You look like "THAT"?!?!?!?!?!

[Soon]

I've met a few people from the sites, and I have wondered about this...but I do have pics, and I don't think my -- in person looks -- deviate THAT much! (of course i am not posting the pics that show too many flaws! lol)

But, my most important question (that I have), is, "Am I Like How You Perceived Me To Be?" -- in terms of my personality, attitudes, affectations, behaviour, etc.

Everyone that I have asked that question to, pretty much said, you are like your online-personna.

I'd like to think that what you *see* on here is *mostly* representative of who I am in R/L. (I think I am a bit funnier in R/L which might not come off b/c I post about some serious issues).


There are A LOT of members I would love to have a conversation with--pics or no pics--solely based on their awesome and open posts.

[Gayla]

I'm not much of a (gallery) perver so I rarely know what anyone looks like. The majority of the people that I've met, or seen pics of, after knowing them online for awhile have looked pretty much the way I have expected them to look.

Voices, on the other hand, have always surprised me!

I remember a very silly night, many year's ago on the dash site, when a group of us started talking about voices. The end result was a very long series of short phone calls and the in thread sexy voice poll that resulted in everyone getting the same number of votes. I don't think I've ever talked to that many different people in an hour!

[Words]

First time I heard Blue on the phone - this after a month or so of exchanging e-mails, chat, and so on - I squealed, ''Ooooooooooh, you sound like a girl!''

Nope, subtle is definitely not my middle name.

Words

[DapperButch]

I would LOVE to post a pic of myself, but I really can't due to work. Too much personal info. in my posts if someone came across it and then searched to read my posts.

I actually feel guilty OFTEN for not having a pic. I feel like it is unfair in some way to be able to see pics of others and them not see pics of me. Especially those I have a bit of a friendship with.

I wonder if there are others here who don't post pics for the same reason? Anyone?

[morningstar55]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

I would LOVE to post a pic of myself, but I really can't due to work. Too much personal info. in my posts if someone came across it and then searched to read my posts.

I actually feel guilty OFTEN for not having a pic. I feel like it is unfair in some way to be able to see pics of others and them not see pics of me. Especially those I have a bit of a friendship with.

I wonder if there are others here who don't post pics for the same reason? Anyone?

.... are there people at your work that are members here??? .......

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by morningstar55

.... are there people at your work that are members here??? .......

Not that I am aware of. But, there is certainly reason to believe (with the work that I do), that it could happen. The butch/femme community is only so big, and this being the main site out there.... I am not saying anyone would be searching for me, but if someone decided to hit the gallery...ya know? And then decided to search my posts...not so fun.

[~Bo]

Originally Posted by June

Not everyone needs to know everything about me. As it is, I think too many know too much already

I know that you have two vulvas.




I really think you should post a pic of them.

[JustJo]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

I would LOVE to post a pic of myself, but I really can't due to work. Too much personal info. in my posts if someone came across it and then searched to read my posts.

I actually feel guilty OFTEN for not having a pic. I feel like it is unfair in some way to be able to see pics of others and them not see pics of me. Especially those I have a bit of a friendship with.

I wonder if there are others here who don't post pics for the same reason? Anyone?

I think this is a genuine concern for some...at first I hesitated because I share a child with an asshatish ex-husband...and finally decided heck with it.

I always wonder (not with you specifically Dapper) if it's because some of us feel like our outsides don't match our insides....and we hesitate to show the outside til the inside is known. Hope that makes sense....I'm still on the first cup of coffee.

To back way up to Scoote's first post...and the examples of two people we're both rather fond of...I'd never seen a pic of Jake until hy friended us on FB. When I saw it, I had to do a brain re-wiring....cuz my semi-nerdy professor friend in my head doesn't match the biceps...errrr...I mean butch...that I saw.

And, for the record, I'm not really a petite blond princess *sigh*

[justkim]

I have met with some of the folks here and for the most part they match who they are here. Others I have spoken with on the phone and I usually get this from people... *I was expecting an accent...* growing up around military folks has given me a unique ability to be able to pick up a accent and roll with it, but for the most part my voice can be a bit scratchy and sultry especially if you catch me just waking up or heading to bed... I was told when I worked for a certain cable company that if that gig didn't work out for me I could always go to work for a 976 number...

[scootebaby]

Good catch on my sweeties part about Jake...He is a goodlooking fella just no glasses(as far as i know) or golden retriever

The Daywalkers and Luv i met back in our AOL days and they looked as i imagined....its once i got to the dash site and here that i started getting it wrong--maybe its an age thing or something

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by JustJo

I think this is a genuine concern for some...at first I hesitated because I share a child with an asshatish ex-husband...and finally decided heck with it.

If I wasn't so personal with my post about my gender identity and brand of sexuality, it may be different for me.

I always wonder (not with you specifically Dapper) if it's because some of us feel like our outsides don't match our insides....and we hesitate to show the outside til the inside is known. Hope that makes sense....I'm still on the first cup of coffee.

That is a good point. But, no, that is not the issue for me. I am very comfortable with/confident in, how I look.

----------------

[Scorp]

Originally Posted by DapperButch

I would LOVE to post a pic of myself, but I really can't due to work. Too much personal info.

Hmmm, you're right...I better take that pic of me with my ass hanging out, down from the gallery.