Single FTM's & Femme's

diamondrose · 05-11-2011, 06:01 AM

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Originally Posted by T D

Watched the documentary about Chaz earlier and I keep hearing those words "who will love me? Who's going to love a man without a penis?" I think this is something that a lot of transmen ask themselves. It's certainly a legitimate question too. I was especially relieved to hear Chaz say that being a man isn't about what's between your legs, which I also believe. It's about the person as a whole being, who they are, how they treat others, the whole shebang.

Yet another topic that Chaz brought up was about not getting to be a young man. I can so relate to that, hell I didn't even get to be a middle aged man. One of the things that was very difficult for me when deciding whether or not to proceed with my transition was whether or not it would make it more difficult for me to date or find a partner, and especially at my age. I have pretty much resolved to spend the rest of my life as a single person if it comes to that, but honestly, it's a sad thing when you think about it.... that one even has to consider whether or not they're willing to be unattached for the rest of their life in order to live in the body of and be the person they believe themself to be. Very thought provoking for sure.

I don't know, just seemed like an interesting topic for a single FTMs and Femmes thread.

Anyone else have thoughts about this?

I watched the Documentary about Chaz last night as well. I was very taken by the rawness of the material. Everything about it was well put together and well produced. I certainly agree with Chaz when he says that being a man is not about having a penis. I certainly will never know first hand the struggles and challenges a man, such as yourself (T D), goes through. I do know that as a stone femme, gender and my attraction to trans and stone butch doesn't begin with what is in their pants. Its about His personality, the man He IS, the mutual understanding and acceptance of two people, and the understanding of lives we live to feel whole.

morningstar55 · 05-11-2011, 10:15 AM

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Originally Posted by diamondrose

I watched the Documentary about Chaz last night as well. I was very taken by the rawness of the material. Everything about it was well put together and well produced. I certainly agree with Chaz when he says that being a man is not about having a penis. I certainly will never know first hand the struggles and challenges a man, such as yourself (T D), goes through. I do know that as a stone femme, gender and my attraction to trans and stone butch doesn't begin with what is in their pants. Its about His personality, the man He IS, the mutual understanding and acceptance of two people, and the understanding of lives we live to feel whole.

.. I ditto .. Cuddles..

morningstar55 · 05-11-2011, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by diamondrose

I watched the Documentary about Chaz last night as well. I was very taken by the rawness of the material. Everything about it was well put together and well produced. I certainly agree with Chaz when he says that being a man is not about having a penis. I certainly will never know first hand the struggles and challenges a man, such as yourself (T D), goes through. I do know that as a stone femme, gender and my attraction to trans and stone butch doesn't begin with what is in their pants. Its about His personality, the man He IS, the mutual understanding and acceptance of two people, and the understanding of lives we live to feel whole.

........... omg.. im sorry .. i think im having brain farts... im in 2 different single threads.... and well cuddlyfemme. use's same fonts.. and well .. sorry for the mixx up..

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jules5041 · 05-11-2011, 05:17 PM

Hi.

My name is Julie.

I am single.

Joe Mario · 05-11-2011, 08:07 PM

Agreeing with the others about being OK about being single right now, but still looking.
I didn't give a lot of thought about dating after going on T. There were a fair amount of single Femmes out there a half dozen years ago, where dating wasn't an issue as much as, even say, what I was packing in my wallet to afford the social opportunities which seemed to abound.

Generally speaking, I think the Butch-Femme Community has 'setteled down', if you will, as many have found their life-partners and don't circulate as much as in years gone by.
The crying shame of it for me is that I truely feel I am at my most sexually and athletically virile, but at the same time, I'm feeling a kind of aloofness that I attribute to the T.

Although I hate to 'waste' anything, the 'I'd really like to be dating, but it's truely OK not to be for now' feeling others have expressed seems to hit the mark for me.

Queerasfck · 05-11-2011, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Joe Mario

The crying shame of it for me is that I truely feel I am at my most sexually and athletically virile.....

Although I hate to 'waste' anything....

Me too!!!!

LotusFlower · 05-11-2011, 08:27 PM

speaking of dating ...

Are there good sites out there?

morningstar55 · 05-12-2011, 04:22 AM

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jules5041 · 05-13-2011, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by LotusFlower

speaking of dating ...

Are there good sites out there?

I would also love to know if anyone knows any good dating sites out there. The only one I have found is Plenty Of Fish, but there do not seem to be many butches in my area. Frown. I hate that.

05-11-2011, 08:07 PM	#5
Joe Mario Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Just a guy Preferred Pronoun?: 'He' will be fine. Relationship Status: happily involved Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NJ Posts: 57 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 55 Thanked 67 Times in 24 Posts Rep Power: 41800	Agreeing with the others about being OK about being single right now, but still looking. I didn't give a lot of thought about dating after going on T. There were a fair amount of single Femmes out there a half dozen years ago, where dating wasn't an issue as much as, even say, what I was packing in my wallet to afford the social opportunities which seemed to abound. Generally speaking, I think the Butch-Femme Community has 'setteled down', if you will, as many have found their life-partners and don't circulate as much as in years gone by. The crying shame of it for me is that I truely feel I am at my most sexually and athletically virile, but at the same time, I'm feeling a kind of aloofness that I attribute to the T. Although I hate to 'waste' anything, the 'I'd really like to be dating, but it's truely OK not to be for now' feeling others have expressed seems to hit the mark for me. __________________ Ciao, ~Joe Mario

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morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	mawning single thread dwellers nd peekers __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

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05-11-2011, 05:17 PM	#4
jules5041 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: do not disturb... Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: little rock, arkansas Posts: 226 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 280 Thanked 596 Times in 163 Posts Rep Power: 5414486	Hi. My name is Julie. I am single.