets and/or junk food. 
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04-13-2011, 11:36 PM
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Great thread, Sassy!
~Give Your partner respect. ~Give Your partner space. ~Give Your partner the best of Yourself. ~Give Your partner time. ~Give Your partner the benefit of the doubt. ~Give Your partner the last piece of pie. ~Give Your parnter consideration. ~Give Your partner safety. ~Give Your partner Your friendship. ~Give Your partner spontaneity. ~Give Your partner emotional support without being suffocating. ~Give Your partner advice in a loving way. ~Give Your parnter unconditional love. ~Give Your partner Your ferocity. ~Give Your partner Your open mind. ~Give Your partner Your heart of hearts. ~Give Your parnter forgiveness....whether they ask for it or not. ~Give Your partner laughter. ~Give Your partner peace. ~Give Your partner Your energy. ~Give Your partner Your word. ~Give Your partner honesty and Your truth. ~Give Your partner heart protection. ~Give Your partner Yourself. |
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04-14-2011, 07:40 PM
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Hey now, that's what I am talking about!
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04-13-2011, 11:37 PM
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oh yes you can so...you committed to your horse..so quit bellering..if you can commit to a horse, you can commit to a girl.
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04-13-2011, 11:49 PM
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Laugh together.
Be willing to compromise. Be willing to negotiate changes in your relationship if needed, if you want to stay together. Never let your partner forget you love them. |
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Try to see things from your partner's point of view. Try to respond to and anticipate her needs. Love her as she is and not how you would like her to be. Love her for WHO she is and not how she makes you feel. Celebrate all the amazing and beautiful things about her. Give her the space she needs. Give her the time she needs. Love her enough to let her go if that is what is best for her.
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hide the horse until the ceremony is over...
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when you are really angry with me....so angry with me...walk over and touch my face lovingly...so I know that even thru the anger you love me...that even tho we are angry, the moment is just a moment and not a rock that shatters the mirror upon which we look at each other....
and I...I shall do the same for you....
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The only things I would add would be support the dreams and goals the one you love has. Honor the accomplishments and mourn the losses with them.
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Stuff that has worked for me
Embrace and encourage individual interests and adventures for both yourself and your partner. You are not conjoined twins, by maintaining your difference you increase limerence and it helps keep conversation interesting.
Get away every once in awhile and have an adventure (esp in long term relationships). You need to get out in the world and see each other interacting with said world, this helps remind you why you love the person in the first place. Have sex in new ways and new places, resist the rut that leads to boredom that steals your heat. Have sex in a new room in the house, try a new position, shake it up. You don't have to get all crazy (unless you want to) but try new things. Do physical things together, wrestle, dance, walk, by connecting physically (other than sexually) it helps build new neural paths and strengthens your bond. When talking about emotional issues try to stay open and in the present moment. Really listen to what your partner is saying, even if it is hard for you to hear, even if you want to jump in and defend yourself, even if you think they are wrong, wrong, wrong. Just listen and support them, your time to talk will come and you will find the situation less combative if they feel genuinely heard and accepted. Both parties should practice this and believe me you will get better at it over time (it takes practice). Try reflecting back what you are hearing, e.g. "I hear you are frustrated because you feel like when I don't empty the dishwasher I am taking you for granted." Agree to fight fair, have ground rules and stick to them, better yet write them down so it can remain an objective touch stone. When you fuck up, genuinely apologize and make it right as much as you can. Remember no one is perfect and it is difficult to make changes. Remove the sawdust in your eye before you gun for the log in someone else's. Maintain yourself, your body, your mind, your spirit or soul, your credit score. There is nothing wrong with maintaining a little mystery and there is everything to gain by loving yourself and engaging in good strong self care.
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Read this thread.
Especially this post. Well said! Quote:
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